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Latley I've been so obsessed with, and depressed because of - looks. And I finally figures out my reason for feeling so bad. A guy. Pathetic, yes I know. I want this guy to be so proud of me that he wants to walk around the mall with me under hus arm so he can show me off and people can envy me. I want to be his main pride. I want him to feel so lucky I'm his. So I've been killing myself dieting and searching for the perfect look. Now I have 2 questions..
1) How do I prevent this from happening EVERYTIME i like someone? I would like to be able to have a crush without hating myself..you know?
2) What makes a guy proud to show you off? Is it all about the nice ass and skinny body? Or is it looong curly beautiful hair that gets other guys attention?
I know he thinks I'm pretty (atleats I think so, otherwise he wouldnt even bother talking to me right?) so its just a matter of making him feel like he's got something others want - me.
How do I do this? (link)
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Ok, first of all - This is in NO way pathetic!
wanting to be a prize on your man's arm is a good thing!
To be honest, as a guy myself, the thing we find MOST attractive in a girl is her personality!
a girl could look the hottest in the world at first impression, but if her personality stunk, automatically she becomes less attractive!
on the flipside, a girl doesn't have to be the hottest ever, for a guy to find her beautiful!
there is absolutely no way you should be starving yourself to look good! I'm sure that if you just be yourself and stop being somebody else, he will find you truly attractive and beautiful! if this isn't enough, then he most certainly isn't the right man for you! NO guy should make you want to change!
Hope this has been a little help! :3
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ok so first of all i have 3 sisters and 2 brothers and we all share this account so please dont mention the other quistions my brothers and sisters have posted ok lets get started so:
I really like this boy his name is Dustin he is 14 and Im 13 but there is this little problem he asked out one of my sisters but she said no and told him she wasnt in to him that way do you think its ok to invite him to go to the movies or somthing or do you think that he still wants to be with my sister more than me and will just be using me to get to her what do you think is the best thing to do
Mallisa (not my real name) (link)
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Hi there 'mallisa' :)
i think the best thing for you to do right now, is just to get close to Dustin. Become a good friend with him, and through this friendship, if all goes well - it could very well turn into a relationship!
just try not to come across as needy or clingy, just be his friend!
through being his friend first, you will know his feelings! us boys are quite easy to read, it'll be simple for you to read him, once you are his friend! :)
Hope this has helped! :3
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I have been with my boyfriend for nine months now. We are very happy together, and have not gotten into any fights. However, there has been a lingering problem in our relationship that I fear will turn into a huge problem if not dealt with. First of all, we come from different educational backgrounds. He attended a public school in the city, and I attend a private school in the suburbs. While this may not seem huge, it plays a big role in this problem. Early on in the relationship, we met each other's friends. I got along just fine with his crowd. They were friendly and interested in knowing more about me. My friends were a bit frigid and snobbish towards him. That impression has never left him. So any time I want us to hang out with my friends, he immediately refuses. It always ends up that we hang out with his friends. They're wonderful people, but I feel bad that he and I can't share that same happiness with my own friends. It seems like a horrible double standard, because any time I seem to suggest anything related with my crowd he complains about how "uncomfortable" he is. At the start of our relationship, I was not comfortable with his friends, but I adapted to the situation and realized they were good people. It seems like he will not give any of my friends a chance. While it is true that most people who go to my school are "stuck up," my close friends do not act that way. The result from all this is that my friends are sad I can't hang out with them anymore. I am always with my boyfriend and his friends. I miss my friends, but at the same time I do not want to lose my boyfriend. He is the best person to come into my life, and the most caring person I know. I don't think he realizes that he is hurting me, because he is naturally shy and afraid of rejection. Could it be that he feels rejection from my friends? Is there any way to resolve this situation without hurting people in the process? (link)
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One of the worst feelings in a relationship (being a guy myself) is when your Girlfriend's friends have that air of disapproval of you. It is a VERY disheartening feeling, and it leaves you feeling like your Girlfriend will eventually feel the same way. First of all, you need to understand his feelings. every time he feels those feelings, he is going to get a little depressed/downbuzzed that you will feel the same way. No matter what he will say, your friends opinions will always matter to him, and at the moment the best option to him is to run away from all this.
Baring this in mind, he needs to realise that in a relationship you need to have a even pull from both sides. at the moment, it sounds like you are giving emotionally a lot more than he is, which is good to give a lot, but it isn't healthy to not feel the same reception from him.
