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hii.. im a very confused person right now and im sorry if i bore u while reading this.. im 14,white. ive never had an actual boyfriend because for some reason every chance i have to be with a guy something holds me back. ive never really liked anyone. theres this new guy at my school, hes half and half not that that really matters. i flirted with him a lot because i thought i could never have him and i like going after things i cant have. well i found out he likes me now. everyone says i should like him, and i think i might, but that little part of me is starting to hold me back again. sometimes i find him attractive and sometimes i dont. me him my friend and her boyfriend are supposed to do soemthing tonight. should i brush that feeling off and go hook up with him? or should i do what i always do and pull back? please help me :/
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Oh, wow. I'm so sorrie I got to you so late. I know you had plans with him the night your wrote this, and I totally let you down. I'm very sorrie! If it helps any, I feel like such a turd now. :(
I know I don't know what happened that night, but if you could fill me in, that would be excellent. Now, I'm not sure if you would still like to hear what I have to say or not, but I figure what the hell.. it couldn't hurt, right?
I guess I'll start by saying that nooo you absolutely did not "bore" me with this question. I can tell you have a real issue that you feel very strongly concerned about, and I'd like to make an attempt to help you in every definiton of the word. Please know that you always have a friend in me. [:
I know what you meant by, "ive never really liked anyone." Welp, there's a first time for everything, and believe it or not, that's a very common problem. I have liked plenty of people over my years, but I recall a break point where about two years went by that I did not have the tiniest eensy weeniest bit of attraction to anybody anywhere!! It's more common than you might think. I think everyone goes through a little phase like that. It's just how the hand is dealt, ya know? It's really not even a bad thing, and it's certainly nothing to be ashamed of or worried about. It's just life!
And deciding your feelings for someone is a very personal and private matter. Your friends can make suggestions to you all they want, but you shouldn't ever let them put pressure on you. You really don't have to do/say anything which makes you uncomfortable, and no one feels FOR YOU BUT YOU, so it's entirely YOUR decision.
Allow me to quote you:
"sometimes i find him attractive and sometimes i dont."
I think that sometimes it's hard to accept and like someone whom you don't know very well. I say that if you feel even the slightest bit of attraction towards this guy you should definitely give him a chance. I think he deserves that much, don't you? I understand you might be shy, but think about what could be gained from a little bit of your courage and effort. You could possibly find a wonderful friend in this person. Now tell me, with just hearing that thought.. why would you ever want to deny such a thing?? Some people live their entire lives never finding true love and/or happiness, and life is too short to be spent miserably. I say to make the most out of it, and go for all that you can.
This is irony:
"i like going after things i cant have."
Prove it. :)
Go get 'em, Tiger!! I have complete faith in you, and I think you should too!! Don't be afraid to come back if you should ever feel the need. :D
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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