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I am so terrified please help me !
Posted Monday November 23 2015, 1:04 pm
26 female
I was dating this guy about 6 months ago and it started of great and then he started going crazy .
He came to my house and my dogs were on my moms lap and my mom was holding them because they were barking at him and he pulled out a knife and threatened to cut my dogs up in tiny pieces and at school last Tuesday he pulled out a knife and rope and scared me half to death. I immediately went home and the next day called the school and reported what happened. We were by ourselves even though I told him to leave me alone. He also said that he overdosed on Adderall when I broke up with him over the dog inncedent . I was at school today and the cop that the school put me on the phone with told me he knows him and ...
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A senior at my school is sexualizing me? I am a freshman.
Posted Tuesday November 3 2015, 8:07 pm
I have been really hesitant to post this because of fear of being told I am manipulating someone's "kindness" into something sinister or that I am reading too far into this, but ultimately this situation has escalated recently and I am feeling uncomfortable with it all.
To give some background, I just recently turned fifteen years old. I am a female in the 9th grade. I go to a Christian co-op (school alternative for homeschoolers, feel free to Google it) and take classes once a week. Now, I really enjoy it and have made a lot of friends there. The school is held at a church I have attended for over a decade. I used to look forward to school and it's in a safe place I have always associated with happiness and calmnes...
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Is this considered emotional abuse?
Posted Thursday October 1 2015, 8:11 pm
Okay I'm a 16 year old girl and me and my mo get into fights fairly often. They are about the stupidest things that I don't even know what the cause was sometimes. So, when we do get into fights she starts yelling all these different things at me like "you have no friends", "nobody likes you", "you are terrible to be around", "you are never going to get anywhere in life", "bitch", "snot" etc...
There are more but I don't know what to do. Like I try to not let it get to me but it's hard not to. I mean like what if she is right about all of this. I just don't know what to do.
But like when we aren't fighting she is like the best mom ever but as soon as ...
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Is it child abuse?
Posted Tuesday September 8 2015, 2:06 am
My parents would go out with their friends at night while I was little. The eldest son of their friends was paid to babysit my sister and I while they were out. I never liked him. He would usually throw my toys out the window or lock me outside the apartment. I told my parents and they did nothing. Even though it's been over 12 years since I never forgave them for ignoring things like that. But there was more than that. I never told them that the babysitter would kiss me a lot and even tried to cuddle me in my sister's bed. Since this happened over a decade ago I feel that my parents would treat it like an issue that's not important anymore. They've done that before when I told them about the other behaviors of the babysitter. He lives in a...
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does he really love me?
Posted Sunday July 26 2015, 5:28 pm
I don't understand if he really loves me or not...we have been in this relationship for 4years..he refused me 3times...4th time he came begging in front me himself...our families know about us...but all is alright except his alcohol consumption n accidents...n he is not settled yet...he just keeps changing jobs n still now not established well...they don't even have their own house...live in rented houses but they expend money like water on their tour car n vagabond lifestyle....i talked to him for several times about our future life n career...as his mom kept telling me to change her son's lifestyle n consuming alcohol habits...but she herself gives him liberty to do all these...n at the end of the day she put all the blames upon me...as i...
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pistanthrophobia
Posted Sunday July 19 2015, 6:33 pm
I used to love a guy n proposed him for 3times but he refused 1st 2times n accepted me the 3rd time.our families n frnz knoew abt us.his mother was extra friendly with me n my mom.on the other hans my parents didn't like them because of their lifestyle n status but they adjusted with them coz I loved that guy.in the beginning I was too naive to understand his mom's policies..she used to call my parents n me to complaint abt me n what have I done wrong n what shouldn't have I done..my parents never chased her son for anything..but then she started to put all the blames upon me for her son's alcoholism..the guy used to consume alcohol before even he knows me but his mom said I am the reason for which he gets hurt n compelled to drink..even wh...
