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What will i do about his best friend
My ex and I got back together in January, and it's been peaceful and very nice, though we have some problems, we settle it and move on. We decided not to tell our friends about our relationship and just to keep it to ourselves and family. He didn't tell his best friend about us cos she was one of the reasons we broke up before.. Now she was suspecting and he told me. she said she was going to get to the root of the matter. And all he said was that she wasn't jealous and that is how she does when it comes to the issue of girls and that she only wants the best for him.He keeps supporting her and making me feel annoyed.I told him out of annoyance that I was going to get a male bestie and he got angry and started shouting. I'm kinda confused cs I think they both lyk each other but they are using best friend issues to cover up.He even told me that they were best friends before we started dating again, so it's no problem.. I really dnt know what to do.
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If two people of opposite sex just do not, nor ever had any romantic feelings for each other, then yes, they can remain best friends for ever without ever cheating on their partners. I say that as it seems to be your big concern.
Why is this true? Because of chemistry, or more to the point...pheromones. Pheromones are something all mammals use to find a mate that is most appealing to them. Lets explain this way, when a persons pheromones closely resemble those of another, they will be sexually attracted. When the pheromones are too different, then a romantic kiss from such a person is going to feel yucky and make you shudder in disgust cus it feels like you got kissed like that by a Dad or brother or other male relative. Long story short, if this is the case for them, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, you did mention the reversal of roles, with you getting a male best friend. Never mind that it is hard to find, but his reaction is a potential Problem for you. It would seem his thinking is, that its okay for him but not for you. That is not right. Males who are not confident and have low esteem usually don't want any other males in the picture for you to compare him with.(not that you might, just that he is subconsciously worried) This might come across as jealous or controlling of you. Both are not good for a relationship. So be careful as you continue to date him. I don't know what started the first break up, maybe that would shed more light to the type of male he is and whether he is good boyfriend material or not.
You should be able to feel free to chat with people standing in line, whether female or male without him throwing a fit. So even if you never have a male friend, and just happen to look at a guy or talk to one and he sees that, if he comes unglued over that, he is a controller and not good bf material. And you could be in danger of being cut off from All friends and family by such a guy, worst case scenerio. I have known gals whose bf or husband treated them that way.
Just be smart and if he becomes too controlling or jealous, it might be best to find someone better than settle for less.
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