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I wamt to be creative but father womt let me
Hey im 14 and my family has this little japanese mini truck that i absolutly love to play aroumd in and would like to buy cosmetic items such as stickers and new seats and steerimg wheel and just all round express myself artistically with the truck. But when i confront my parents to buy the items on amazon my dad says no and talks about how the truck isnt a racecar and suuch. He even argues the fact im using my own money and that money should go to college. Any ideas on how to confront my parents about my hobby which they dont really approve of.
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If it's not your personal vehicle—that you own—then you have no real way to insist on blinging it up.
In this particular case, it doesn't matter why your father doesn't approve, he doesn't need to have a good reason. If the truck is his, he gets to make this decision.
I think Adviceman has a very good suggestion to talk to your parents about buying the truck, but, that doesn't guarantee they will be willing to sell it to you, or give it to you.
Which means you may need to consider other ways you can exercise your creative muscles. It sucks, but it's a reality of life, that sometimes something we really want has to wait. At fourteen, I really wanted a dog of my own, but I had to wait til I was nearly 30 before I had a safe home and steady enough life to get a puppy of my own. My mother saved and planned till she was over 40 to take her dream trip and spend months in Italy.
Don't look at the truck as something that is just there that you can use. It's not yours. If it can become yours, that's a good approach. If not, start saving and working towards your big plans. Finding creative outlets you can afford now will help you prepare for your future creations.
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First the word “confronts" is argumentative. You won't win any battles with your parents being argumentative.
When I was your age we had a car that was 8 years old and had over 100,000 miles on it. It was just sitting unused in the driveway. The car wasn't in bad shape but it did need some work in order to pass inspection. My dad told me the car could be mine if I could make it street ready by the time I was old enough to drive. That gave me two years to fix the car.
I was able to do so by saving money from my paper route, mowing lawns and buying parts on the lay away plan. Your problem is a little different than mine was as the car was not in use. I get the impression this car is still being used by your dad so the problem is he may not want to drive around in a car looking like it should be racing in the NASCAR Camping World Series.
If this is the case then you are not going to win any concession from your dad as long as he is using the truck. What you can do is talk to dad about what his intentions are for the truck. Does he intend to keep it until it is no longer serviceable and junk it? Does he intend to trade it in on a new truck at some point?
Would he consider giving or selling the truck to you when you get your license?
Should dad be willing to give or sell you the truck? Then you can talk to him about how you would like to decorate the truck in your image and ask him if you could spend part of what you earn to start buying the decals and things you would want to display on the truck to store until it’s yours.
To decorate the truck to day is a battle you cannot win if dad is still using the truck. The best course of action I can suggest is to choose a course of action you can win which is one of a future action.
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