|
In general please help. Baby,college,career path
Hello, thaks for your help. Ive made pros and cons lists for years about which program in college to stick with and when to have a baby. Ive always wanted to do the masters of Occupational therapy but got denied twice at a top school nearby. I have a good chance of getting accepted to a college thats 1 hour and 20 minutes away but it is monday through thursday 8 to 530. I want to have a baby asap because I am 27 and have lived together with my boyfriend for 6 years. Ive been putting off children for school because I have bipolar disoprder that spirals into mania if i dont take my medication and get too stressed and i cant handle a program with those hours and a child. Thats the masters of OT ill, be done in 2 years because i already have my bachelors and ill be done with school forever after that. On the other hand I can do the assistant program of occupational therapy its more flexible and I can have a baby its only 2 classes a week for 2 years but then i definitely want to get my masters in OT and have to work for a year first if i do the assistant program then 2 years of online work for the masters. I dont know if i should do the assistant program now and have a baby then do the Masters later or wait another 3 years to have a baby but ill have my masters and ill be finished in school. aI say 3 years because both programs start in september 2018. To throw a curve ball i like nursing but hate the hours they make more money i would be able to support myself and a child on my own with the assistant in occupational therapy degree ill make 40,000 to 58,000 with a masters ill make 80,000 and with nursing ill make 60,000 to 67,000. If i do the nursing program that also starts next year and would be able to have a ch8ild because i took all the classes except 8 nursing classes as well as for the assistant in ocupational therapy program i would have only 8 classes left but they would both still take 2 years
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
You mentioned bi polar and not taking meds consistantly. I have a sister just diagnosed with bi polar. She know what it was like to live without medication. Now that she is getting it, she feels like a new person and can handle things that used to stress her out too easy.
I know this isn't what you wanted to hear. But all your decisions and difficulty in deciding what to do and getting stressed about it all comes down to one root problem from which all the others have sprung up. So it would seem that to take care of the root problem would solve your other dilemnas.
Since you are not taking your medication regularly, all you need to do is set your cell phone with a reminder that rings at the time of day you need to take it As long as you have your medication on a reminder ring each day and your phone close enough to remember, you should be able to take it regularly. That will help calm you and you should be able to have a more relaxed clear mind and attitude about what you want to do.
If you had mentioned the bi polar first, you would not have had to write in several times.
Don't think this is not important. As adviceman said, if you do have a child and fail to take your meds regularly, CPS can and will take your child away. I can say that all literature on what their protocol is points to the fact that even if a parent has mental illness, they believe a child should be with a parent as long as the parent is taking their medication regularly. I discovered this very recently through extended family that hade that issue. The kids were taken away until the parents took parenting classes, saw a psychologist for a series of meetings and could prove when checked up on that they were taking their medications regularly. Both have mental illness.
So it is important for you to do things in the right order. Take care of your self first and then you will be able to take care of a child and have an easier time deciding what to do.
This is the last time I will answer you because if you can't follow through on the advice you are getting here, it is just a waste of our time to keep telling you the same when you won't heed advice. If you are so mentalled wigged out that you can not even comprehend what I and adviceman are telling you, then it may be better to show our answers to a family member and ask them to help you get your life back on the path.
]
I;m sorry you didn't like the answer I gave you yesterday. It was and is good advise. I have a very good friend who is bipolar. We have seen her at both ends of the spectrum and it is not a pretty picture. When she is manic she goes on buying sprees'. When she is depressed she can barely take care of herself.
I don't know you and I don't know how serious your illness is. What I do know is I have seen my friends illness go from hardly noticeable to the point she now lives with friends who are her care takers. As far as I know she was very good about taking her medications; the people she worked with saw to it.
My concern when reading your question was for the safety of you and your baby. Since that is utmost the only good answer was to suggest you speak to you medical professionals. This is not something to hide from them especially if you already know that they disapprove.
Bringing a child into this world is a heavy responsibility. Should you have a manic episode Child Protective services could very well petition the courts to take the child from you. While this might be good for the child it would be horrible for you and your illness.
I don't have a crystal ball I can't predict the future. What I do know is statistics and they are not in your favor. I don't want you to be hurt or a future child. so please before you make a decision to have a child talk with your medical professionals and see what they think.
IN the end though it is going to be your choice as it is your body. I just hope you make the right choice.
]
More Questions: |