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poor kids in college
Hello there, I'm a female American high school student, and like most Americans, college is financially stressful to even just think about. I have great grades, a great track record, great school participation, and pretty much everything that should set me up to be an attractive applicant for colleges-everything except money, that is. It's pretty annoying to have to think about, but it's the truth. Obviously, scholarships are a thing and I am going to aim for it, it seems like even the cheap schools are an arm and a leg.
But this is all stuff I'll have to deal with. Another thing I'm worried about is being able to fit in, being able to enjoy campus life. To be clear, me going to college would be a first on both sides of my family. I lived in cheap apartment my whole life where we were pretty much staying on the mercy of our landlord letting us pay rent late, grew up around drugs, whenever we had what we needed it was due to questionably legal bullshit artistry on behalf of my parents-that type of stuff.
Ideally, I'd get a full ride scholarship. If that happened, I'm just worried about being socially isolated and stuff, or just not being able to afford hanging out with other students. Currently with high school, because I don't fit the stereotype for poor kids (stoner, trouble maker, not smart, etc) it leaves me in a weird place where I'm bougie to the poor kids and ghetto to the rich ones. I wonder if that would repeat itself, or if it would be worse.
Not gonna lie on here, I've deeply considered sugar dating for my college years in order to have fun. I'm a lesbian, I've only ever heard about it happening to straight ladies and gay guys with old men, though there's enough people in the world. Even if it's a college girl and not an older woman.
Am I worried over nothing? What's it like being the poor kid on campus?
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girl knowleg matter belive me peopl wont look up for yr money or anything else then yr knowleg nd yr mindb confident b smart . dont b ashamed of being poor . y are smartpretty clever mature nd wise . study hard dont look back .y ll got to college y can work in summer and have a part time job then . it s easy buty are complicating things littl bt try to look forwoad to thegood side of the things closing yr eyes wont let y see arround thing but opning it wll mak y abl to see nd think . if y need any more advices y can talk
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I can't answer all your questions, but I can put a bug in your ear about a possibility you haven't mentioned, a trade college. Those are not as expensive and there is a great shortage of workers in blue collar fields who can earn great money compared to both my daughter and second husbands daughter who both got degrees in fields you're told are booming, one as a doctor assistant and the other as a CG artist, computer graphics which is hireable for the flood of animated films that keep coming up and are popular. Neither one has found a full time job in their field almost a decade later. The one with medical training, never got a job in that field. She's worked Walmart type jobs, cashiering or loading dock. The one worked daycare doing nothing but changing dirty diapers all day long. Finally talked a tattoo artist into letting her create designs for him to tattoo. Its only in the last year she got a job very part time doing something with computer graphics and the rest of the time working as an apprentice in tattoo work, nothing to do with CG.
College is important but not at the cost of running into lifetime debt because of it. Imagine paying off a college debt and never having worked in your degree. I was appalled at reading an article of a woman in her forties who was in health care, high up, but she was still paying off the last of her college tuition, living like a poor person, driving an old junker and living in run down apartments because she could not afford more if she was also paying on her student loan.
The person who can put this best into perspective and is much more eloquent and informative in his speech is Mike Rowe who created Mike Rowe Works, a foundation that gives out scholarships to help people get into blue collar jobs. I have one of his interviews to share with you. Its long but all of it is very important. I was shocked to hear of a guy he met in N. Dakota who with his blue collar job working with machinery, earns over $100. an hour and was able to buy his house with cash and take care of all needs of his family. Not all may end up that much earned or homes paid for cash depending where in the country you are living or choose to move to for a job, but such things are more possible without high debt.
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and have a shorter interview by Fox business News with Mike going over the same thing.
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The cost of a college degree has risen so much faster and gone so much higher than even health care. Something is out of balance. So research carefully and do the math for yourself. Don't accept what someone is paid to tell you about how many jobs there are out there for fancy white collar jobs. He worked many years doing the show "Dirty Jobs" and all employers told him they can't find enough people to hire who had any training for their jobs. There has been a lack of employable people for so long that if you have a blue collar degree, You won't be hunting to squeese hopefully into one job that is your only chance, but you will instead have the choice out of many employers of whom you decide to work for. And I have a feeling that if one employer was crappy, you won't have to stay like others desperate to be employed, but you can leave and easily have a new job in weeks if not a few days.
It is something to consider. As for how college kids think of others, assumptions they come to, well they will still be as bad as grade school, middle school or high school because the frontal lobe of the brain responsible for being able to make good decisions, make good judgements and see ahead to possible outcomes of any action or words, well, its just not done growing, not mature until around the mid twenties as scientists have proved in teats done. If you don't believe that one, you can look up 'frontal lobe in teens' and read it for yourself.
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