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what did i do wrong?
I dont understand if ive done anything wrong to my friends, so im gonna name my friends Sara,Jade and Anna. Right from day one whenever i texted Sara she would always try so hard to end the convo everytime it would start she would be like "anyways i gtg bye" so ive gotten used to her cause i feel like she doesnt really wanna talk to me, but now that high school is over and we are going to different schools we have to try and make an effort on keeping the friendship but Sara i know purposely ignores my messages on whatsapp because whatsapp tells you when the last time someone was on, everytime i message Sara on there id have to spam her for her to reply to my message. She watches my snapchat stories but to this day i messaged her last thursday on whatsapp she hasnt opened it but whatsapp said the last time she was on was sunday smh. Now jade is my good friend except now im always the one to text her first and now its the point where she will open my text read it and forget to reply, lastly i have Anna the only friend that really hits me up but i am guilty of ignoring her because if you have read my previous questions she only talks fo me about one topic and its her boyfriend, whenever i text her she feels the need to call me and talk about him whenever i try to change the subject she will relate to him or something about herself so i dont even bother with her. Why are my friends acting like this?
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I doubt you have done anything wrong to anyone else or anything that could be perceived as such. Text messages cost money to send and receive on most all providers. Perhaps she reads what you wrote and gives that kind of reply or doesn't based on that or assumes you will talk soon and one isn't needed.
The other thing is if you do it constantly with her and you write too much at a time. It would put a person off and of replying. Also spamming anyone to get their attention not only is wrong of you but will piss the recipient off rather quickly. That's the only thing it may be but odds are you're fussing about something that isn't going on.
Ask her why she doesn't respond to texts or these phone app messages if you are concerned. Perhaps she reads your online stories but either hasn't any comments or figures she'll talk to you in person. It's not unusual to get a message and not respond until you have time. She may be a very busy person with stuff to do online and or a lot of activities where replying back to people isn't first thing on mind. Talk to her about it and your friendship to erase this concern.
As far as the second friend who never texts first consider the fact she may have been told not to as it eats into data or costs her to do it so you will seldom hear or perhaps she's not a texter or uses it rarely and again may think she'll talk to you later on. Instead of texting her see if she ever texts you first. It just may not be her thing or primary way of reaching out. I wouldn't worry there. Ask her if she doesn't like texting or about her cell phone.
I think you're doing to Anna what you think and don't want happening to you. This is the one friend who seems to really give a real effort to be a friend but is being ignored because of what she likes to talk about. The relationship may be new therefore he constant chatter. You could point out that while her boyfriend is important that you want to talk about other subjects too. I have a hunch you feel left out. That's okay but you need to tell her that. I wouldn't abandon her if she has consistently been decent to you.
I think your problem here is your perception of them foremost and constant expectations and the fact they aren't acting exactly how you want all the time. You also have to look at yourself too and see what you may be doing that could push people away.
Maybe they see your texts, messages, constantly in a negative light. If you sense problems with your friendships talk to them but level with yourself here that if you are having issues with 3 or all friends that are like this that maybe you have to isolate and change what you have done with them when dealing with others. Do what you can whether people think you are or not to exhibit behavior that doesn't look clingy or shutting others out.
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