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Harassed by special needs girl...
Before I begin, I'm not judging her for having special needs! So do I!
Back when I started secondary school (being from the UK), the girl (who we'll call Amy) kept trying to be my friend. I didn't mind all too much, and just let her be. Eventually, it got to a point where just being in the same room as her got annoying; she'd randomly burst into song and get angry when I didn't sing along, randomly ask me to say words (since I have a weird accent), stuff like that. And my bullying got noticeably worse, being called a lesbian and such. So, one day, I eventually outright said to her "I don't want to be friends," in the nicest way possible. She took it well, and agreed.
For a few days.
Amy kept coming back, saying "Can we still be friends?" "Are we still hanging out?". Eventually, it turned into blackmail, where she'd steal me or my friend's seat or steal something of ours and say "I'll give it back if you be my friend!"
Of course, I got tired of being nice. I feel guilty, but I started harassing her.
I suppose I deserved it back. The popular girls pretended to be her friend, so Amy would say things about me to them. Even stupid things, like "Clover's laughed at something,".
How do I get this to stop??
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YOu already did what you should, tell her you don't want to be friends anymore. So there is nothing more you have authority to do. But school officials have the authority to talk to her. Your own parents have the authority and responsibility to make sure that you are safe and in a happy learning environment. As long as Amy is acting up like this, you will be miserable at school. So your parents need to know and they would need to talk to the principal of the school. If you are special needs as well, and it is a special needs school, I am sure that with special needs kids, that problems do come up, it should be expected in that type of school. So it wouldn't be odd or seen as a bad thing to complain to principal and all athorities be aware and do whatever they do to help a special needs child change their behavior for the better. What she is currently doing is bullying and that isn't even tolerated in regular schools. If this is a program at a regular school where special need children are allowed to attend, then again the principal needs to know. Tell your parents. If they won't talk to the principal, then you do this directly and let the principal know you told your parents but maybe they didn't think this was seriously happening and not a made up story. As to your harassing her back, we all do things like that. We would't be human if we did't respond to our anger emotion ever. However it is good to be able to realize we could have handled a situation a better way. So if you learned by what you did, you have no reason to feel guilty any longer. Once your parents and the school authorities know, no matter if public school or special needs, they all can take care to make sure this does not repeat. You deserve a happy stress free learning environment. And it is very important because things like this can eventually distract your concentration enough that you do poorly in your grades and that is something these adults do not want to see happen. So talk to your parents and if they don't take you seriously, and won't step in, then go straight to the principal yourself.
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