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How to get back to the way i was? and make friends
I dont know what happened but in elementry school (its kindergarten to grade 8) i used to be so funny,outgoing (very unhappy on the inside tho), had a lot of friends both guys and girls but i was also very quiet and shy at the same time. I was popular for being the quiet girl but who was funny. Anyways high school started and i think i made the worst mistake by going to the same high school as the people i grew up with because i know people can be judgemental but these were probably the most judgemental people ive ever met and are part of the reason why i was unhappy in elementry school. Anyways high school started and its like i snapped, i couldnt talk to boys anymore or people in general without feeling awkward this resulted in having no guy friends in high school. Long story short the friends i have now from high school are the same ones i had in elementry school because i barely made any new friends in high school. I became even more shy than i was and im not very outgoing anymore, one of my high school teachers in grade 12 told my sister she is more outgoing than i am and she likes my sister better. Whatever. My question is how can i get back to the way i was? And make more friends, preferbally some guy friends without being awkward I know you arent always going to be the same person but im always so serious and the people im around arent funny to me i always have to fake laugh, pretend im interested etc because i cant find people i fit in with. Im in my second year of university, i commute to school and first semester is almost over so far i havent made any new friends outside of class.
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Pre hormone and your hormonal changes would coincide with about the time you began to experience difficulty. So if all of a sudden you find it hard to talk to guys, it is due to seeing them differently than when you were younger. You may have recognized young boys as cute but the awareness of males as the opposite sex and feeling attraction more like the sexual kind s possible now. Even if not sexual attraction, it does feel different because guy are now looking for girlfriends or at least female friends to chat with and learn what teen girls like and how to talk to them. You are not the only one who feels awkward or different or maybe even insignificant because a high school usually has kids from many different grade school and middle schools. Some kids that seem outgoing and unafraid and confident, are only good at hiding that they aren't really doing that good. that is what I found out at my recent 40th HS reunion. We are now the age of grandparents. I was surprised to learn that those who I thought was confident and extroverted in HS were not so much at reunion. i can count on my fingers how many were really outgoing at reunion. I was extremely shy in HS and found I was the one approaching others who stood around not talking to anyone, afraid to.
You want to meet people outside of school that yu have things in common with so i suggest you look up meetups.com It is not a dating site. This is a place where people like you go to meet others they have things in common with. some groups are already formed and you can join or create one in the field of interest you have if it doesn't exist in your area. Basically whatever hobby or favorite activity or belief system, you can find local groups of people who meet once a week or every other week. I ave even seen moms with babies strolling club. they have a pot the meet, walk the kids and afterwards go to a coffee shop together. Theres groups of board game players, yoga lovers, those into natural health and foods,people who love cats, dogs, doing jig saw puzzles, etc...whatever you can imagine, it exists or is waiting to be created. I have used it in my city. This is what I have. If you think its something eles, let me know. I used to have social anxiety real bad and have a document to share on how to overcome it. Just let me know if that is the case
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