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is something wrong with me ?
i'm not exactly happy when i get what i've been wanting from a long time, be it a material thing or just ordinary stuff like my favorite dish that i've not had in a long time. i noticed this often and i don't expect much satisfaction before getting it and yet i kinda feel empty inside.
things that were/are special to me doesn't feel much special anymore
like a song that i like a lot and haven't heard in a long time doesn't feel the same when i hear it
the intensity of it's effects that was before is now gone,and it's not just a song it's about most of the stuff
i wanted something from like 2 years and i recently got it and i wasn't exactly happy
i was like "oh.. ok..."
i mean i wanted it so bad and when i got it it felt empty !
Thankyou for taking your time in reading this !
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I get it. Same thing happened to me. I wanted something back in 2013, maybe even a little before that. I finally got it around late 2017. Similar response. I don't know, maybe our lack of interest is due to us changing (our priorities changing)? Maybe try exploring new interests instead of revisiting old ones? If that doesn't work out well, then go back to your old interests but try alternative options. Ex.) You got bored of playing acoustic guitar? Try bass. You got bored of your usual playlist? Try a different genre.
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If it isn't depression as you've been instructed already to check into, it could be something very common and something most people do not ever think about. It's all about feeling loved. Whether you are a child, teen or an adult, we all have the need to feel loved. Most people when they want to show love, will do so by doing the very thing that they require to feel loved. Giving of gifts, or receiving the things you've wanted, may make some people feel loved. But others may not and that would be because of something called Love Languages, and yours differing. I'll explain in a minute.
You also mentioned songs later not having the same significance for you. While there are one or two where the melody alone can raise my spirits, I often find that the song I played lots as I was experiencing something in life, like for example when I left my husband in divorce and decided to continue on with finding a new relationship and the words of one song kept encouraging me to follow my dreams of meeting someone new. Now, the words do not mean the same, the feelings connected with it, no longer qualify but I enjoy listening or singing to it. Its okay to no longer feel the same when I hear it. We grow and we change over time, hopefully all to be a better human so it would be scary actually if the same song applied and meant something for your entire life cus it probably means you are stuck in a rut and haven't progressed or changed or improved as a person at all.
Now about love languages, there are five. Giving of gifts is one. The rest are quality time, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch.
Physical touch will differ depending if a mate or a parent. Touch needed to know you are loved as a child would be cuddling on the couch, a pat on the back, kiss on the cheek, maybe taking time to brush your hair. Often people will have two of these that mean something to them.
It may be easiest to get this message across in a you tube video. But you can find on line tests with multiple questions to determine both of your love languages. Here is the link:
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and once you have watched and determined which way makes you feel loved, I am betting that recieving things you wanted, is not one of them. If you discover that love language is not what is having you feel lack of emotions, then it could be some kind of dsyfunction for a professional to help you find ways to deal with.
You did hint that it used to not be an issue in the past when you said "things that were/are special to me doesn't feel much special anymore"
Even a professional will be asking you what changes have occurred in your life around the time things didn't feel special anymore. It may have been moving, to a new state, a new school, a new job, whether you made the decision or were forced to go along (being a minor). Big changes like this, whether not wanted to begin with or you discover after the fact that you don't like the new city, you don't like the new school and can't make friends cus the teens are different or the new job sucks. It's very possible that if you had to make a big change in your life that you didn't like and still don't like, that is enough to change how you feel about everything. It colors how you view and experience anything you liked before. So start thinking about what it is and if you can not get your mind around understanding and accepting whatever happened, or if its something that can't easily be managed with just choosing to change how you view it, then you may want to see a professional. More of mental issues are something that comes from distorted or negative thinking compared to those requiring medication. So if you can't shake it by choosing how you view your situations in life, time to see the professionals.
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While we are not doctors and cannot make a diagnoses. What I suggest you do is make an appointment with you doctor for a full physical with a screening for depression.
What you have written hits several of the symptoms for depression. For a proper diagnoses you need to be tested by your doctor. The physical is to rule out any organic problems. The test for depression just your doctor asking you some question. Answer them honestly for a proper diagnoses.
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