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Q: im 14yr old guy and my penis is bent a bit when i get an erection im a bit worried is that normal
would it matter to girls?

well, i dont really know if thats normal or something is wrong, it could be that its just how your penis is. i dont know because everyone is different. but personally i wouldnt care. maybe another girl might. but it depends on the girl and if she really likes you. if she likes you then she shouldnt care. and alot of girls have something they think is not normal or weird about there vaginas or breasts, so as long as it doesnt bother you, dont be worried about it.

Q: This is terribly hard for me to confess - and its awful - but lately I've been fantasizing about someone close to me dying because that would give my ex-crush a reason to contact me, and comfort me, and for me to get close to him again. It's sooo bad, I know. Especially since I shouldn't even be thinking about him in the first place (he used me for third base) -- and I deinitely do not want anyone to die!! What can I do to stop thinking liking this?? Help me please cause I feel awfully guilty.

aww its fine to feel like that. do things you love with your friends and take your mind off him. i have done that many times. it is possible that the other ppl around you like your family and friends arnt exactly being the most loving to you at the moment. which is making you even more desperate for love. ive been there before, and the feeling will go away with time. i promise. -hope i helped.

Q: WEll, i think i am gay. I dont know what to do. I love my girlfirned, but i sometimes, i feel an atraction to other men. What do i do?

well, just because you feel attracted to other guys, doesnt meen your gay. you could be bi-curious. or maybe you just are lost and are still trying to figure out which way to go. if you love your girlfriend and feel comfortable talking to her, i suggest you do. and if she loves you she wont try to make it any more confusing

Q: well i like this guy and we flirt a lot and he likes me too but he hasn't asked me out yet...we haven't kissed yet and we walk home everyday...what can i do to like flirt and try to kiss him while not trying to make it obvouis that i wanna make out with him...like how can i do it out of surprise to kiss him

well you dont want to kiss him out of nowhere unless you think he likes you. because that might get him nervous or pressure him into likeing you because he doesnt want to hurt your feelings. so be careful. but i say if you guys are close, GO AHEAD! dont make it awkward though. like if he is walking you to your house or somthing you can say goodbye, and then just give him a little kiss. and that would totolly let him know you like him. i dont think i helped, but i hope so!

Q: Ok so I have this boyfriend and I like him a lot and I just love to be with him and I know he likes to be with me...I want him to know that he can tell me anything I want him to tell me things that he couldn't even tell his best friend...He likes to joke around a lot and so do I...But when things get serious and I have to tell him something important or talk about a very touchy topic I want him to take it seirously...I just don't feel like I can come to him crying I wnat to be able to do that I just don't know what to do?!?!?! Can you help me???? Thanx!

well, my boyfriend is the exact opposite. he is the one i can come crying to, but isnt so big on the joking level. talk to him about it. and try to tell him. i know its wrong, but i would test him. if you want to know if he can support you for things like that, go crying to him one day. and if he is there for you then you know you can always go to him. if he is not...well then you can choose what to do. hope i helpedd!

Q: so theres this guy. and hes liked me since 4th grade, but i never liked him. But, now, he doesnt like me anymore and I like him. We're friends though. So I have friends that kind of "outshine" me. so whenever we all see each other in the hallway, they are funnier than me, and i think he likes them better. How do I get him to notice me? How do I get him to like me? Please answer, thanks.

dont listen to xxch33rleadxx or w.e she doesnt know what she is talking about. im sure your just as pretty as your friends. maybe they are louder and ur more quiet. but im sure he still notices you but he probably just gave up becuase you didnt like him. but now that you do, you should talk to him more and let him know you have a thing for him!

Q: whats a clit on a girl??

help asap!

Clit it like slang for vagina. Alot of boys usr this becuase they are extremely perverted

Q: Dear Everyone,

how can you tell a guy likes you. i know i should just ask him but i dont really want to unless im sure he actually does.

signs that he likes me?

1. he IMs me first[before i used to IM first]
2. he has nicknames for me [which no one else has]
3. his default pic on his myspace is of me and him together
4. he plays around with me by holding my hand, sitting on my lap, messing with my hair, ect.
5. out of all his friends that are girls, he pays the most attention to me
6. he constantly wants to hang out together and when i have to go he begs me to stay[lol he will hold on to me and not let me go!]
7. he will make certain remarks; did i ever tell you how much i love you?
8. he shares his secrets with me that he has told no one else
9. he hugs me from behind
10. we always get mistaked for being a couple
[the other day a guy came up to me and said someone told him that my friend and i were "together". and when i asked him who told him that he wouldnt tell me. he said he forgot.]

but see the problem with all of this is that i used to like him then i told him and it was a disater because the feelings werent returned. and then i stopped liking him and now i do again. so im not sure about this one.

sincerly,
Emily Williams

no problem Emily. i know exactly what your talking about. im having sum issues with that too. sept this guy is my best friend in the whole world!

Q: im naturally firty when it comes to guys, and so far its worked pretty well. Im 15 btw.I always thought guys were pretty much the same when it came to what they were looking for in a girl. But ive noticed lateley that the "typical" thing that a guy wants in a girl is different than what i previously thought. i mean, they're all different, so they all like different qualities, not all of them want drop dead gorgeous girls, but in general, can anyone tell me what they've noticed that guys like in a girl. oh and if ur a guy, your advice is appreciated!

ur right, every guy has a different opinion in the kind of girls they like. but i tihnk what matters to alot of guys is a girl they can laugh with. talk to. and just be themselves with. im only 13, but i think i have a pretty good advice on this. i definitly know what ur talking about. HOPE I HELPED!