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My crush is friends with one really nice girl and one really mean girl
Recently, I've began to develop a crush on my female friend(let's call her Jenny) and she recently became friends with a really nice girl (let's call her Anne) and friends with a really mean girl (let's call her Amanda). Jenny and Anne are both really nice to me and compliment my stories. Amanda however says they're not good and they're rude. The rudeness in the stories stopped a long time ago and she'd never even read one so she couldn't judge them. She told me to stop writing them when I was talking to my friend (Let's call him Henry) which really offended me but luckily she was with Anne who replied to her with the words "Why? They're good" which made me happy but then Amanda said "No they're f***ing not" which offended me. But then Jenny was there at that exact moment and said that she liked them. Amanda just rolled her eyes, however the 3 of them have remained friends. What's worse is I've showed my English teacher these stories and she likes them, but Amanda was there at that exact moment saying she hates them and the teacher didn't even do anything about it
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In this whole, people are supposed to have the freedom to like something or not. What one person likes, another may not find interesting. for example, while artistic expression in writing or painting, etc... is a lot of self expression, it comes from you, you created it, everyone is different and have a right to find something about it that clicks with them or not.
This Amanda person is young like the rest of you and immature and lacking in manners...something also common among the young. We hopefully eventually learn to act better as we grow older. Only a small percent of unhappy adults do I see who at any age complain and grumble about Everything. Nothing makes them happy.
So while this Amanda has a right to not like your style of writing and your teacher as an adult recognizes the right of everyone to have their own opinion, she in immaturity hasn't learned to keep any negative opinions to herself yet, or learn how to find something constructive to say about your work even if she doesn't prefer that kind of writing style or genre. Just because one person doesnt like your work doesnt mean it isn't good.
So what you need to learn is to not take so many things personally. I know, easier said than done. But heres something you can do for yourself that may help a little. Next time she criticizes you, don't respond to her face but asap find a time to be away alone where you can speak out loud to yourself saying, "You have a right to your opinion Amanda, but that doesnt make my stories bad. I know they are good because I like them, my friends and family and teacher likes them.
remember to watch your tongue as well. Lets say you dont like Italian food and a friend invited you over and her mom asked you to stay for dinner. You look at what is being cooked and say, "Oh, thats disgusting, No one should have to eat that!" You may hurt feelings but more likely, the mom being adult realizes you're still a kid who hasn't learned good manners yet or your parents haven't taught you. She may be more inclined to think she doesnt want her daughter hanging around you rather than being hurt because you don't approve of her cooking even if you havent tasted it. Do you see the comparison I am making and how important it is to watch what we say, and still have our own feelings and choices and opinions. Don't give opinion until asked for it. Only then can you say for example: it tastes good or looks good but meat isnt to my liking...I am a vegetarian. It isn't your role to teach this gal at school how to have good manners like that. Eventually as time goes on, she'll either kill her relationships with your other friends or hopefully grow up some so you all can enjoy time with her.
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