I think the best thing to do in this situation is to sit down with him and tell exactly how you feel about this.
Be gentle, just also be firm and assertive about it. Let him know that he has to give your friends a chance, because it is totally unfair on you.
I went through this exact same situation with my girlfriend - she went to an expensive boarding school and i went to a co-ed public high school. In the end, she sat down and we talked about it. Nobody was in control of the situation, we both just talked about how we felt about the situation.
Hope this has helped! :3
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I have a boyfriend. When I first met him, we started talking as friends, and those feelings turned into a relationship. He asked me out the first time we hung out aside from where we met. It was Valentines Day. He would have been considered to be my first boyfriend. I was scared to get into the relationshp because I was terrified at what was going to happen. My parents wouldn't have approved of me dating now but I figured I was old enough and if everyone can hide it, why can't I? It was pretty difficult for me to adjust to the feeling of depending on my relationship with a person to have a certain mood. It was hard to see each other when we started dating because my parents were so strict so we saw each other maybe once a month or every two months. Suddenly, he started feeling as if we were distancing and I, somehow, felt better about our relatioship. Talk about miscomminucation. I found out that he broke up with me, over the internet, saying that he's ever so busy and he feels like we're falling apart. I find out from someone else that he went out with this other girl and they made out a few times and whatnot. In the end, it turned out she was very slutish and he said he was done with her. Too bad the girl is his best friend's cousin. Anyhoo, we started talking again after a few months and I still had feelings for him, he knew, but was apparently too scared to talk to me. He finally did one day, on the night of my highschool graduation. I actually made a wish into a fountain for it. I was highly surprised. We started talking since and we ended up going to the same college. He told me he doesn't care about her and I have nothing to worry about. It still bothers me because I feel like I'm beneath him in some way. The girl thinks shes still friends with him, I guess they are, because he's a nice person like that but she can be a total b*tch. I don;t know, I always wonder what if she was good with him. Then what? I know I should be happy that he is here with me but I keep wondering, am I meant to be with him? I can't tell if I feel reluctant to give my everything to him after what he did. The last thing I want to do is get back at him by doing what he did to me to make it even but somehow, I feel that if I did get the opportunity, I will and I might lose him. I'm so confused. (link)
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WOW!
ok, I'm a guy, and i absolutely HATE this type of person. I'm not here intending to insult you or anything of the like, but from what i hear, he doesn't sound like he's good relationship material :C
i KNOW it's very tempting to get back into a relationship with him, and who wouldn't want to, with somebody you have a lot of feelings for! - but if you look at the facts, he qucikly got into a new relationship with another girl, and broke up with her also. - also! he broke up with you over the internet! that's cowardly in my opinion. There needs to be an equalisation of both parts in the relationship, and at the moment - just liek you said - it seems like he is taking control of the situation. he needs to know that you aren't just a playtoy to muck around with whenever you feel like it!
Don't "settle" for anybody, find the man who will chase YOU, find the man who will RESPECT you, find the man who is a REAL man!
Hope this helps a little bit, and sorry if some of the things i said were a bit raw
:3
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f/17. Sorry if this is long. Me and my kindasorta boyfriend- lets call him cody-have been together for two years. This past month or so ijust havent felt the same. I feel like were just growing apart and idk what to do. We took a break and during this break i went and got a milkshake with a guy named caleb. this really upset cody and he got really mad. I understand why hes upset i just dont think he should be as mad as he is. I dont feel like i did anything wrong we didnt do anything sexual we didnt even kiss. me and cody are together now just not really on good terms. I do like caleb, hes a sweet guy and hes more my type then cody is. but i love cody(i think) and i just cant leave him. i dont know if i want to leave him or try and make it work and i just really dont know what to do. How can I fix my relationship with him or get us both to move on? (link)
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hi there,
i went through this exact same experience as you a little while ago.
I was with a girl that i really liked, she was my kinda sorta girlfriend, and i was sure that i was in love with her :]
we grew apart, and i became miserable with the way she flirted with other guys, and her jealousy when i would chat with other girls.
i know it seems hard, but the best thing i did, was let us grow apart from each other. It made the breakup so much easier, and it gave it the sense that it was mutual, so that there was no blame and no residue from the relationship.
The thing that i realised, was that i have a long time ahead of me to find a better relationship. ya know?
It's never an easy decision to make, and i very much commend you for asking for help :]
i hope this has been at least a little help :3
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