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Fingering and stomach cramps?
I'm 16 years old & I'm a virgin. A week ago I was in bed with a guy & we we making out & he fingered me. This was my first time being fingered & his penis touched the outside of my vagina but we didn't have sex. The next day I had stomach cramps & got worse everyday. Now my breasts are kinda sore & I have really bad abdominal pain. PLEASE HELP ME! I need advice. I have no one to talk to about this. Should I worry that I might be pregnant ?? I'm really nervous!!
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Most likely you are going to start you period but if he had cumed on the outside on you vagina it is still possible to get pregnant, but You should worry about it too much until you had missed you period.
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Your symptoms sound like your period is about to start soon.
If your boyfriend did not have a condom on when his penis touched the outside of your vagina, there's no way you can be pregnant. However, there are ways other than intercourse (penis in vagina sex) for pre cum or ejaculate that contains sperm, that a female can get pregnent by. All it takes is for pre cum or ejaculate that contains sperm to be deposited near the entrance to the vagina or transfered inside via fingers that have still wet precum from the male on the fingers. Its a slight possibility but a possibility non the less.
But as to whether you are pregnant, you can only be pregnant if you were ovulating and an egg was released and available for sperm to fertilize if they could make it that far.
Here's a link that explains what ovulation is vs. implantation of the egg. There is actually a time frame until implantation at which point a female is considered pregnant and a pregnancy test should be able to show a positive/negative result.
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So since the travel of a fertilized egg thru falopian tubes to uterus lining is 7-10 days, it's very unlikely that a female would have immediate pregnancy symptoms like breast tenderness or queasy stomach leading to vomiting. Severe stomach cramps are not likely immediately after having sex.
The only thing I know of that can cause terrible cramping immediately after sex (because I had this) is if I had lots of really strong orgasms because those often used to make my 'fibroids' cramp up since they are attached to the uterus wall which contracts during orgasms.I was told by Dr. that my fibroids would shrink as I entered menopause and no longer trouble me. Once kicked off, the cramping from my fibroids would last a couple of days before going away. If you didn't have any orgasms, but do have fibroids, then it is unlikely you had cramps due to this.
The only way to know if you have fibroids is to see a gynecologist and get a thorough exam. At the time, the medical community wasn't doing operations to remove fibroids. I heard rumors of use of lazer to sever the connection a fibroid has to the uterus lining and it will shrivel up and die without having to be removed. But it hadn't been approved yet and was expensive. It may be commonplace these days.
The only other case in which there may severe abdominal pain is if a fertilized egg never leaves the fallopian tube and attaches and grows there instead, although in this case the signs of severe Abdominal (belly) pain or pelvic pain, usually occur 6 to 8 weeks after a missed period.
So at this point, it's not that.
My advice is to wait a couple days and then take pregnancy test. It would also be a good idea to see a Dr. about the severe cramping directly after sex if you find it happening again in the next couple times you have sex. Also, insist on him wearing a condom even if not planning on intercourse. I would also suggest seeing someone about getting on birth control, even if you dont plan on doing more than you are doing for now.
The reason I refer to what you've engaged in as having sex is that it is sex. The term virgin has come to only mean not having had penis in vagina sex. But there are many other things that are parts of having sexual relations. There's foreplay, kissing, touching and massaging, giving orgasms through manipulation of your clitoris, your g or a spots, fingering or oral sex, blow jobs and hand jobs for him. So depending on how you are interpreting the word virgin 1. not having had intercourse 2. only having sexual contact including fingering and oral sex. etc then you may or may not be a virgin.
You do not need parents knowledge of anything regarding your reproductive organs. You can see a family dr or go to Planned Parenthood and due to a law called HIPPA, visit and any findings will not be revealed to the parents. You must however be honest with the Dr. There is no judgement over whether you've had sex or not. You need to share everything for him/her to be able to determine what may be going on if your pains continue.
Hope this helps calm you a bit and cause you to see a Dr. either way for a check up soon.
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Hi darling,
That's probably hormones or you just freaking out. It's normal with some ladies to get some sort of pains after the first (or a couple of firsts) sexual contact (that doesn't mean the full intercourse) cause it's something new to your muscles and hormones.
Relax and always make your guy wear a condom even if you're just fooling around.
Take care
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