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Issues with parents
I'm 22 years old and recently got into a pretty serious relationship. My folks are old school and freak out whenever I would ask to stay the night at my bfs house or I'd suggest he'd come stay the night with me (still living with my parents). I feel like I'm limited to the things I can do at my house, which sucks! His family is so much different than mine, their so welcoming and kind. He's suggested I move in with him, and I've been giving it so much thought, and I really want to do it because I feel like I just can't be at home anymore, I feel like I can't grow up. Help!
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As adviceman said, although you are an adult, entitled to make your own choices, when living under someone elses roof, you must follow their rules, whatever they are comfortable with...same goes if a landlord doesnt want pets and you agree to take the place and not bring in pets, or whatever other rules they have.
So if its cramping your style, either you find roomates and get a placed together right now or go stay at his parents. Your parents may fear the empty nest thing if you're the last or only one to leave but be gentle and let them know you love them but need to live your own life and make own decisions.
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First while your living in your parents home, even though you are an adult in every respect of the word entitled to all the privileges of an adult. It is their house and if they do not want your boyfriend sleeping over then you have to respect their wishes.
As the parents of a male child my son was forced to return home after a work related accident. His GF being a nurse moved in and helped his mother and I care for him as he recovered. Then stayed as he went back to work and saved to get his own place.
As the parent of the male child we can afford to be more liberal with him having an overnight guest or even in this case her moving in. As the parents of a female child I'm not sure I would not feel like your parents. Yes your over 221 entitled to a sex life but does it have to be in my home under my roof and not married. I'm not sure I could be that liberal his parents like me can be that kind as you say or that liberal as I have said.
If your comfortable moving in with him then do so. Expect an argument from your parents. Just remember your over 21 now and they cannot control what you do. Keep in mind that if things go bad with this BF your parents may not let you back in their home so make sure you have enough money in savings to get your own apartment.
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