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do technicalities matter
This is very messed up, so it's going to be hard to explain. Back in February I met a great guy. We went out, got serious, I lost my virginity, became best friends, we broke up. It's important to note that we broke up because I told him I love him. He freaked out and said he wishes he could love me but that he can't love anyone(It wasn't cold hearted, he even cried a little, which isn't normal for him).
After we broke up he briefly went out with a girl who didn't really talk much. My guess is that he was with her because he could just fuck her without any attachments. It killed me to see them together because he even admitted that he didn't care about her. So I told him that since I still felt like I loved him, I couldn't take him being with her. It was literally driving me insane. I told him to chose between me or her and he chose her. Later he broke up with her hoping that he could save his friendship with me and her.
Now I'm sleeping with him again, but we say that we're just friends. It's starting to get to me, though. I really feel in love with him. I have no desire to be with anyone else. I asked him what his feelings were toward me and he said he likes me a lot, and he feels like we can talk about anything, but it didn't really explain how he felt about me. I think he doesn't want to talk about any of that because he's going to college.
We both agreed that we're very screwed up, and care about each other a lot. Is there a way that I can figure out how much he cares about me? Should I worry about the fact that he doesn't seem interested in going out with me? It sounds sketchy when I read this, but when we went out things just got bad. Maybe we're better off this way. And it's not like he's romantically involved with anyone else. I don't know I'm just really confused.
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If you want to find out if he really cares about you, dont fuck him for a while and see if he get`s really upset. If he does then he`s using you for sex (which good be good or bad). And if he thinks it`s no big deal and still wants to talk to you all the time and seems interested in you then you know he really cares about you. Good Luck.
xO.Carrie
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Hmmm....it sounds like you really like this guy. If he says he likes you and like and yall can talk about anything then he has something for ya. You need to talk to him about yall realtionship. Hes probally afraid that if yall go back out that yalls friendship will end when yall break up. Plus the college thing, he might not want a realtionship when he goes, cause in college its all wild, paries, sex, and drugs. if ya need anymore help ask away. rate me plz*
--Julie
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I think you should just take what he tells you as exactly how he feels. If he says he doesn't love you, and "doesn't seem interested in going out" with you, then believe him. It may be painful, and you have my sympathy.
He says he wants to be friends, but also have sex with you ("friends with benefits"). I've never thought that kind of relationship was a good idea. I really think you would be better off looking elsewhere, for someone who does really love you.
I'm sorry if this is not what you hoped to hear, but this is what I think. I've given advice like this to other people, and usually got poor ratings because of it.
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