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Garden help!
My father is interested in gardening and he wants to make a garden in our home. My mom is not agreeing with him and she never gave him permit ions to grow any plan at home. So I am confused and need some ideas. Who can I manage this situation.
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I have no idea what you meant in the very first sentence.
I can take it to mean several things:
Literally that he wanted to plant an entire flower or vegetable garden indoor indoors, finding some way to set up planting beds, lighting system and a watering system. That is rather invasive for a home
You could be talking about him wanting to buy some houseplants, but having houseplants is not considered gardening, in this case it is more the asthetics, more as part of decor or mood setting and houseplants do not cause allergic reactions like hayfever so really, your mom should have no objection to it unless you have pets and the plant in question is dangerous or toxic to pets.
I could think that you meant to say he wants to plant an outdoor veggie or flower garden and mom doesnt like the idea.
You state "our" home as if it is your home too and the parents live with you and your daughter, and any possible siblings or a husband.
Or perhaps you meant that this is a house owned by you, not the parents, they just happen to be living with you.
In which case, if it were Your house because you own it and pay the mortgage, then it isn't your mothers business to lay down the rules about what happens on your property. She has no right to give her permission to grow or not grow plants if she doesn't own the place with him.
Giving permission, what is she, the head of the house? Is he the hen pecked husband? Does she run and regulate his entire life? Did he give control of his own life and decision making away to her? Haven't they heard of something called 'compromise'?
If the place is owned by them and they are married, its half his, half hers. Its only fair that she gets one yard to do what she wants with like just a lawn and no plants and he gets the other one to do as he wishes with. Let her pick first, front yard or backyard. I'll bet she'd take front yard cus she'll want it to look the same as it is now for the neighbors sake.
I don't see how this is any of your business anyways if you are not the home owner. When living under the parents roof in their home, no matter if you are an adult, their wishes and their rules go and you must abide by them, being their child. Its different for a married couple, they should be making decisions together and compromising if need be. If your Dad had written in and asked for advice and explained more details of what exactly he was wanting that she is refusing, I might have ideas to share..but sorry...theres not enough details and this is confusing to understand.
The only thing I can think of to answer "how can I manage this situation", is that if you don't like whats going on, go find someone else to live with if you can't afford your own place. If thats not possible, sorry but you're stuck having to put up with their bickering and fighting over the subject.
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what do you mean by "manage" it? if shes damned determined to not let him have any plants in the house then its pretty much a lost cause. but you could get him a small container garden, if shes not allergic then she has no excuse for not letting him at least TRY to have something that MIGHT make him happy in life. god, she sounds selfish as hell. sorry thats just what im getting....
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