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Can people sense that you are insecure?
I thought i was pretty good at faking being confident, i can walk with my head up high and i can give people eye contact and sometimes smile at strangers. However, one of my managers sensed it right away that i was insecure she also thinks im sad inside (which i was depressed for 5 years now im just lonely) and my voice is pretty monotone but thats what happens when youve been depressed for so long so whenever i talk my manager says i sound sad. Ive tried talking with enthusiasm but people always think im about to cry when i do so i just talk normally which is monotone. My neutral face is either resting b face or its a blank expression is what ive been told from people who look at me. My manager even told my sister that to boost my confidence i should start wearing makeup because that helped her boost her own confidence. So can people actually sense that somebody is insecure?
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Yes, this can be sensed. Humans have the ability to pick up on non tangible things like this. Most of them don't know that they are actually picking up on something. All they know is they form an opinion of a person based on tangible things, things they can use the 5 senses to pick up on like seeing your face, hearing the monotone. Haven't you ever had someone pretend to smile at you but your gut reaction was, 'That was sooo fake, she just pasted on a smile and is not really interested as she pretends to be'. I've seen fake smiles. It's a smile that doesnt seem to reach their eyes. Most of what we pick up on is subtle stuff, body language, and it all happens at a subconscious level so most are not even aware what they are picking up on.
There were tests done, I read an article on it, a room full of volunteers who didn't know what they were volunteering for but believed it was for something other than they were being watched for. Observers noticed while people waited their turn that men gravitated to approaching the models types but when they discovered low self confidence, lost their interest. In the end, only the average to plainer looking women who had a strong self confidence where able to attract all the men. End of story, they may not know why they were attracted to the self confident ones but self confidence in a woman is like a aphrodisiac to the men. It's more than just men though hon, just people in general want to be around someone who seems fun and outgoing, good company, because I myself don't enjoy being around someone who is a downer and will drag my feelings of wellness down the drain. Most people don't and will subconsciously avoid those with low self esteem.
I once read in a woman's magazine of a trick to use to gain self esteem. Worked for me. But that's not what you asked. You only wanted to know if its possible for people to pick up on it. If you would rather remain low self confident, and want to know how to fake it better, then I can not help you. If you want to stop pretending and take a good stab at applying yourself and following an easy trick to see if you can boost self confidence, then let me know and I will share it with you. But don't say so in the rating spot, go to my column and write to me from there if you answer.
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There are times people pick up on certain signals that tell them something is wrong. Your manager just happened to hit on the right one although from what you write the signals lean more to the point you are still suffering some form of depression.
Did you get professional help with your depression with talk therapy to find the root cause or did your family doctor just prescribe medication. Medication alone will not cure depression.
Everyone gets depressed from time to time. People like you and me suffer some form of depression that never goes away. For most of us we suffer clinical depression caused by a lack of one or two hormones secreted into the brain that control are emotions. Medication best prescribed by a Board Certified Psychiatrist, no we are not crazy, because they are best trained in this area than a general practice doctor. Will lift the vial of depression. TO get at the root cause of depression takes therapy, talk therapy with a social worker or psychologist.
Clinical depression is usually deep seated something you are not even aware of that you have built a wall around so as not to hurt you. what happens is a sound, smell or something triggers a release of that deep seated something which causes anxiety. Anxiety cause anger and anger cause depression which causes anxiety and the cycle repeats itself and you end up unable to climb out of the depression.
IF you have not been treated properly for your depression the you need to get proper treatment in order to overcome the manifested problem with confidence.
I'm not a doctor but I have been through a deep depression and I know what triggers my depression and what to do when it happens. This is what you learn in therapy.
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