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Failing... ending up in depression is a serious problem of mine.
Hi.
I am at age 25 and I don't know why my life is like this. But every time I take a job, I end up being miserable and very sick.. ending up in depression is a serious problem of mine.
I am an IT that actually has no passion for it. I don't like it but I have no choice because, I graduated in this field. So, every job choices I find myself always ending up in the technical field, which I don't want and obviously I can't see myself being good at in the next 5 years.
What should I do?
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I know several people who once working in a field they just got a degree in, were unhappy, so they went back to school. In the extreme, I know one person who did this like 4 times, before they finally settled on a career choice. Of course, this means a person can be doing college at a much older age than most. So what? I even know some senior citizens who went to take college for a degree simply to stay active in life and keep their minds sharp and have a goal to look forward to, other than what their funeral should be like someday.
Another gal at just before 50, got a degree in mental health counseling and is working a job in that field. In her case, her main reason for going for that degree came from having her own mental struggles and knowing others, friends or family who had issues too so she understood personally the great need for good counselors and now she's feeling very fulfilled in her job.
It going to be hard to know what you really like until you have experienced it or something close. YOu need an income to live on in the meanwhile unless independantly wealthy. So try taking some night classes, exploring anything and everything that is offered in a class. At the worst, you may discover a new hobby. At the best, it may click wit you and set you on a path to a new career.
Examples of where an evening class could lead you.
Study of another language might lead you to wanting to become an enterpretuer. taking a gymnastics class might spark an interest in pursuing something in athletic field like coaching, or perhaps, even something more health related like teaching yoga. A cooking class, may reveal a desire and talent for cooking and you work towards becoming a Chef. An art class might reveal an artistic bent and a creative mind with all sorts of ideas. You begin to create art that becomes popular. A simple income tax class may show you enjoy working with numbers and doing taxes or you might pursue accounting then. You don't know until you explore. Dont launch full in with financial commitment to another degree until you have discovered some kind of interest that will be fulfilled in a variety of professions. Once decided what that is, see if you qualify for any grants or funding, and either continue working fulltime, doing the schooling part time nights, or work part time if possible financially and do school close to full time. The goal of reaching your preferred degree and work in field of choice will help you endure the job you have for now that helps you achieve that goal.
Good luck!
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This is not something to get depressed over. Many of us chose a career path only to find out we made a mistake. Mistakes can be corrected. There are different ways to correct this type of mistake.
1. Sit down and think about what career really interests you. Actually make a list if you need to should there be more than one or two. Look at the list you made and see which of them you have any qualifications for and what additional training or courses of study you may need to be fully qualified to apply for this position.
2. Find a career counseling agency and have them administer a placement test. There are tests they can administer that can tell you what career(s) you are best qualified for based on intelligence and aptitude .
These tests are fairly accurate. I took one in high school and it suggest a career in sales or public service. I did both, I made my employment in sales and did very well. I also volunteered with the local fire department which for me was stress relief from my day job.
Once you have the results of the test look at the positions returned as best qualified for. Look at those positions and see what they entail. See what qualifications you may have and what you need to obtain.
3. You can also try asking friends and relatives what they feel you are best suited for. You would be surprised what others see in you that you don't see in yourself. Don't be surprised if your friends see in you what the test returns if you take the test.
Once you made a decision on a new career choice and know what qualifications you need to obtain to go after that career. Visit your local community college or a Technical School to arrange to get the needed course. There is no shame in going back to school at your age. People twice your age have had to go back to school to learn new careers. It has become part of life in the 21st century.
You do not have to be stuck in a job or career you hate. As you are suffering you can see why this is so. There is no need to make yourself sick when if you have the will there are ways to change course to a better life a better career path.
My father once told me this. "You can have all the money in the world and be miserable or you can make enough money to live on and be happy." What he meant by this was; do not pick a career based on how much money you can earn, pic a career you are happy in and you will never work a day in your life. Meaning work will be fun and exciting. When work is fun and exciting it is not really work.
As for the depression your felling. It is a natural form of depression that should not require a doctors care other than the fact it makes you sick. This may impede you from having the will power you need to pick yourself up and do what needs to be done to change things for the better. I suggest you see your doctor and tell the doctor how your feeling and why. Ask to be screened for depression.
If you have not worked yourself into a clinical depression then the doctor can help you with being sick.. If you have worked yourself into a clinical depression the doctor can help you there as well. Both conditions are temporary until you get yourself to a better place.
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