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I know im only 14, but I've been through a lot with guys so thats probably my best advice i can give on..but I'm also good in school..so i can give pretty good advice on that too. Your welcome to ask anything you'd like and I will do my best to give you the greatest advice i can.

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Ok this is kinda of embrassing... but i want to have sex with my bf, im 16 and im ready... but heres the question... do most people shave, u know... down there? i dont know if i should or not, please help if u can

from,
very confused

most girls are different. shaving down there or not isnt really that big of deal. i think girls usually shave but you cant really tell who does and who doesnt just because everybodys different. just ask ure friends what they think and what they do..because i really dont know what to tell you. just do whatever you feel comfortable with..or if you want you can ask ure bf what he likes ya know? if i were you i`d get an opinion from friends also.

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why is it that guys only want sex every guy that i have been with only cares about that and i feel like it is my fault and i get hurt b.c of it should i just lose it or what should i do
help plz...

not all guys only want sex but most of them do. i cant tell you why thats all they want because i really dont know but i hate it when theyre like that. i know its hard but try to find the ones that arent like that. there are some out there and those are the ones ure better off with. but if you have a boyfriend thats like that you should find somebody better and dont give ureself to guys just because thats what they want. guys tend to use girls alot and its not good. look for the good guys..they'll come along dont worry. Good Luck

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There's this guy that I really really like. I've gone out with him before...but we broke up because he heard rumors about me liking other guys. He's a senior and I'm just a freshmen...so it's hard for him to believe me over his friends. But like every night he calls me and says "I love you baby and I'll always be there for you" and all this sweet stuff...even though we aren't going out. Lately at school when I walk up to him he barely even looks at me and doesn't wanna give me a hug or anything. He just wants to shake hands. He trys to act like a hardass infront of his friends....What should I do about him? Get over him...or what. Cuz I like him so much but he's just a jerk around his friends.

Truthfully i think you should get over him because no girl deserves a guy like that. Dont let him walk all over you like hes been doing. Thats really not right and not respecting you at all. I know it'll be hard to get over him because you really like him but you need to not waste ure time on him and find a guy that treats you right before it gets too late. Good luck! xOxO

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well,im like absolutely POSITIVE im straight but it's like every once in a while ill get pretty close to a girl and be like BEST FRIENDS FOR LIFE and then i start gettin lesbian feelins toward them.how can i tell if they feel the same way without talking to them about it.HELP!
sex:female
age: 12

You can tell if she feels the same by seeing if she gives you the same signs that you give her. But maybe what you feel towards them isnt lesbian feelings. Maybe you just feel really close with her because shes ure best friend. Dont say anything to her about it bc she might get a lil freaked out about it. I mean being a lesbian is ure decision but she still might be freaked out if she doesnt feel the same. Just pay attention to the signs shes gives you. Good Luck!

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i like this guy and i went out with him b4 but he is younger than me by one year and i think about him all tha time and i dont kno if i want to back out with him b/c everyone would always say stuff to me about it but he is like the only guy who has treat me right and i dont kno if i want to tell him about how i feel b/c it might ruin our friendship and we are best friends...14/f

Age is only a number..it shouldnt matter how old you are or how old the other person is..if you really like them and have feelings for them then age doesnt matter at all. No matter what anyone says to you if you like him go for him..and if you've gone out before and yall are still friends then going out again probably wont be a bad thing..you should always take risks because it could turn out to be a good thing..it sounds like you really like him. and if he treats you good thats another plus. i say go for it and dont care about what other people think. its your business..not theirs! xOxO

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Theres this guy and he keeps doing stuff to me I dont like. What do I do? I tell him to stop constantly but he wont stop.

Tell somebody. He obviously doesnt make you comfortable and he doesnt listen to you and thats not right. Get help from an adult you trust and dont be scared to tell somebody. If you dont like what hes doing then do something about it. It could only get worse and thats probably whats going to happen if you dont let somebody know. Just dont be afraid..everything will be okay.

