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Do you think she blocked me or just deleted her whatsapp?
So there’s this person in my class long story short we had an exam coming up and she’s the only smart person I know in my class because my friends would come to me for help and I couldn’t go to them for help cause they don’t know anything. So I asked this girl she was nice in the beginning but then the day before the exam she was responding rudely saying “I’m not home, ask somebody else etc” so I told her “I did ask other people Andrea they don’t know anything” then I told her it’s okay I’ll figure it out myself (cause clearly she didn’t want to help) then she said okay remind me tomorrow about it and I’ll help you. The next day I didn’t even bother messaging her but when I got on to ask her when she was going to be at school, he profile pic was gone, her last seen on whatsapp was gone and my messages wouldn’t deliver. I asked my friend to check if her whatsapp looks like that to her too and she said yeah. But I don’t know if she’s blocked both me and my friend or she deleted it. Cause last time I messaged her for help all she did was leave it on read and came to school saying “sorry I didn’t feel like responding to anyone” or should I just ask her but I feel like I’d be annoying her?
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There is no way I can tell you for sure if this was a coincidence or if she deleted her account or blocked you and someone else.
Hopefully I can help you by asking you to turn the tables of this situation, and put yourself in her place. This method of gaining answers often gives you a better perspective to whats going on with another person.
So I want you to use your imagination. Think of yourself as having always been the smartest person in your grade. Being the smartest person, how many people would be asking for your help? Always only one or two? 5 or 6? More? What would there be in it for you? How would you gain by giving of your own time to help any person who ever asked and never turn anyone down. And lastly, how often would you be asked for help by any people? Would only one person ask once a quarter, or once a semester? Thats not too tough, right? What if you were actually being asked to help with each new assignment the teacher gave out. And not just one but more people? I don't know about you but I never was the smartest in class yet I can imagine how I would feel.
I would feel like a glorified unpaid tutor for dozens of people. I would wonder if people really wanted to be my friend or only want me for the help I can give in school lessons. I would also probably feel a bit 'used by people'. I would feel like my own time, private time was being eaten away at by all the people I did decide to help. I can easily see myself just cutting off contact with others simply because i get burned out by always helping others out. So in answer to your question, I would feel like someone was annoying me if they persisted in asking for help when I decided i no longer wanted to. I might not have the guts to straight out say, sorry I no longer help others with homework.
So its very possible that she has been making excuses all along, hoping people would back off and stop asking for help. It is also very possible that whatever social media most of the help askers were on with her is the one she chose to close or block those who ask.
It is her life and her right to decide whether she helps or not.
If you think this is a bit too harsh, then think of a person whose profession is counselor or psychologist. And everyone they know or even strangers her friends know are told to contact her to ask for help. If she simply helped every person simply because they know each other or are friends and does so for free, she would not be earning a living. She has a gift for counseling but earns a living doing that. She has office hours and appointments and time would be a conflict also when she is with a paying client and friends are calling or showing up in person to ask 'just a quick question' which translates as, 'since its only a short bit of time, I shouldn't have to pay you for it.
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