the_calm_storm's advice column

Hey, I'm Nat =]. I live in the USA and my favorite bands are RHCP and Arctic Monkeys - and then, I basically love any other music that isn't Country, 'cos that makes me puke :X. My favorite tv shows are LOST, SOUTH PARK, and, THE SIMPSONS. ^_^!
I love to read and write, so I do that a lot.. And, although this is totally irrelevant.. I LOVE VOLLEYBALL AND SOFTBALL!
Also, I have managed the art of doodling - and draw random things on basically any paperwork I can get my hands on!

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i still remember the realitionship.. it was great. it was everything i had hoped for.. i got my first kiss and i felt like i was flying above clouds and stuff. then it ended like out of no where. this was a few months ago. we have remained friends.. and sometimes i wish i could go back and be with him. he was the only time in my life i was ever truely happy. i still get butterflies for guys but they are nothing to the ones i got with him. any advice on how to maybe get passed the past?

Please refrain from posting twice (it's an act of impatience) and I've got all the time in the world to answer these! ;)

- Nat

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He was the only time in your life that you were ever truly, actually, happy? C'mon - you don't actually mean that, do you? Because, if you do, I guess you put a whole new meaning to the saying, 'You don't need a guy to make you'! ;)
If I were you, I would cling onto the relationship that you have with your ex-boyfriend. Sometimes, friendships are better than relationships!
Absorb yourself in your friends, and sports that you play - stuff that makes you happy! It'll help you eventually forget about the relationship you once had. After all, some things just aren't ment to be!
I don't suggest getting a new boyfriend too soon; that'll just remind you of your ex and how much better you liked him! I hope I helped!

- Nat

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Me and one of my so called friends are fighting and this time she said she was done. but then again she says that all the time.. so do you think this is temporay? well HELP

If she says that all the time, then, she's probably just trying to scare you into apologizing to her.
If I were you, I would reconsider being friends with someone who you always fight with.
But, if you really value her that much in your life, try talking to her and apologizing, then explain to her how you can't keep fighting like this.

- Nat

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hey i have a problem i like this boy and i think he likes me too but i dont know after jsut one vacation BOOM he changes into a different guy. And today i tried to talk to him and YEA FINALLY HE SPOKE!! but then i told him that he was acting weird and he changed alot (was that a bad thing to do) and yea now we are chatting but idk what is gonna happen r we still gonna be friends or not friends after this??

thxs for listening

Were you two friends before he 'changed'?
It's probably just one of those weird things that guys go through, and it could be just a phase. I think it's a good idea that you told him how he was acting differently because he should be aware of the changes he's going through.
If you're chatting with him now, and things are going alright, I'd say that you two are going to continue to be friends. Just make sure you keep in touch with him and don't ignore him; I hope things work out. If not, you can always come to me with more questions!

- Nat

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HI NAT ITS LANEYand i like this one guy what should i do? and i felt like asking you a question but yea..RYAN SHECKLER IS REALLY HOTT....-strokes chin- hmmm dono what to ask next, what to ask next. kayyy byeeerezzz

IT'S AN ANONYMOUS ADVICE COLUMN. *cough* Haha ;)

I think I know what guy you like.. *hemhem* And, well, see if he's in any of your classes (or find out by going to the classes), then, er, compliment him or say, "Hey *****, what's up?" And remember: don't be shy.
But, I'm really not one to help because I have the same problem as you do!

- Nat

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i like this boy a lot. i've liked him on & off for a couple months but he is a year older then me. and i started again because i realized how hot & what a great really nice guy he is.

i'm pretty sure he likes me too by the way he talks about me and stuff. and he has invited to a couple parties he was having & i couldn't make it cause i was on vacation and my parents said no ... i appologized twice on online and each time.. he is like it okay.

so anyway schools coming up..and he rides my bus and i didn't know if i should tell him how i feel or not. i dont wanna mess anything up. he is so great. and like ive always been the year younger girl friend of his. until this past year when i flirted and dress up and made myself 'pretty'. and if we do go out i dont want like things to like WRONG if you know what i mean.. cause he jokes like.. if we were to go out i would hold you and touch you and stuff like that. thats why i need some ideas on things to say to get him to get him to ask me outtt =)

Hmmm, it seems like this guy really likes you.. if he talks about going out with you and stuff. Maybe he's just too shy to actually ask you out.
And, when you couldn't go to the parties he invited you to, it also seems like he was disappointed - because he likes you. I think that you should see how he acts around you (if he flirts, or continues what he's been doing), and make your friendship really strong until you either tell him how you feel, or ask him to go out (I suggest to see a movie with you.)
You shouldn't wait around for him to ask you - because who knows if that's going to happen (he still needs to get over his shy-ness ;D); plus, if he finally DOES get the guts to ask you out - you could have already lost interest.
Anyways, I hope I helped!

- Nat

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well this fall i am starting high school. whole new school, new classes, and teachers. i am afraid if i don't get classes with my friends i will lose them. and i think i am going to get lost. maybe i am just nervous cause its new what do you think?

I think almost everyone feels this way when they go to a new school - and especially if it's highschool. A giant, huge school with hundreds of kids and you only know less than a handful, eh?
Well, in a way, it's good that they aren't in many of your classes - you really don't want them to distract you from your studies, especially your freshman year. I know, that sounds totally unreasonable.. but in a way it's true.
Keep in touch with your friends throughout the year - talk to them on AIM, call them, go to the mall with them, invite them over - let them know what's going on in your life and make sure they know that you want to know what's going on in theirs.
It's going to be hard, but I'm sure you'll be able to make some new friends; after all, I'm sure almost everyone feels the same way you do!

- Nat

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I'm sorry you find my predicament funny. Will find a cork to plug up butt with thanks.

I'm sorry, but you even thought it was funny, too! ;D

If your parents drink wine - a cork from a wine bottle will work great!

- Nat

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I think I like my best guy friend. I met him back in the 7th grade when he was dating my friend. He said he was going to dump me for her because he liked me and I secretly liked him. I like him again. We got really close when they broke up and now my friend still likes him and I don't want to fight about liking him or anything so what do you think I should do?

Do you two like each other? I wouldn't suggest talking about how much you like him in front of her - it could result in some snarky comments. You know how girls are these days..
I think that (if you're in junior high ;D), you shouldn't risk your friendship and go out with him, unless you know that it isn't going to be 'just a title' and you two are actually going to DO something together.
But, if you think it's going to jeopardize your friendship (like I said in the above) then don't go out with him, and wait until highschool.
And, if things are getting really bad between your friend and yourself regarding him.. kindly talk to her about it and express your feelings.

- Nat

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Hey advice dude.. I have a question...

My dog whenever she farts she frightens herself. I mean it's very funny to see her jump up and sniff her butt but they stink alot and I want her to stop. Do you have any advice on how to do that?

*points and laughs*
*cough*

That's, um, very, very, horrific.. let me see if I can help: What kind of dog food are you feeding your dog? Anything with beans or milk? If so, perhaps you should get her a better kind of dog food.. one that's more dry and doesn't have gassy foods in it!

Also, you could always run from the room when she farts, or plug her butt up with a cork!

- Nat

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I have this random weirdo talking to me right now. What should I do about it?

Hmmm.. am I THE RANDOM WEIRDO? Haha, just kidding.. but I know who you are! :P

Well, if the random weirdo won't leave you alone - annoy them, or harass them, or simply block them from your buddy list and be done with it!

- Nat

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