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at the start of the dream,im walking in a parking lot,like a store like vons one.There is this really attractive
guy riding around on a motercyle/moped type thing.He has a little girl at the back though somehow safely on it.
he keeps running into me with me in the dream secretly hoping to run into him again and talk.we did,and he started
showing intrest in me.He was 22,i wouldn't tell him i was 16,he said i looked at least 18 but assumed i was 17 because
of my saying how it wouldn't matter much.i went with him to this wierd complex thing where all of his friends were
and the little girl was unnoticably gone.we hung out there for a while.My mother called for me to come home and even offered to pick
me up but i said no no and told her ide be there soon.before i knew it the whole house was running from some guy.
i got lost in the place and couldn't find my way out.I wanted to call my mom right then but didn't for some reason.i ended up back at the house.after a long time or what seemed as such in
the dream,i went into his room put his arm around me and we ended up in an argument.I noticed then how unattractive he was
I went outside upset and one of his younger hotter friends handed me something and said "here this will make you
feel better" i didn't know what it was but i asked cause i immediatly felt wierd and hes like "herion" i started
freaking out when i opened up my hand to see a small needle in my skin.i could literally feel it through my veins
and it was a terrifying feeling.i didn't know what to do.i don't remember much after that.
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Your dreams go in a bunch of different directions, just like mine! It's simple to figure it out once you break it down, section by section.
So, when you begin your dream, you're in a parking lot. You see this older guy on a motorcycle, and the little girl on the back safe and sound. This little girl is a symbol of yourself. Since you're only 16, you may feel like you can't really measure up to someone who's 22, and you might feel intimidated or scared. The little girl on the motorcycle is there to prove to you that, even if someone's older than you, it's okay. You'll more than likely be safe [considering that person is not a creeper]. Have you recently had a thing for someone older than you, but afraid to go after them because of the age difference? That could be one possibility. Anyways, that also explains why you lied about your age- you're worried that being 16 just isn't quite old enough for anything yet. Overall the little girl is your trust and security, assuring you that everything, at that moment, is okay.
It's interesting that you say the little girl vanishes when you go to hang out with him and his friends. This could have two possible meanings:
1) You don't feel, or shouldn't feel, safe in this situation. You barely know him and now you're amongst all his friends- something potentially bad could happen, which is why the little girl representing your security and trust leaves. She's simply not safe there.
2) You feel older hanging out with this crowd, and you don't need your "little girl self" anymore. You don't need assurance to feel safe, and you want to get as far away as you can from your younger self and become the 17/18 year old.
Moving on. Your Mom called, and you undoubtedly told her you would get home by yourself, as how would that look for your Mom to come get you at this potentially dangerous/older people hanging out place? She would more than likely be furious, or she would unknowingly embarass you.
Then, all of a sudden, everyone begins to run away from a guy, leaving you behind. The "guy" could symbolize your Mom/commitment, and they're running away before they can get into trouble or get tied down to anything. Have you had problems recently with someone committing to you, like a family member, a friend, or a partner? You didn't want to call your mom because you wanted to prove your independence ... although you still sort of need her, you don't want to admit it at this point in your life; you want to "break free".
Then you find the guy, and he puts his arm around you, even though he just deserted you. You have an argument, and instead of the cool, hot guy you saw in the parking lot, you see the dumb, ugly guy he really is. This could be referring to some person in your life- do you like someone based on their looks? It could be a friend that you hang out with just because they're popular, or a boy that you like that happens to be really handsome. This doesn't mean they are necessarily ugly inside, but your dream is warning you to find out what they're really like before you get too involved.
Now, a hot younger friend of his hands you heroin to help calm you down, and you can feel it through your veins. This could represent pressure you presently feel to try something along those lines (drugs, alcohol, sex) and you are debating whether or not to partake. Your veins lead to your heart. This symbolizes that yes, you can try these things, but sooner or later you as a person are going to have to deal with the after affects and most likely go on an emotional rollercoaster. You don't know what to do, you're confused- do what you feel/know is right. You know the commercial that says, "There doesn't have to be a first time for everything"? That's true. If you do try these "things" (drugs, sex, alcohol etc) it does NOT make you a bad person. You will just have to deal with the after effects.
That's my take on your dream! I apologize for the insane length, but I wanted to cover all the areas of your dream for you in detail so you can fully understand it, relate it to your life and learn from it. Let me know if it makes sense, or if you need further explanations on certain points.
