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boys opinion: does physical attraction mean they like you
so i had tension with this guy pretty much all year, and finally a few weeks ago he told me he was into me and asked me out and then we hooked up the next day at a party, he later decided we cant go out because hes dealing with a lot of stuff with his family and whatever so called it off at least for now and we kind of stopped speaking. then last night we were at a party and talking a lot about everything he was saying how much he liked me etc and kept trying to kiss me, i initially pushed him away a lot but ended up kissing for a bit. i just found out though that hes been speaking to this other girl a lot and apparently likes her too, shes in another country tho so forsure nothing physically happened. do you think in general him being physcially attracted to me means anytnig about if he likes me/likes me more than that girl or, not sure if i should take the him alwyas trying to kiss me as he really likes me and thats how he is expressing it or is just sexually frustrated and making up that wanting to date me part. not a matter of if we will actually date because its a bad idea with everything going on with him just curious about his intentions.
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Males are visually stimulated. So yes, being physiclally attracted to a female is important. And it ties in closely with their sexuality. For younger males just experiencing their hormones and attractions for the first time, too many have so many hormones going that they are aroused practically all day long, several times a day whether theres a cute female around or not. As far as physical attraction goes, females are not much different from males. Try to imagine as a female being attracted physically to a guy you don't find appealing in looks at all, can you picture your palms getting sweaty, and your heart doing somer-saults around him? No. Same for guys. The only really big difference is that at a young age, males tend to be more concerned with taking care of their sexual desires and females are a means to an end for them to see what its like to kiss and progress to more so they can gain sexual experience while taking care of their bodies need for sexual release, they equate this all more as lust than love while girls want a guy who loves them first and then havin sex is a way to show him that love. I am not saying all guys are this way but a good majority are when young. So its really hard to tell from so little contact with him that you've had whether he is interested in you for all of you, physically and who you are as a person. Time will tell if he has a true intereset in you because a male who had true interest in a female will put her has a high priority on his list to be in contact with and pay attention to. And thats just to tell if theres interest. But I can't say what kind of interest, sexual purely or for more than that, and the only way to know is to see under what circumstances he wants to spend time with you. If its only to kiss and cuddle or maybe explore more rather than go bike riding, out to a fast food place together, having him over to watch a movie iwth the family and spend time with you, then his interest is only a sexual one. It depends now if thats all you want or if you're looking for a boy who will like you for all of you.
P.S. Heterosexual Men of all ages never stop feeling attracte to females for their looks not matter their age or the age of the female. Its a life long thing built in to who they are. So this is not enough to base a decision on whether they really like you as a person or not. I am married, in my fifties and still get men who wink and flirt with me and find me attractive. You'll have to learn to understand when a guy is just appreciating the scenery, wants to temporarily camp in it, or buy the whole campground so to speak.
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