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Age difference
23/f
So I'm a flight attendant. Me and my ex broke up a couple months ago.
I'm now out of a complicated, stressful, unhealthy relationship and I'd like to thank everyone who helped me out on here :)
Ive been on a few dates here and there.
Now a pilot has asked me out. He's 33 and I'm 23. That's a 10 year age gap. I talked to my friends, coworkers and even my dad. My friends and coworkers have told me to at least go out to dinner and see if I even have a connection with him. My dad told me to be careful if I do decide to date him.
Makes sense. I've heard my fair share of cheating pilots lol.
Is 10 years too much of a gap? Am I over thinking? He's cool so far. But it makes me worry a little bit, like in my opinion older guys might either want to settle down faster or not settle down at all. And both scare me a bit haha.
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Lets discuss the age cap first. IF you were 13 and him 23 that would be a big red flag. Your not 13 you're 23 and an adult. Age at this point is nothing more then a chronological number If there is such a thing as a standard age difference between a man and a women it would probably be about no more than 5 years. The heart though knows from no age, it only knows what it experiences and falls in love with.
A ten year difference is not a big deal there are many women who have dated and married men of even greater age differences some as old as their parents. What really matters is what you think. If the age difference bothers you then tell the pilot no thank you and explain you don't date men of his age so he understands.
If the age difference doesn't bother you then after making sure he isn't married and just looking for a layover girlfriend with benefits, then date him. But do so with the understanding that a night on the town for him will be different then for you because of the age difference.
At 33 he has done the party thing and bar hopping. IF you fly with him on a layover when the copilot and the other crew members may go bar hopping he may want a nice dinner and a movie. If you both live in the same area a date may include hiking, camping, sightseeing, dinner and dancing or just staying home and enjoying a nice dinner and each others company. This brings up the question should you find yourself falling for him are you ready to settle down and give up the party life a typical 23 year old enjoys.
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Although older guys are generally thought to be more focused on settling down this does depend on each individual. The things you have heard about pilots is also something I have heard many times from many people that I know who work at the airport and this alone may be a reason a pilot may not want to settle down or commit. However, each person is different and I think someone who is looking to eventually settle down is a better choice than someone who never wants to but this is something that can be discussed if and when things got to that point. It's not really something to worry about at this point.
I would say go for it and see what happens. I don't think the age gap is an issue at all (you're both adults so it shouldn't matter) and go on a date and see how it goes. If you think there might be something there or even if there isn't at least you will know for sure. :)
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