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Intervention for my mom!
My Father died when I was 6 years old, and it is now 10 years later and my Mother still hasn't properly grieved for him. She has not had a job since, (my father, financially, left us off very well) and she is constantly "keeping herself busy" with pointless things to do. She has an extreme ammount of stress for no reason at all, because she is CONSTANTLY worrying about everyone she knows.. She also has a gambling addiction, which she is working on at the moment, and a smoking addiction. She has gotten to the point where she stresses so much that it is starting to effect her health (giving her eye twitches and other physical problems). Her nerves are basically shocked and it is extremely hard to try and convince her that ANY of this is real. I don't know what is wrong with her but she definitely has some sort of a mental illness now, and maybe even a physical. The only option left for her is an intervention. I am trying to plan one, but since I am only 17 it is hard to do this all by myself and make it legit enough for her to see what she is doing to herself. If you have ANY, any ideas, on how to start or have this intervention, or know of any homes that she can be taken to "to heal" essentially that would be great. Thanks so much in advance!
Amber
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When someone has a mental illness an intervention is not going to work, I know; I suffered from depression for many years before I finally realized what others where trying to tell me. An intervention would be a case of leading a horse to water and trying to make it drink, it just does not happen.
It is the same thing with addictions. My brother in-law is a member of AA 25 years sober. As he tells it a person has to hit bottom before they realize the need help. It is the same with some mental illnesses.
If a person is functioning then something is needed to happen to them to make them see they need help. For me it was an auto accident than nearly took my life. I was the victim in a three car accident and the only person injures. The stress of dealing with the lawyers and compensation people pushed me to my bottom. This is what your mom needs. Something that pushes her to her bottom that tell her she needs help, that she is not functioning.
You could try talking to your family doctor. Your mother may listen to her doctor. I didn't but we are all different.
The only other option is involuntary commitment. This is an extreme measure and as I said if mom is functioning. Meaning she can care fir you, herself, the house, pay her bill and so forth. You will probably not prevail at a commitment hearing.
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An intervention is usually consisting of a few to many people, by letting her hear the sides from a few different people like her friends, and your siblings that might get the message through to her,.
You could also talk to a therapist about how your worried that she hasn't fully 'let go'. Maybe she doesn't want to let go,. or she is just unsure how to handle the situation very well. I would talk to her about it and how it's making you feel and how it's being preceived by everyone around.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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