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Linda.
I just told him what u told me about him being honest and him needing to stick up to me to lemme know I'm wrong, that I need to respect him. He said, then respect me. I told him i needed his help he told me he didnt want to help I told him I cant walk all over him and he said when you do that i forgive you because i know you dont mean what you say! its called picking and choosing your battles.. omgsh help
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That's okay. That's perfect actually! It means you've done it right. You have communicated how you feel to him. He says he doesn't want to help and he forgives you when you say something you don't mean. Have you ever heard the phrase, "it will get worse before it gets better."? Don't be anxious about it. Don't worry about it. You have said how you feel and he has told you how he feels. Feelings aren't wrong, they just are.
And what he said about picking and chosing your battles is absolutely true. You SHOULD pick and chose your battles.
Okay an analogy....we'll do fishing. Someone takes out a rod and reel, sticks a worm on the hook and throws it into the water and pulls it RIGHT back in....do you think that person has caught a fish? It takes a little bit of patience, as everything in life does. There are consequences to every action. But it very rarely happens immediately. You have only taken the first step. Of COURSE nothing is going to be resolved yet. But keep trying to help him be honest with you. And keep being honest with yourself. Give yourself some credit. Be patient with him AND with yourself. You'll get where you want to be. You're doing great!
Linda
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