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Rethinking what I want from life and feeling lost?
I'm a Sophomore in college and I feel like it's taking me way too long to graduate. I was told I can graduate in 3 years, but every semester it seems like it's taking longer and longer. I'm now looking at 4-5 years and I'm only in my second year and feeling burnt out. It's not because I'm failing classes or anything, it's all the extra courses I have to take that have nothing to do with my degree. Now I'm being told that I'm going to need my Masters on top of my bachelors to get anywhere (Healthcare Management).
I really want to travel to other countries teaching English, but I don't know how realistic that is.
I'm also tired of dating, none of the boys in my age range take life seriously and other than one relationship that lasted 3 years, the rest of my relationships have ended in 6 months or less. Sometimes I wish there was a mail order bride type service for American women because I think life would just be much easier if I could find an older gentleman to marry me who's financially well off. I really wouldn't mind being a housewife, I love to cook and take care of a home and have lots of hobbies I could keep myself busy with.
I also don't have any friends at college so I spend all my time alone. I joined a sorority, but everybody was already in cliques so I'm going to drop at the end of the semester and join some clubs next semester to see if that helps.
I just feel super lost though. I have summer vacation coming up in 4 weeks so I have some time to figure it out, but I don't even know where to start. I'm thinking about getting my TEFL over the summer (to teach English), but I really just want to know what I'm doing with my life...
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well on guys understand heartache well. the right one will come and treat you like a queen. and on friends im sorry know can try talking someone new by just saying hi and talk small talk. your plan is a good one, and is possible with right attitude, like have, and perserverence and all things are possible with God. go unto him for comfort, help, guidance, and so much more he sent his only son to die on the cross for our sins who rose again three days later. who ever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. know Jesus Christ can be the bestest friend ever and God as well especially when feel alone.i go to him for everything and have had struggles, yes, but have grown and found what want in life by them.
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College drags on longer then you think. I am back in college now. I feel your pain.
Yous should be proud it seems you are making all the right moves. You should explore what paths are available to you without burning bridges behind you and it looks like that is what your are doing.
Anything related to the medical field is a good call from a financial stand point. You will need a masters but it will pay for itself in the long run.
Teaching abroad can help you grow by experiencing other cultures. most colleges have programs where you can go abroad. After you get your bachelors you can join the peace core.
Housewife is ok, but i feel it may limit your future options too much.
Joining a club is good. The trick to making friends is to make conversation even if you are nervous or if is feels awkward. Let people know what you are interested in and if they are interested too a friendship comes natural. even if you are into stamp collecting there is a group that is into it too you just have to find them.
don't stress over finding a man too much. they are not all they are cracked up to be.
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First let tell you that you're not alone in how you feel. We get numerous letters on this subject all the time. As for making friends you have the right idea to join some clubs. The only suggestion I have is to find clubs you have an interest in and or have some knowledge to offer. IN this way you can join into conversations more easily and make friends.
As to finding someone for a relationship; you sound a lot like me son. Looking for a custom fit in an off the rack world. In the hit and miss world of dating there are slim chances you will find the guy you are looking for. The advice I gave my so was to join one of the dating sites there are such as match.com. I'm not sure which site my son used but it is through one of these types of dating sites he met my daughter in-law. To say they are a perfect match is an understatement. Where one is weak the other is strong.
With a dating site you put your profile in then you get to say or select what you are looking for in a match. The selections are endless to the point you can in effect place an order for the perfect match. Then the computer looks for someone looking for someone who is looking for what you’re looking for and notifies them and you. Contacts are made between you by email, then phone then in my sons’ case they met for coffee and six months later she moved in with him. The rest is history.
As for your major in Health Care, A friend of my niece is in Health Care management working for one of the biggest hospitals in the Metro Baltimore/Washington Corridor. She started with a smaller hospital gained her Masters with them and with their help with tuition then was hired away by the bigger hospital who is now helping her get her Doctorate.
Heath Care is an emerging field regardless of what happens with Obama Care or ACA. The challenges and directions it will go are endless. There are entry level positions for someone with a Bachelor’s Degree. Depending on what you wish to do within the healthcare arena you may need a Master Degree and even a Doctorate. Both of these can be obtain while you are working and making a good income.
My brother in-law gained his PHD in Nuclear Physics while working for the Department of Defense. I have no idea what he does now for he tells me if he tells me he has to kill me. (lol)
My daughter in law is working on her Masters Degree while working. She is in her second year of on-line classes and will finish sometime next year. When she does she will increase her salary with her present company, who are also helping with tuition, by about a third. She already takes in a high 5 figure salary with the bump she will be just shy of 6 figures.
I tell you all this because where there is a while there is a way. My brother in-law gets his PHD is one of the toughest subjects while working and raising. Two others I know get their Masters while working. You can do it too if you want it bad enough.
You do not have to stay in the brick and mortar school for two or three more years and pay a fortune in tuition. You can take your undergraduate degree and start earning a living. Many employers, especially large companies, have tuition reimbursement programs. You work, you spend two or three years in an on-line Masters program when you’re ready and your employer foots the bill. TO me that is a win/win situation.
Last: You sound a bit burnt out with school. Not unusual you have been in school for 14 years now. Consider taking a semester off and just relaxing if you can. Then return to school all refreshed and ready to hit the books again.
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