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higher up employee
Im so in love with the higher boss then she just took a leave of absence to have a baby. when she comes back how do I proceed Im so excited around her.Ima man horney and married!
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If you're in love with your higher boss while being married then clearly you have problems with your marriage and should probably look towards solving those problems because you should be in love with your wife not your boss
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There is love and there is lust and men often confuse one with the other. They are not the same. However in using the word 'love' we describe how much we like something such as a favorite dessert. I love chocolate ice-cream. This would mean there is an aspect of that dessert I like . . .maybe I like creamy desserts, cold ones or am a chocoholic. Love and being in Love also are not one and the same. So I hate to say this because I am sure it will upset you but you are being led by your thoughts and feelings, allowing your subconscious to rule your awake life. The subconscious minds (SM) job is many. It keeps you blinking eyes, taking your next breath so you don't have to be mindful of those things. It takes over running everything while you are asleep.It keeps track of what you seem interested in, meaning what thoughts mostly occupy your conscious mind. It doesn't differentiate whether it is lawful or unlawful, good or bad, a good decision or could hurt you. It simply starts to flood your mind with thoughts of her, giving you more of what it thinks you want, even though she has a bf or husband since she's pregnant and you are married.
There is nothing wrong with sex and I am no prude but there are some things that need to be considered.
You say you are horney. So what? Every adult on the planet feels that at some point or another. Just because we feel it, does not mean we have to find a way to make it happen with a certain person. There is something called self control. You use it to keep your junk in your pants.
If she is not single, and you are not single, you hace no business going after her. So as to how to proceed, think hard about whether you want to be married anymore. If there are problems such as she no longer wants sex, one or both no longer feel desire for each other, but may still love each other as best friends, it is time to see a marriage counselor. This should straighten out your thinking to find what the real issue is and whether it can be fixed or not. Your wife needs to know and be given a choice to work on saving your marriage or mutually agreeing to end it. Yes, a divorce after counseling may still hurt but it won't be as painful as how she'd feel if betrayed by you sleeping with the boss or other women in time to come. Sure if you just don't give a crap about her feelings and don't care if she is hurt, then she deserves to get a divorce from you becaues not only do you think only of yourself but that is what is called being selfish, not thinking of how what you say or do will affect others, including your wife. So the only proceeding I recommend is talking to the wife, letting her know the thoughts you struggle with and whether or not you go to counseling or she decides on divorce, then once single you can do what you want. I can't regulate morality, that of your self or even if the boss was open to affairs. It may be you have a fetish for pregnant women. Let the fetish stay in your mind and not be played out in reality. If this is the issue, then make an account on Second Life on line, create an avatar and spend time explring this fetish there where you are not taking advantage of others in real life and destroying their lives.
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