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Miss my teacher
In college, I had a teacher who made me feel emotionally protected and hugged me a lot. Then I graduated in May. I won't be seeing her again any time soon. Each day this summer I've become more distraught over this fact. I miss her more every day and feel as though no one will ever love me that much ever again. How can I get over this? Do I want to get over it?
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Everyone needs to feel emotionally protected and loved. This is not something to get over. However, not every person who comes into our life is there forever. Some come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Since the teacher is no longer in your life, I'd have to say it was for a season, meaning the period of time you were in school. Maybe all she was in your life briefly for was to show that there are people in this world who will treat you this way and to show you that this is something you need to strive for, finding perhaps friends and a life partner who fulfill this for you and you are their emotional protection and love as well.
If you continue to look over at your shoulder at the past and continue focusing on what it was like in the past, you will miss your current life. It will fly by empty and unrewarding because your gaze and your heart was too busy on the past and therefore you could miss the person or people who come into your life after college who may be as great or better than she was to you.
IF it helps, examine your thoughts such as "no one will ever love me again". We all do distorted thinking at some point in our lives. But some people get stuck there and believe these thoughts whole-heartedly which can cause depression and hopelessness. So what is wrong with that thought. Have you figured it out? It is something I have heard a psychologist call 'all in one thinking' or 'predicting the future'. So unless you have the psychic skill of foretelling the future, you do not know for sure that this is so. If uou counter that with saying, but I know there are others like me who said the same thing and no one ever loved them or cared about them the rest of their lives...then I have an explanation for that too.
Your subconscious mind, or subm. for short, is always listening to what ever it is that a person focuses on the most often. Some of us focus on good stuff, and some focus on bad stuff The problem is, the subm. does not seem to understand that and figures that whatever we focus on the most is the most important to us. So the subm. will cause your conscious or awake mind to make choices that puts you in a position to fail getting the emotional support and love you say you want because you are too focused on the loss of it. Thats what is taking up all your attention, nothing in current time is, just the past. So beware, as your subm. most likely will interpret this as you never ever wanting to have that kind of support and love again...and will cause you to make choices or omit taking chances, and you will then be just one more person who lived out their life, always sad, unloved, not supported.
So you need to stop looking at the past and every time you catch yourself thinking the thoght that no one will ever love you again, capture that thought and tell yourself that it isn't true. That you will find love someday. Negative thought occur more often than positive ones so you may have to banish that distorted thought several times per hour but it should get better over the coming weeks. It is hard work to retrain your mind. If you find you can not do this, the only answer lies in seeking professional help. Once you are no longer plagued by the past and current distorted thoughts in abundance, then being open and ready to recieve, the right things and people will come into your life for the season or the lifetime part.
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You get over it by moving on with life. Your academic life is over and it is time to move on to the cold cruel world of adult reality. Your living at home with a mom you say you have no living attachment to. Yes I looked back at previous questions you have written.
It is time to take that Masters Degree and turn it into a viable livelihood. Then move out and make a life for yourself as you did in school. You will find someone to love you and keep you as your teacher did. You need to go out and find that person, make yourself available to that person for they do not know where you are.
You are a full fledged adult now the safety of the academic world is behind you. You need to carve out your space in this world or it will pass you bye.
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