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Hi,
He says, I like treating you and I don't mind. Except he's a long time friend. His joke seems like flirt to me but to him it's only kidding. How to recognise purely if they are into you? How do you see the difference if your friend really likes you? I've asked him, he says yes I like you, Actually he says few times when we see each other but hard to tell if it's as friend or God knows.
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
interesting. To me it sounds like he does like you. But you want to be positive before anything happens. Well the answer is simple. be straight up with him. And ask if you want to get into a real honest relationship. The only way to know, is to ask. There is no better way. But I bet if you ask, you'll get the results your looking for. And maybe it will blossom into a beautiful relationship :-)
good luck! And dont be afraid! :-)
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this is the time old issue when a male and female have been friends a long time...the chance one or both begin to have deeper feelings for the other. The thought is that if one tells their friend they are falling for the friend, and the friend doesn't feel the same, that it might destroy their friendship due to the awkwardness of the unrequited love. SO the one with feelings, out of fear will usually deny their feelings as anything stronger than liking a friend. Most people do not know how to pick up on body language, facial expression, all the non verbal communication which is said to be more than the actual verbal communication. Think of a person giving an extra sugary pasted on smile when they can thank you but you can tell they don't mean it because you are in fact picking up on the subtle but very sure body language of that person.
I have learned what I know on the subject just from cruising youtube and searching for clips on learning body language and you can also specify what men and women do when interested in someone romantically but don't say a word. I urge you to do the same. It can be quite eye opening. He can fudge or just lie about his feelings, but his actions and body language can't lie. SO if you discover in this manner that it looks for sure like he is into you, then there is still a chance he does not realize that yet about his own feelings, hasn't analysed. You could ask if he is attracted to you romantically as well as a friend. But since he still doesn't have a sure sign from you yet to know if you'd welcome him that way or not, he likely won't say. You have to make it non threatening for him to act on. This is the best way I've heard it said. "You know, we've been doing great as friends all this time. It makes me wonder if we could do great as more than friends. What do you think?" Notice, this is more open ended than closed questions of just yes or no answers because you asked his opinion what he thinks of that idea.
This is what you would do if you would like to take this relationship to the next step. Don't bother bringing up anything if you don't want romance with him. That means, if he wants to treat you all the time, just enjoy the friendship in the terms that it exists right now. If this is part of the old time gentleman in him, and this is just who he is, best not to ruin that with examining the relationship too hard. If he does like you, he either has to gather up the guts to be more obvious in telling you or he isn't going to get anywhere. But if or when you ask his opinion as I stated in question for you to pose, that is his chance, even if he's not totally sure yet, but his chance to try dating romantically with you. If he doesn't grab at the chance there, he likely doesnt have any feelings other than friendship
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