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im 13/f and my bf(15yr) broke up with me a few days ago. We had only been going out for a few days because he found out from my older brother that my mom said that i was too young to go out with him(but she did say that we could go out again when i get into high school, and im pretty sure that he still likes me). When he dumped me, i was really sad and im still upset. My friend and his sister keep telling me to get over him, but i cant and i dont want to. I think he might be avoiding me though, because he hasnt talked to me since the day after we broke-up. Is there a way that we can still be friends and forget about the breakup. I've already sent him an email asking him if he was ignoring me, if we are still friends, and that i was sorry if anything that i said had made things akward. I just want my best friend back. : ( Im almost positive that he dumped me bacause of my mom because the night before it happened he was flirting with me in front of his parents, my mom, my older/protective brother, and his sister. He was acting like he really liked me and that he was really happy/proud that i was his girlfriend. Please help!
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"...he was flirting with me in front of his parents, my mom, my older/protective brother, and his sister."
It's not the best idea to show much affection infront of your parents, especially at the age of 13. My guess is that your love show with him that night might have had a lot to do with how your Mom is feeling. Now, I'm not saying I agree with your Mother's decision, but I can see where she might be coming from. :/ At any rate, I'm sorrie for what has happened. I can just imagine how crushed you must be.
As for getting your best friend 'back', you never truly lost him. If he really cared about you ONE WEEK AGO, he STILL really cares about you NOW. You must realize that it takes MUCH more than a parent's say-so to shatter a relationship upon instant.
But, how long ago did you send that email?? (I know you asked this three of four days ago now, and I apologize for the long wait.) Taking how long I left you hanging into consideration, I say that if you have not heard back from him by now, you should make another attempt at contact. Is there any way you could go and actually visit him? Questioning him in person makes it SEEM like you care a bit more (more than it would seem online, that is). Also, it allows you to see his reaction to being put on the spot. Facial expressions are quite significant - they say a lot. But, if that's completely impossible, why not call him up? Anything it takes, really.
And should he make it clear that he does not want anymore contact between the two of you, I don't think it would be out of line for you to question his reasoning on that. Of course, keep in mind that he doesn't HAVE TO tell you anything. However, if he truly was to "happy/proud" to be with you, I don't see why he would turn your Mother's opinion into anger against YOU. It isn't YOUR fault that things worked out this way, ya know?
Just remember that like YOU have feelings, HE has feelings. So if he says that he wants to take a 'break' from you, I think it'd be best if you could find it within yourself to accept and respect his thoughts. Personally, I've always been one to believe that if something is MEANT TO BE.. it WILL BE.
Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go.
Know that I'm here if you'd like to talk further.
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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