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theres this guy and he keeps touching me and doing stuff to me i dont like it, i try to get him to stop but he wont! it makes me unconforatable! what should i do?? please help me!!!!!!!!
14

If you tell him to stop and he still wont you need to tell somebody. Thats sexual harrassment and he can get in a lot of trouble for doing that. It sounds like you really dont like it and really dont want it so tell somebody. Dont be scared to let somebody know. All it will do is help you and thats what you need. Dont let this guy keep doing this to you. Its not right. Seriously go tell a parent/teacher/gaurdian..somebody that will do something about it. Good Luck!

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hey theres this guy i reely like in skool and he is a senior but im only a freeking freshman.. and he blows kisses and stuff at me bc we r friends but i reely like him and he has a g/f what do i do???

I know you may not want to hear this but maybe hes just playin around with you because he does have a girlfriend and everything. If yall are friends then hes probably just being that flirty friend all guys try to be. Whatever you do dont break him and his girlfriend up because that will only make things worse. You can go along with him and flirt back if you want to but you have to keep in mind he does have a girlfriend. :-/ Theres nothing wrong with liking him. Nobody can help who they like.

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Ok, me and my boy got in a fight i guess u could say, and i know hes pissed but he says hes not, ive tried so hard to tell him that im sorry, and hes like its alright but things are weird now... is there anyway i can apologize to him.. where he will accept it and move on?
HELP!!

Try to talk to him about it and get him to tell you whats up and why hes acting the way he is. Dont just tell him youre sorry. Show him. Let him know that you made a mistake and it wont happen again. Tell him how you feel and that you dont want any strange feelings between you and that if theres a way to fix it you will do that. Hopefully he'll get over it and move on. good luck!

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How do u tell ur bf u dont want to use tounge without making it weird or hurting his feelings?

Tell him youre not comfortable with doing that. And if he cant respect your decisions and what you want to do and what you dont want to do then hes not a good bf. He should be willing to stop when you dont want to do something. It shouldnt hurt his feelings. Just tell him its not something your in to. Im sure he wont be upset or mad or anything. xOxO

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with this guy.. like him a lot, hes a senior and im a softmore(sorry, cant spell) anyways... i want a long term, he wants a long term, but hes either going to go straight to work or go to college, so i dunno if i should stay with him, bc im def falling 4 him and him 4 me, please help me the best u can, thanks

15, female

This relationship sounds pretty serious and it seems like you both really like each other. You definately dont want to lose the relationship. If he does end up goin to work or college the best thing you can do is keep in touch as much as possible. Maybe you guys should take a break while he figures out what he wants to do and when he's made a decision see whether it would be best to get back together or still take time apart. If you guys do take time apart you can still keep in touch and see each other as much as possible. And if you dont take time apart then try your best to work around the issues with him leaving. It seems like you guys really want this to work so I'm pretty sure if yall try and work hard enough everything will be okay. Hope I helped! :-)

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im 15 and been with my bf for about 5 months
and he's a bit shy about his penis size
so what is the average sized penis for a 15yr old?
He's about 5 inches long.

I'm not exactly sure what the "average" penis size for that age is but its not TOO small but its not big ya know? It's in between. But he shouldn't be shy about it..maybe he hasnt completely matured yet. All guys are different. If he's shy about it, it just makes things awkward so tell him to be proud! :-P From what people have told me 15 year olds are about 6 inches..but don't worry. Everything'll be fine
;-)

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Ok, i have a boyfriend, and i really really like him... thing is i dunno how to kiss and im almost 16! I mean, ive had the whole tounge in mouth, french kiss w/e... but it feels like im doing it wrong. I need to know how to do it, and make sure im doing it right. And when ive had it, i haven't quite enjoyed it, so i dunno if its me or if ive just had really bad...

There really is no "right" way to kiss. You're probably just worrying that your not good enough. If you worry it makes you think you're doing it wrong when you most likely arent. Just dont worry so much. And if your boyfriend hasnt complained about it and has kissed you more than once then you cant be that bad at it. Dont sweat it sweetie, you'll be fine. :-)

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I have this friend that I just started becoming best friends with last year. We used to talk on the phone all the time and talk everytime we saw each other but then this guy that she likes asked her out. Now whenever I see her, she doesnt stop to talk because shes always with him. Or like whenever its the three of us, Im just sitting there wishing I was somewhere else. I dont know what to do because they're cute together and I want her to be happy but I feel like we're losing touch fast.

