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I have trust issues
Ok so this is really hard for me but I need to get this out
So when I was in months old my parents got a divorce I was a baby so it didn't really affect me right after my dad started dating this girl and I really liked her but they broke up then in 2nd grade my dad again started dating this girl who I hated she was a bitch her kids were brats and she was just horrible my dad was thinking about marrying her this one day she had yelled at me and my older sister when we were doing nothing and my dad had believed her and not his own kids and it came to the place where we actually wanted to live with our mom who wasn't a stable parent she said and I quote "I'll never choose a guy over my kids" so things got better with my dad and then In 6th grade my mom started dating this guy I didn't like he was no good for her and he was/is in prison I tolerated him but I never liked him then we went on a vacation and my mom gave her boyfriend my number because her phone got turned off and he never called all vacation and then when I'm back with my dad he wants to call I ignored the calls but he wouldn't stopped calling I finally answered and I said very nicely that I'm not with my mom and he wouldn't get the memo and he was being really stupid like "just give the phone to her" " I know shes there stop lying" then he got mad and hung up then my mom calls back 10 minutes later and yells at me for having attitude with him and being disrespectful she wouldnt even let me explain she just took his side like she said she would never do if she didn't say that I probably wouldn't have gotten so hurt I didn't see her for months anyway now I'm in 9th grade and both my mom and dad are in good relationships and that's good but idk why but I feel like I'm a good place with my dads girlfriend but my moms boyfriend he's nice and wants to get to know me but I just can't idk why but it scared me to death to actually get to know him and I can't seem to trust my mom as much but my dad and I have one of the best relationships
My question is why can I forgive my dad but not my mom
and how come I can get to know my dads girlfriend and not my moms boyfriend ?
Please answer
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This is one of those questions I do not believe any of can actually advise you on. It is however a question that deserves an answer or at least someone to have a one on one conversation with who can help you find these answers.
There is a lot of hurt in your your life and this hurt needs to be dealt with in a proper and professional manner. By this I mean with a psychologist trained to help you find these answers and to help you find the root causes of these problems. There is something deeper here that has to come out before you can go forward and deal with these problems correctly. Not to deal with them properly will cause you problems later in life.
A psychologist is someone you can talk to secure in the knowledge that everything you say and discuss with him or her stays in therapy. Your parents will never be told of anything you say. What the psychologist will do is suggest to them ways in which they can help you and in your case have a better relationship with you. Which would include potential step parents.
If your father has health insurance through work. Ask him for the number of the EAP help line. Then call the and ask them for the name numbers of some psychologists in your area, you can ask specifically for women young if you want. Before you call any of them look them up on the web. Find out how long they have been in practice and the type of practice they have. Then choose which one you want to call first.
It is possible that your first choice in therapist is someone you don't feel comfortable with. Just say so the therapist will help you find another therapist you may be more comfortable talking to. For this to help you the therapist has to be someone you would trust with your deepest secrets.
Don't worry about the cost. The EAP program will pay for a certain amount of visits, something you can ask about when you call. If you need more visits after that your fathers health insurance will cover some of the cost.
I truly believe this is the best way to get the answers to the questions you have posed.
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