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How do I even say this😞. I’m 15, and I saw an old friend and and couldn’t quite grasp how I envy how she has the perfect curvy body. Among teen girls in school whether a friend or some girl I don’t even like,I have noticed and mildly accepted how much less of a voluminous body I have than them,every girl is more better than me if she is 1. perfectly skinny, with no breast or butt, 2. Has a little belly with big everything / and or perfect in all three areas.I already have low self esteem and won’t ever find myself settling for the body that I have (which I take as settling for less). I am even desperately trying to self diagnose myself as malnourished or some other explanation as to why I am so under developed, and am fully prepared to make money over the summer to order breast and butt growth pills. To which I don’t know how will impact my body, but I will dive headfirst into ingredients or impacts and whatever it takes to get where I want to. So what I’m asking is what do I do to myself should I go after what I want or find another path I need suggestions? I would much rather growth pills than plastic surgery in the future but I just need a second opinion. I also exhibit the passion to stay under 100 pounds for the rest of my life, and have intended to for no little than over a year. I did some digging online digging that wasn’t very helpful and don’t feel comfortable discussing it with anyone I know can offer up some other helpful advice without them becoming too worrisome about me. What could it be?
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I'll go ahead and let you know that I barely filled a training bra until I was about 20. I was really skinny when I was 15. But there were movies and girls around us that make us think we're supposed to be a full C-cup by sophomore year. Plus, all those girls that have shapely figures at 15 probably aren't going to keep them. I've run into a few girls I envied from highschool and I was thinner than all of them, and I'm a B-cup and proportionate, and from the sound of it, you're probably built the same. You may think you'll never develop breasts, but you're only 15. Give it a few years before you do anything as drastic as plastic surgery or hormonal supplements. And also keep in mind, NO TWO GIRLS are the same. You can't constantly compete with other girls or you will lose your mind. Just be patient. Plus, plenty of guys like skinny girls ;)
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There are two issues here.
One issue, is how you see in your mind what is normal and what is not as far as breasts and body tupe go and
the other issue is low self esteem.
I was once a teen, am a grandmother now but oh do I remember my teen years. I know for a fact that the great majority of teens, not just girls but guys too have low self esteem. Its just that most are good at hiding it and pretending so that you will assume your the only one. I missed a couple of my reunions but a couple years ago went to my 40th reunion where we were all 58, and I missed the last two. So I was surprised to see us as older adults, no longer pretending and just being shy,low self condifidence in the very people I all thought were brave, outgoing. We did two nights, informal followed by formal and at both, people stood around by their self or with just one friend and never moved around. I was the shy social anxiety type in school but curd of that and here I was, walking up to people to say Hi and start convo's. Only 3 girls were still very outgoing and what a teen would call a popular person. People are attracted to others with self confidence.
So since something like that can plague a person and hang around their whole life, its better to tackle that and get past it now. If you want the simple exercises to go through to gain self confidence, let me know by going to my column to tell me this. Any other way and I wont be able to send it to you.
Now on to the issue of how you see breasts. No matter your age, from puberty until death, the size, shape, type of nipples and areolas differ greatly in people and all of those are normal. They are variances yes but normal and not do to
disease or underweight or overweight. I don't know of a site that addresses curves or butts but I Know of a photo gallery for women filled with photos of just the breasts of women anywhere from 18 to around 30. This is supposedly a time when most have stopped growing but if we look back at photos of ourselves as teens and now as an adult of 30 or 40 or older, it is easy to see differences, our body continues to change, more slowly but there is change, we fill out more. For example, my second husband is a very hairy man, lots of it all over his body. He wasnt like that as a teen, not even at 30. It was age 35 or so before it started growing. He went from hairless to what I affectionately call the Sasquatch look.
Myself, in HS was 110 all the way and until I had my first child at age 27. Afterwards I was 115 until after the third child where I remained at 120 until I turned 50. In the last ten years or so, I have gradually gained weight and am at 130 now and am 5ft.2in. I have a short torso, aomw hipa and my butt in not the heart shapped kind you see on models but its a flat straight line across the bottom. However, That has never bothered men. Even in HS in a crowded hall, guys often slapped my butt and when I turned, there were so many people I had no idea who had done it. My breasts only got bigger during breast feeding. However after the last child, instead of going back to B cup, it went smaller to below an A. I now had clothes and bras that didn't fit. Cant remember exactly but it was around 3 to 5 years before my breasts got back to their normal size. For others, they stayed larger and for others, they stayed smaller or went back to normal. Speaking of normal, heres a link to a gallery of breasts with the submitter talking a bit about themselves. In many they have a boyfriend who loves their almost non existent breasts and they feel feminine and beautiful. Others say they feel worried a bit. Please look at it to see that women vary quite a bit. The reason there are no teen pics is because a teen is still growing and no one will do surgery for example until done going thru changes and at their adult size. This is a debate among teens who are transgender and want sex change operations done but the only thing a Dr. will do is prescrible hormone inhibiters when a child reaches puberty and wait on surgery until the body is no longer growing.