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Emotionally abusive marriage, from the outside
Posted Tuesday July 7 2015, 8:53 pm
"Jane Doe" keeps asking me for help and advice but I don't know how to help her. Her boyfriend...well now husband, is abusive. He isn't physically abusive (yet) but he is definitely mentally/emotionally abusive! She is only 21 and he is 24 or so. We have been friends since high school and ever since they got together it's been a whirlwind. My boyfriend, family members, and other friends say I should give up. They have been together for four years give or take a few months. She is not allowed to see her family, her friends, he checks her phone an computer like clockwork everyday. He has to know where she is at all times. It's like she's in a prison, and he was actually a prison guard a few years ago but got fired. She has 'tried' t...
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husband hiding things and picking fights
Posted Monday July 6 2015, 7:01 pm
Lately my husband has been picking fights with me over anything and everything. No matter how small, it turns in to a knock down drag out ending with him telling me I should just go to my moms or telling me I should probably leave. It seems like he is always tip toeing around things while he waits for me to actually say them so I can be the bad guy. He may say "You just need to get your stuff and go to your moms, its not working out" and I'll say something along the lines of "fine if that's what you want ill get my things" and he will follow up with something like "you always leave". Then thirty minutes later he just acts like nothing ever happened..It makes me feel crazy. I don't feel like I should have to beg...
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Husband is distant and playing mind games
Posted Monday July 6 2015, 6:53 pm
The past few months my husband has really went downhill in a few ways. He has put on 50 pounds, he is always missing work, and no matter the problem or situation, I seem to get the back lash of it. He hardly talks to his family and expects me to do the same. He will turn small problems in to huge ones that he likes to make grudges of. I feel like nobody can do right by him and that eventually if I keep overlooking things, I will loose friends and family because of it. He is only friendly to me when he wants something. I work full time and do all of the house work with no help and am starting to think that this is how my life will be forever unless some actions are taken. I honestly feel very used and broken and think that we should be much ...
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feeling trapped in my marriage
Posted Monday July 6 2015, 6:46 pm
I'd like to start this off by saying that I love my husband very much and want things to work out between us, but at the same time I don't want to be living in denial. We have only been married over half a year, and the problems seemed to start right when we returned from our honeymoon. I'm working full time while he only works 4 days a week and usually misses one of those days because he refuses to get up. If I'm at work all day while he's home he will play Xbox and hang out with friends instead of helping with chores so on my days off I have to spend practically the entire day trying to catch up. I've been trying to finish college the past 2 years but its impossible working 45+ hours a week and having no help at home. Through out our rela...
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I am not a bad guy but my ex brought the bad out of me.
Posted Tuesday June 23 2015, 1:21 am
Hello I'm 13 years old and I have been through a fake relationship 2 years ago and it effects my courage and feelings today. There are many girls that went to my school and are going to my high school that I could have asked but I'm afraid. I think ill either be turned down or dumped. I am not a bad guy but my ex brought the bad out of me. We were friends for 6 months and I was already obsessed with her. Me and her always wrote notes to each other and we flirted alot. Then I gathered my courage before Christmas break and asks her out on the notes and she said yes. After that she never hugged me or touched me. Then she came to me a week later saying that my so call friend named chance said our relationship isn't real and I said why do you be...
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He followed me and still tried to have sex with me... What do I do?
Posted Monday June 22 2015, 9:23 pm
The other night my roommates had a party and one of their co workers was over. I went to bed and the next thing I know is he is coming g into my room asking if he can sleep in my room because his shoulder is out. Feeling sorry for him I said yes but made it clear that I was not gonna have sex with him and that he needed to stay on his side of the bed. The next thing I know he is kissing me and touching me and I told him to stop and said no but he just kept going so I tried to stop him but he them held me down knowing that he was stronger. I kept up with asking him to stop and saying no but of course he kept going. He then pulled down my pants and pinned my legs to were I couldn't move. I tried kicking and my pleas became more but he just ke...
