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What to do?
Hey, how are you?
I'm a 13-yr-old teenage girl, and I hope you won't judge me because of that.
In April 2004, I met this guy. He treated me with all the respect I deserved, made me laugh, and everything. of course we had our bad times, but they were nothing serious.
I am the type of girl that doesn't trust any guy, because I have been through so much with them, and when I met him, after the 1st month, I trusted him as if he was a longtime friend. I know you may think I'm too young, but I truly believe that I have SUCH STRONG feelings for him(won't say love, even though I really want to). We used to spend everyday at school with each other, and held hands on the bus on the way home, and even had our first kiss there. He didn't have to respect my wanting to take itslow, because he was the one who took it slow. Only after the first 2 or 3 months did we share our first kiss.
In December, his brother died and he had to move away. He still called and told me how much he cared about me, and how he didn't want to leave me. He said he would come back for me no matter what, even if he had to make his dad drive him to my house, just to see me, even if it's next January, when he'll be getting his license.
But as you can see, he's different from any other guy, and I do believe that he's stuck in my heart. It pains me really bad because one day we were cuddling on the bus, and the next day, he didn't come to school, I found out what happened to his brother, and I never saw him since, and I worry about how he's dealing with this, and I want to be there for him so bad, I cry ALL the time. I really care for him. Then I got furious with my mother because she wouldn't let me go to the funeral, where I could have saw him again.
My problem is, I think that this is too much for me to handle. the constant crying, and his brother was a good friend of mines too. I often wonder why all these things were taken away from people. I need to not get over him, I don't want to, but I seriously need to find a way to handle my feelings. I can't do it alone, and my grades are suffering. I'm thinking about counseling. Do you think that would help someone like me? I really wouldn't care what my friends think of me. I just need someone to talk to.
I feel the only way to solve this is for me to see him, and I can't wait that long. I just cannot do this alone. Please try to recommend something- anything! If it helps, I'll rate 5 for anything! Is there something besides counseling, because I've already talked to my mother, and she doesn't seem to care.
I'm really really sorry this was so exhausting for you to read, but that's just how serious this is to me. Thanks so much.
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Oh, wow hun, two things I'm sorry for: Not answering this for a while and for everything you're going through! It wasn't too exhausing for me to read. At the young age of 13, I could see why that would be so much to handle. I remember when I was 13 I had so much on my plate but it seems like nothing compaired to what you have to go through right now. I would definately reccomend seeing a counselor. Trust me, they can work wonders. I was seeing one for about a year and a half because I had major depression and I was suicidal. My suggestion to you is to try to go see a counselor. As for this boy I would say you should try to call him pretty much any chance you can get, and as for your grades slipping, if he's older than you, you can have him help you with school work so that way you're basically killing two birds with one stone. You can talk to you're mom about what you're feeling. You're mom may seem like she doesn't care, but if you really sit down with her and talk to her about how serious this is, she might understand. You should also take time out after school and during your lunch period to sit down with your teachers and go over things that are going on with your work. Try to set aside weekends once or twice a month just for the two of you to meet up and hang out all day, go to the mall, catch an early movie and get a bite to eat somewhere. I want you to keep this in mind: "Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a great reminder of just how strong true love can be." If you truely love him and he truely loves you, then you will overcome any obstacle that will get between the two of you. And I had noticed when you had said "I have SUCH STRONG feelings for him(won't say love, even though I really want to)" You could have said you loved him. Love is possible at any age. I was in love at 13, trust me, I know what it's like to be in love at a young age and then have pretty much everything thrown down the drain. My ex boyfriend broke up with me and I was completely in love with him. At least you still have him and he still wants to be with you. My current boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and it's hard not seeing him every day of the week like I was used to. But waiting to see him, makes every little thing in life worthwhile. You really need to try to talk to you're mother and ask her to take you at the very least once or twice a month to go see him. You two can do what my parents and my boyfriends parents do: Find a halfway mark between where both of you live, meet there and then you can either go to his house or he can go to yours. If you're mother won't take you to see an actual counselor, go and talk to the one in your school. Even talking to your friends helps so much. Having a group of friends to talk to is basically like one big therapy group, sharing problems and sharing solutions. I'm in hopes that everything works out for you and I hope you and your loved one will soon meet again. But please keep that quote I told you in mind. If you two can get through this, you can get through anything. I wish you the best of luck. If you need anything else, anything at all, please do not hesitate at all to drop something into my inbox.
♥Emily♥
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