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Pain during penetration
Hi there, I am 19 and my boyfriend is 31. My boyfriend and I just recently started having sex. He took my virginity and it was not as painful as expected. When we tried again, I kept having a painful feeling as he tried to go in. This happens every time now. I also am not sure what I am suppose to feel when he's inside me.
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Intercourse should get less painful each time you have sex. Now this also depends on how sexually excited you are for intercourse. How wet are you when you partner enters you. If you have not been properly excited, lubricated by your own moisture, then intercourse will be painful. Foreplay is important to excite you and prepare you for intercourse.
There could be several reasons you are not getting wet. One would be fear of getting pregnant. No matter how much foreplay is involved if you are stressed out by the act itself you will not properly moisten. IF you are not on birth control then see your GYN for Birth control.
At 19 you are an adult now and even if you are on your parents health insurance they have no control over your medical needs or can they continue to see your medical records without your permission. If you have not already done so you need to change you medical & dental records to reflect who you want to allow to see your medical records. This is called HIPPA notification and all doctors have them.
You probably signed something at your doctors office when you were 14 allowing your parents permission to see and talk to your doctors about your medical records and care. You need to rescind this authorization.
Just because they are paying the bills does not give them the right to see your medical records. I could pay your medical bill. That would not give me the right to see your medical records only you in writing to the doctor can say who has that right.
There are other reason why you may be experiencing pain but the biggest is peace of mind and comfort. If I'm right and you're not on birth control there is no reason you should not be. You partner should also use a condom even if your on birth control. As condoms are effective in preventing the transmission of many STD's and the HIV/AIDS virus.
Also remember you are 19 an adult in every way. If you want a sex life you are now entitled to one. You were good to wait and get through high school before losing your virginity. Now you can relax and enjoy sex if you choose too.
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Do you guys do anything before he penetrates you? Do you guys do any kind of foreplay? Foreplay helps a lot with making the opening of the vagina more loose and moist, and therefore, not as painful when something goes in. You could also try lube that you can buy at any general store.
And what its supposed to feel like is good and natural. Like nature and motion take over and you two are just there to enjoy it. Its different for everybody, but its just supposed to feel really nice.
I hope I've helped you. Take care :)
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