:Need help quick:

The first thing you should do is talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel and that its hurting you the way shes acting. Dont be afraid to speak up. If you do tell her, it could make her realize that she is wrong for ignoring you just because hes there and make her change the way she is. Im kind of in this situation right now, except im the girl with the boyfriend. I know i dont spend all my time with my friends like i used to but its hard trying to make time for both. Especially if the boy and girl really like being around each other. Friends should always come before guys no matter what. Try to make a plan with her about when to spend time with you and when to be with her boyfriend. You dont want to have to make her choose between her best friend and her boyfriend because that wouldnt be right. I know you dont like feeling left out and if i were you i would say something to her about it. Dont lose your friendship just because of a guy. Its totally not worth it. Good Luck!

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Okay..well if kinda been seeing this guy for about a year we were togther all summer and i really think i could honstley love him! Any thing ANYTHING you can do w/ a guy i have done w/ him and he was my fisrt.. i mean even my first kiss lol But last year i didnt see him at school because he was in the high school and i was in the middle..and now this year i am a freshmen and he is a senior! SO he dosnt talk to me at school becasue he is a senior and am a freshmen. And i have talked to him about it but he says that i dont talk to him BUT i try to and he just looks at me..so what should i do? I dont want to be w/ some one who ignores me

Are you still together? If you are and he ignores you like that, it isnt right. Any guy should be proud of going out with their girfriend and not ashamed of her, even if she is a few years younger than him. When he tells you that he thinks you dont talk to him when its really him not talking to you, i think hes just looking for an excuse. I know you really like him maybe even love him but he shouldnt ignore you like that. As hard as it is to believe..some guys only want one thing from a girl and do anything they can to get it. I could be wrong but why else would he ignore you? Because if he really cared about you he wouldnt be ashamed to walk down the halls with you or talk to you let alone be your boyfriend. Dont chase after him. Let him come to you. And if he doesnt then it just wasnt meant to be and im sorry. Most definately you should tell him how you feel about it all and see how he responds. From his response, you should be able to tell if he really cares or not. Good Luck!

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Well theresz this guy, And I have always had strong feelings for him. But me and him are both in a relationship and im not sure what to do, Like i cant tell him, He would just act different around me , but dont get me wrong or anything i really love my boyfriend, I just cant ever get this other guy off my mind, If you could just please try and help me out or give me sum advice, Thanks a bunch

*confused*

Have you and this other guy ever dated before? Being stuck in the middle of two guys can be tough. You just have to think about which one you have more fun with, which one makes you happier, and which one do you feel more comfortable around. If your feelings are stronger for the other guy than your boyfriend then maybe its the other guy your heart is telling you to be with. Dont straight out tell him how you feel but give him hints and see if he catches them and plays along. Like talk to him more, hang out with him more, and flirt with him some just not too much that people think you're cheating on your boyfriend. And if you cant get him off your mind then most likely theres a reason why hes on it. It sounds to me like you like that guy more than you do your boyfriend and you shouldnt lead on your boyfriend if you really like the other guy. Good Luck!

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i have this really cool boyfriend but im am starting to have lesbian feelings towards my best friend....im really confused...and i need help...im really scared that i might try sumthin and she be really grossed out and not my friend nemore....:(
I NEED ADVICE!!!!


AGE:16
GENDER:FEMALE

Okay, first you need to make sure your feelings for your best friend are real. Do you know you like her or do you think you like her? If you know you like her talk to her about it. And if she is your true best friend she wont judge you for it or think differently of you but if she does then she was never a true best friend. And if she thinks its not right for you to like her or do things with her then dont pressure her or make her feel uncomfortable when shes around you. Theres nothing wrong with how you feel because its what you choose. If she doesnt feel the same for you then thats also her choice too so you have to be fair to her. But if she does end up feeling the same way. then hey! you both lucked out. Good Luck

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