Best of luck,
xxLoveSweetxx
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so me and my boyfrind have kissed befor but they are only like a second long...how do i get him to hold it longer so we can actually make out? (link)
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Make sure you're in a comfortable space, especially where HE feels comfortable. The problem might be he's shy of kissing in public (it is a phobia, believe it or not), or maybe he doesn't want to kiss you in his or your house as he as a fear of a family member walking in on you two. It's kind of awkward to go right into the kiss for most, something must lead up to it. Have a great conversation first, preferrably something light and silly. This will make him feel more relaxed, as well as you, which is important. Find a reason to go in close to him, then give him a soft, slow kiss. Because he's not continuing the kiss, it's your job to lead him in. Kiss him again, and respond with your body; make him feel like you're totally interested in him, and only him, in that moment. Most likely he'll be so flattered that he'll kiss you back, and then hopefully it will turn into making out.
Don't french kiss him right away though; since he hasn't carried on a kiss so far, it might mean he thinks himself inexperienced as well. Just do nice, simple kisses (think of it as a "warm-up") and then you can lead into the more complex styles later. Good things take time.
Good luck!! Let me know how it goes. If he still doesn't respond, then there's another issue that we can maybe figure out. Hope it works out!
Best of luck,
xxLoveSweetxx
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Ok this is a really, really awkward question... I have a cousin... actually, he's my 4th cousin... and he rides my bus, and last year (in 7th grade) we became pretty close and everything (that was the year we figured out we were related). By the way, he's about half a year younger than me and in a grade lower. And he is really WRONG. Like, he's really perverted, but he is hilarious. So now that I'm in 8th grade, I've really missed him over the summer-we didn't do anything together. I don't talk to him much because I'm always in the very back, but I've found myself... uhm... trying to get his attention sort of. Here comes the really bizarre part... well, I think I might like him.... oh God that sounds weird... so that's my dilemma. I can't even ask my very best friend what to do, because she knows we're 4th cousins and that he's pretty much a freakshow. But I always find myself thinking about him, because he's really, really cute and has the hottest voice ever... ugh, there I go again!... I'm losing it... it's so weird, and I really want to find someone A. My own age, B. Not a perv and C. NOT RELATED to me, not even if it's distant. Please, PLEASE help me, I have no idea what to do!!! I feel like a total wreck... (link)
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No, it's not wierd at all! Do you know that its extraordinarily common for cousins to feel affection amongst each other? Not just family affection, but other affections as well (a.k.a. attraction). You are technically related, but if you really think about it, he is your 4th cousin .. FOURTH cousin .. unless his family holds very close relations to yours, I see nothing wrong with getting involved with him.
Don't worry about the age thing; it sort of seems like a big deal now, but in the long run, one or two years difference is not totally mindblowing.
So, you're not a perv. Don't feel like a wreck; it's perfectly normal to feel things for him, espcecially if you get along well. Just talk to him. Hey, you may even discover that you two should just be friends. Or who knows!
Best of luck,
xxLoveSweetxx
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So my hair was medium to light brown and i decided i wanted it blonde. So i bleached it (cant remember the name of the product) and it turned bright yellow! so i put in some lighter caramel highlights which look fine but the problem is the rest of my hair apart from the highlights. Its still quite yellow and goes orangey at times. I have a shampoo called shimmer lights which has toned down the yellow to a large extent but its still quite yellowy and i dont want it to be yellow at all. I want it a natural blonde colour but not as light as platinum blonde.
So the question is, should i use a toner? or should i put the colour of the highlights all over my hair? if the worst comes to the worst i will save up to go to the hairdressers, but id artehr try and fix it myself first. My hair isnt a disaster, but it isnt the blonde i wanted.
Any advice would be helpful =]
Sorry for the long question.
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Be careful about using hair products to bleach or streak your hair. Some are fine, and others can leave your hair with unwanted colours and a brittle feeling. Yuck! Some are all right, though. When you go the drugstore, ask the ladies that are there to help you choose the right product. Or search a bit online first; you can usually find good products there.
Here's the breakdown:
CHEAP=bad.
Pretty simple, right? Although it can be tempting to buy two dollar hair products, the majority of the time they won't work. Always spend just a little more money [unless you're absolutely positive about the product]. Even then, you can never be 100% certain that it will work.
I know you wanted to find another solution, but the way to get your hair totally fixed is a GOOD hairdresser. Not a cheap one [Don't go to Great Clips].
Good luck! To get rid of the buildup in your hair from the bleaching products, wash it with baking soda and vinegar for a quick fix.
Best of Luck,
xxLoveSweetxx
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