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virginity
I'm a 14 year old, and well I've never had sex. I've heard many stories about how much it hurts and all. tonight me and my boyfriend decided to do it, it all set up. but the only thing is that im a virgin, and before we hooked up i told him i wasnt. im scared for him to find out the truth. is there like a way of hiding it? i dont want him to know. im really scared. how much will i bleed? and how bad will it hurt?
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You shouldn't have lied to him, but I'm not here to answer for your moral decisions.
The bleeding that occurs when the hymen is broken is very little--not nearly as much as a period or anything of that nature, and it's sometimes not even noticable. As for hurting, if you're not a user of tampons, it feels much like that. It feels like a stab. You're shoving an object in yourself that is bigger than the opening, and that's the best metaphor I can give you.
It's not going to kill you and it will only be as horrible as you make it. It's not going to be very good at all, I can tell you right now, because it rarely ever IS for a virgin. It will also probably be over pretty quickly. After that point, you can roll up in a sheet and feel miserable and awkward, or you can cuddle and talk about something nice--because the sex is not going to be something lovely to discuss.
It's been the experience of everyone I know that it keeps getting better every time, but since you're young, remember to use a condom and be very, very careful. There's no excuse for getting pregnant.
Lastly, if you're a virgin and he's experienced, it will be obvious if you're a virgin or not. It just is. If he doesn't know anything either, it's just going to be clumsy all around. If your lie about not being a virgin is so important, you should maybe think about that a little, too.
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