i give my boyfriend hands jobs but i dont think it works how am i suppose to and i have given my bf head but that doesnt work or at least i dont think it does how can i get better or do it just to make sure i do it right
blondebombshell33 answered Thursday May 5 2005, 8:06 pm: HAND JOB: Explore every square inch of his genital surface area. A man loves to have his penis worshipped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted. Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of the cock head, swirl around there, then slide back down the other half and end back down at the balls. The movements should be swift and smooth, without bumping or stalling. Now you're ready for some stepped-up action, but you don't want to suddenly lapse into a series of beatings, whackings, jackings and jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis. These include: the glans and corona, and the tender part of the bottom side of his penis.
Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out. Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar. Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he's loving every second of it. Now's your chance to be the one who plows ahead even though he's pleading with you to stop!
After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him how heavy they feel, how sexy they are.
Whatever you do, don't squeeze them! This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of the day. You might notice that one of his nuts hangs lower than the other. This is perfectly normal. Once you feel comfortable with the way his balls feel in your hand, gently roll them up the underside of his shaft. Depending on their size and the amount of room in the scrotum, they will most likely reach to half way of his penis. He will like the way this feels.
Now, let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in a makeshift goosehead formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your goosehead handhold over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds.
About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its natural lubricant. Pre-seminal fluid is nature's way of moistening the canal of the urethra so that the spermatozoa can swim more easily out of it; it also lubricates the head of the penis. An uncircumcised penis gathers up this lubricant within the foreskin and keeps the head very moist and slick. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft. Sometimes, its musky smell can be an aromatic aphrodisiac for you both. If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not a requirement, and it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time.
BJ: Making sure your tongue is dripping wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, very gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue and use your hand to spread the liquid around if necessary. A wet cock looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. Your left had meanwhile is massaging those balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails. You may also want to reach behind and underneath the balls to get to that ever-so-sensitive area just before the anus, or even to run your fingers over his anus very lightly. Since the muscles that cause erection originate back there, this will produce a reaction in his cock. After you've licked his shaft lots of times and it's all wet and hard, your man is going to start squirming with frustration if you don't start getting serious. A quick look up at his face will let you know when you're taking things too far. Teasing is great...to a point. A little experience in giving blowjobs will educate you as to just when that point has been reached.
On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don't stop. Continue your long, wet lick over the top of his cock, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, if you can, but don't suck the head yet. Now run your tongue around the rim of his knob, all the way around, making frequent passes on the tender skin directly facing you. This is where most men are the most sensitive, but not all men! That's one thing a good cock sucker has to learn to do, as soon as you're comfortable, that is. Ask questions. Each man is unique and so is his penis. Squeeze the shaft and see if some clear liquid pops up. If it does, dip your tongue into it and pull away. It will stretch with you and look fantastically erotic to your partner. Now, make like you love the stuff. Close in on that penis head like it was chocolate icecream and take the whole knob into your hot mouth. Hold it there. Listen to him moan. Now down quickly and take as much of his cock as you can get into your mouth. Don't worry, you won't choke. If you bend your neck in just the right way, you can take it clear into your throat. Stay there, with the cock down your mouth, for just a moment. Feel it inside of you. This can be almost as luscious as having one in your vagina. It grows on you. At this point you can do several things. This is one of them: Slide back up to the tip of the penis and flick your tongue against it. Your man will be getting antsy now, wanting you to deep-throat him some more. But don't let him bully you. If he had his way, it'd be over in two minutes and what fun is that? Moving as fast as he can handle it (don't let him come yet), slide up and down on his cock as if you're having intercourse. If he gets too close to coming, stop, or at least slow down. If you can't get all the way down to the bottom of his penis, you can cheat a little by using that right hand of yours to complete the sensation of deep throating him. It still looks as if you've got the whole thing in your mouth and still feels like it. You can also slide your fingers, made in an O-shape around the shaft, up and down with the rhythm of your sucking.
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