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Abuse emotionally, physically and mentally
Posted Thursday June 11 2015, 5:32 am
Sigh, one over year ago against the advice from the people here, I married my girlfriend. That was the beginning of hell. I have taken a loan of $40000 from her to sustain my ongoing business since our marriage. But ever since then, she has been hounding me for the money. Also, I notice she start nit picking on me cos I lied to her ob many occasions. Why did I lie? Well, basically my spouse is not exactly a easy person to talk to. When I tell her the truth and it is something she doesn't like to hear or expect to hear, she will physically kuck me, slap me or beat me. I always walk away cos as a guy if I were to retaliate, I WILL HURT HER. So, I chose to lie. But then, she will chack on my phone, on me, call my customers and frds etc. She is...
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How to kill your self
Posted Wednesday June 10 2015, 8:42 pm
I im from Texas . my name is well ... that doesn't really matter . I've been sexually touched by 3 family members in my whole life .it all started when I was 2 . my mom even cried when she heard she was having a girl I was the accident child. every close relationship I have with a male gender , I always let them sexual touch me because im to scared to say anything . one of them lives in my house and they sexually touch me . I try myself to sleep . I have cuts all over me . I hate my body . I wish someone knew . I wish I would open my mouth ... but im scared . I don't want to live in a world where kids get abusive . because I was that girl . people might say I deserved it but I didn't . I was only 14 years old and I was only Abby .
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TORTURE I TELL YOU T-T
Posted Tuesday May 12 2015, 10:49 pm
Guys T-T I filed this under Abusive Relationships because I feel so tormented.
I have a bestfriend, and I love him, he always says he loves me back. We've been bestfriends for nine years. Then she came along.
This girl, gods! This girl became his girlfriend for only two months. All he talks about is her. I have access to his facebook, and all I see is, "I only love you and no one else" That's not all.
Everytime we ride the jeepney, it's a public transpo vehicle, I always get dizzy so I rest my head on his shoulder. But now, this girl gets MY shoulder. It's supposed to be MINE! T-T Now, I cant even ride the jeepney without holding my stomach and getting teary eyed.
We were...
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How can I get my boyfriend to stop hitting me? I can't leave I love him
Posted Monday April 20 2015, 1:41 pm
I love my boyfriend a lot.. But he has anger problems . And when he gets mad he slaps me or pushes me hard or punches my arm. And he always threatens to leave. How can I get this all to stop? He also calls me names all the time. But he said he loves me. Is it true?
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threatening of the ex that he would upload nude pics of mine on social medi
Posted Saturday April 11 2015, 5:38 am
My ex has been troubling me....he is threatening me that he would upload my nude pics on social media..I don't know how he got those pics...I'm really scared....can I do anything if he uploads those pics??is it punishable??will he be punished by law??I am from india
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Posted Wednesday April 8 2015, 1:55 pm
How i convince a girl to do sex with me
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Is this considered pedophelia/sexual harrassment?
Posted Wednesday March 18 2015, 1:16 am
(Not quite sure if i put this in the right category, sorry!)
Okay so this past summer, i became close with an older guy, he was 18 and graduated and i was 14 and getting ready to enter high school. He began asking me inappropriate things, such as if i touch myself, and if i've ever thought about being with a guy sexually, etc. I was (and still am) a very anxious person, and was too afraid to tell him that he was making me uncomfortable, and played along instead. He began getting more and more inappropriate as the weeks went on, admitting to liking me in a more than a friend way (which i usually wouldn't have had a problem with, had he behaved differently) and in the heat of the moment in a conversation about bsdm, he offered that if...
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How can I help my boyfriend control his anger. To me and around me.
Posted Wednesday February 18 2015, 12:34 am
I am a female age 24, my Fiancé and I have been together about two years and some times it feels like we couldn't be farther apart. He has been married two time and divorced, been to prison, and went all over the US. I have never been married, have no children, no debt besides my college loand, I am a parttime student, and have only had one serious relationship that lasted for four years outside of my current relationship .I have known him for six years and never known him to be abusive. The only incident I have ever been told about was him pushing his ex against the bed and locking her in to keep her from hitting him. He is a decent man but like all men he has his flaws. One of which happens to be an anger problem. He is on bipolar medica...
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