As for the growth pills, that doesnt work as you've already heard. In my case, I can tell you that my ex right after we married said he wanted me to grow a bigger chest, which is not possible, but I didn't know back then. He ordered breast growth supplements and tapes to listen to while asleep and many other things. Not a single thing worked. Then why are such products on the market?
Because there will always be people unhappy with how they look (mostly it is hereditary, somewhere back in the family line if you don't look like your Mom did at the same age) Products like this prey on those who want to look different. I was happy with myself but the husband wasnt. His wanting to change me in that way and many others when there was nothing wrong with me meant he really had chosen the wrong person to marry in the first place. SO now you know there isnt anything short of a boob job that can be done to change that. However I worked in a health insurance company and we received photos from doctors with pics of why someone needed a reduction due to back problems and pics of breast surgeries gone wrong needing repair. Yes, these weren't pics to get bigger ones but some were of women who had had the boob job and were now going to someone else to fix the scarring, lopsided, caved in, lumpy grotesque looking things that did not even resemble a breast and often, leakage or infections were part of the problem that made it all worse. So there really is no safe option to change how you look.
I want to take time to teach you how media is responsible for this image pressure on women today and also some males too.
Using women for example, back in the times before photography and film, there were only paintings and painters showed women as all having very small breasts and plump or rounded tummies, flat was not popular, nor big boobs. In the pin up girl era, they were extra curvy but in reality, also on a very big skeletal frame and big boned in general to carry all those curves. Then in the 60s I believe it was, a model nicknamed Twiggy brought in the popularity of skinny, twig like, anorexic almost appearance that was popular. No woman with big bones could ever look twig like no matter how much weight she lost because of the size of her bone structure. Then from the 70s on to present day, models, in movies, ads, etc. women became the standard shown to all, we grew up seeing this from infants, I know I did, but its gotten worse the last two decades. This standard is no more realistic than the others where one is supposed to assume that all women are supposed to look the same, instead of showing women in several different body structure styles. Yes, we do have the chubby to largely overweight women acting in shows and movies today but that is very little compared to unrealist imaging done today. Here's a terrific example that made it to a news channel because the change of the original model to the changed product has nothing realliatic about it.
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Just highlight that block and hit open and watch. You could always look at celebs with out and with makeup or retouched photos. In the retouched, all birthmarks, frown lines, wrinkles, blemishes, and other skin issues are all wiped away so that every single person has the exact same baby soft looking skin. Oily skin taken away, cheek bones created, mouth or nose image tweaked a bit and even my own reaction at seeing the before photos is that some celebs are extremely plain looking and wouldn't catch a second glance from me if I were to meet them on the street. Some I wouldnt even recognize because all I've ever seen is their made up face and hair. You are only 15 and likely changing slower than others. You are likely normal as the rest of us. I also looked younger than my age. We don't like it then but one day you'll be glad when youre 40 and people think you're the sister of your child of 20 or something like that. I still look younger than most my age tho theres gray hairs and wrinkles and saggy skin. I have seen people 10 years younger than me, assuming they are ten or more years older and am shocked when I discover they are younger than me. Also, the smaller a chest you have, you dont have to worry about big heavy boobs that due to the weight have stretched down so far they rest in your lap when sitting. I am not exaggerating here. I know a woman a bit older than me whose photo for dating site had one guy asking if the bulge in her lap was her stomach, I guess he thought she had a big belly and she had to tell him that those were actually her boobs. I met a gal in a burger King and have seen her several times. Shes in her twenties and looks very thin, almost too thin but I can tell shes healthy, just tiny like I looked in HS. Seeing that, I told my husband, geez, thats how I used to look and that is just too skinny. Thank God I continued to fill out after HS.
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Growth pills or other supposed pills or whatever you would find do not work. So don't waste money on anything like that. Plastic surgery would be an option when you are older, if needed. They won't do that until you are of legal age.
Your options right now are to just stop worrying about it. You will develop more as you get older.
Stay away from extreme dieting or taking anything sold over the counter.
My advice would be for you to get an appointment and discuss all of this with a doctor. They can tell you if there is a problem & then help you with it. I am going to guess though, that you are fine & will fill out & be a beautiful girl. Just have patience. Everyone develops at their own pace.
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