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What can I do right now so I wont face heart problems in near future?
My name is Svetlana and I am 28 years old. I live with my old parents and take care of them. My dad is old and it hard for me to deal with his personality. Lately, he humiliates me and my mom, he is rude to us and sometimes screams at us. He forgets everything, always angry and never satisfited with anything. I understand that he is really old now and deals with a lot of pain, maybe even with depression but it's hard for me not to take his words and actions to heart. My mom also takes it to heart and I always calm her down, I'm like her psychologist. But I'm hiding my own pain deep inside and I cry a lot when no one sees me.I have severe anxiety and sleep disorder already five years. My dads dramas costs me nights of not sleeping or having serious panic attacks during day time. I am afraid that I might face heart problems in near future. My chest is already hurting sometimes when I worry or in stress. As an example, my sister who lives in Russia has severe heart and anxiety problems. In her 30's she was looking after her husband parents like a nanny, and as much as I know they wore hard people to deal with. No one really helped her or looked after her while she was assisting her husband parents. Since she had no support, she was hiding her anxieties and worries deep inside. Later when those people died she started not to feel well. She woke up one morning and fainted, her face got paralyzed and she could nearly stand on her feet. She was taken to hospital that morning and was diagnosed with heart attack. Doctor told her not to work physically and to stay away from stress. Right now she is on disability and spends all her time at home. I am worried about my health because me and my sister are identical and we have same problems with nervous system. Right now it seems I'm walking down her path. I'm afraid that I will be facing heart attack and disability in near future. Is there any hope for me not to end up like this just like her? What can I do in my situation?
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Heart disease is a very broad term for many things that can go wrong with the heart—in both adults and children. Narrow the focus to children, and the term still encompasses many different types of problems that range from a condition that has no symptoms and is never diagnosed, to a problem that is severe and potentially life threatening that is apparent at birth.
If you are looking for information about a specific disease and would like to know more about its symptoms, how the disease develops over time, and how it is treated, the list below is a good place to start. Some of the most common conditions are listed as either congenital (present from birth) or acquired (developed after birth).
Congenital Heart Conditions
Anomalous Coronary Arteries/Fistulas
Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome
L-Transposition of the Great Arteries
Anomalous Pulmonary Venous Return
Atrioventricular Septal Defect (AVSD)
Tricuspid Atresia
Truncus Arteriosus
Ventricular Septal Defect (VSD)
Coarctation of the Aorta/Interrupted Aortic Arch
D-Transposition of the Great Arteries
Pulmonary Atresia
Pulmonary Stenosis
Aortic Stenosis/Bicuspid Aortic Valve
Atrial Septal Defect (ASD)
Ebstein’s Anomaly
Patent Ductus Arteriosus (PDA)
Tetralogy of Fallot
Vascular Ring/Sling
Acquired Heart Disease
Dilated Cardiomyopathy
Rheumatic Fever
Kawasaki Disease
Myocarditis
Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy
Pericarditis
Endocarditis
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Your Dads issue is not due to age or neceesarily pain. I know we are all different when in pain, but we can still choose to not yell or verbally abuse anyone. Thats right, what your Dad is doing is verbal abuse which is as bad and worse than hitting abuse. People can not see bruises on the outside. My ex husband was verbally abusive. I finally left him but in the meanwhile, dealt with stress also. The stress affected my body whereas some people have stress affect their feelings and emotions and have mental issues. My stress caused all sorts of stress related medical issues, but I was young enough so it wasn't the heart yet. I left him before age 50, married again to a loving caring man. No stress now but having heart related issues, not heart attack, probably a hormone off which is being checked out as I write. I know that stress in a situation like mine was, will affect your health in some ways, just can't say how your body responds to stress and whether it might affect the heart, It may and it may not.
Lets say you did die, so how would your parents be cared for then? Whatever solution that could come about in that situation is best to start now so you are free of caring for them. Then you can visit but as soon as Dad starts his yelling again, this time, you can leave because they are either in nursing homes or have live in health care or day only nursing aides depending on their needs. I know that finance is an issue always. So check what government aide/help they qualify for and at the very least get some personal time away a couple days a week. I used to do that for a wife whose husband was at home, slowly dying, and needed half a day here and there to get away and that was government paid. This is the best I can tell you. Get in to see a doctor and let them know what is going on and ask also for a referal to a mental health professional. Your are a victim of verbal abuse as I was and I needed counseling. Everyone needs counseling when in or coming out of an abusive situation. They may be a help in pointing you where to check for health care help for your parents in home.
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You received what I think is a good answer from "solid avice...". I would only add that I strongly suggest you work toward finding away to move out and to live independently, yourself, because this situation is hurting you so badly.
Most communities have senior social services, including home assistance, referrals, guidance and support. start by finding out what's avaialble in your town and working with one of their counselors to develop a plan . You can find these resources in the reference section of your library, if you don"t find them yourself on line.
Good wishes and good luck,Dr. Stephanie
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Even if you have a twin it doesn't mean that you will have the same health issues. That said, there is genetics to consider. Stress will always manifest itself on the body or cause you to feel physically tense and uncomfortable. I have a strong feeling that this is what is happening now and that the sleeping issues, anxiety you feel and tightness in your body is related to that.
However, you can always see a doctor and tell them what you are concerned about and ease your mind. You have to tell yourself that your father isn't well and that's where his behaviour stems from. It sounds as though he has dementia and there are many forms of that.
I think what you need to do is reach out to his doctor and tell him/her that you have become the primary caregiver for him and your sister is disabled and can't help you. Tell them you are drowning and the stress is taking its toil.
They may be able to find you resources and people who can come in to help. You can also start searching for people on your own or offer a job to come in and care for him for how many days and hours you need at a time if you know of someone who can do it and needs a job. You shouldn't be expected to do this all on your own any longer. His doctor may be able to get you a personal support worker or nurse that could come in. You have to ask about what is available to you because there is a solution.
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