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Ok alot of people i know think that i'm not a virgin ( even my own family). I haven't had sex and so what i know alot about sex. and they think i've given oral too.which i have not.i tell them over and over again but thyey don't belive me. And ruemers are already goin around that i'm a ho. What can i do to make them belive me? (link)
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Nothing and plenty.
For starters, did you do or say anything to lead them to have so much faith in what they heard? If not, maybe you should ask them, jsut to get the air cleared. This could all be a result of a simple misunderstanding.
But if you never did or said anything that could have caused these accusations, then I would try to find the source of these rumors and confront the person.
Please remember that a real friend who knows and loves you would never repeat something like this. They would in fact reply with "I know soandso, and she would never do such a thing"
Good Luck!
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16/f--I have this friend whos mormon. She's really nice & everything, but she's always trying to get me to go to church with her. But the thing is, I'm a proud Christian. I love learning about new religions, cultures, lifestyles, etc. But going to church with her is something I don't really want to do. Also, I've talked to my mom about it, and she doesn't want me to go either. Part of my not wanting to go, is that I've talked with a few people who have gone to church with her (also friends of ours) and they've said that they take down your name, address, number and sometimes take your picture. And thats not something I feel comfortable with. My church on the other hand, won't do that. They'll treat you like a guest and they tell you, you aren't obligated to do anything. But for some reason, everyone has said that the mormons try to talk you into some things. And I'm not disagreeing and bashing on the mormon religion, but its not something I want to be a part of and I've pretty much kept my feelings to myself rather than spreading them or whatever. But I don't know what to tell my friend when she invites me places anymore. Usually I'll say "I'm doing something" or 'I can't wake up that early'. And I feel bad. And now, my other best friend just became mormon...so I'm not sure what to do. And I don't know if my friend's mom would want her to come to church with me, since she's really overprotective (I was thinking mabe we would both experience other churches, but it might be a bad idea). (link)
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Have you invited your friend to your church yet? A great way to compromise through this would be for you to invite her to your church (and for her to attend) first. This way, she'll have an idea of what your comfortable with.
Then, despite your reservations- go to her church with her! Remember- everything that your worried about is coming from someone elses mouth... not your own personal experience! If and when, they attempt to collect your personal information, you can politley refuse. Just tell the truth: "I'm sorry but I am not comfortable with giving out my personal information, but I thank you for a lovely time"
Good Luck!
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A week months back I was informed my friend gave someone else a hand-job. She's 14. I know, to some people this is normal, but we live in a nice small town where nothing like that ever really happens. Here it's different. I asked her if there was anymore and she 'swore on her music' I told her to never let him back in her house again because she claims he forced her into it. (She's in love with music, anything that has to deal with music). SO, naturally I believed her. Yesterday I found out new information. She had given a hand-job twice, a blow-job one, made out alot and let him feel her up. She never told me. She claims that she's scared, I would be too. I'm so mad about her not telling me. I'm her 'best friend'? Why don't I feel like it? (link)
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At 14, everything is confusing, and nothing is simple. Your friend probably knows the same thing you do about the small town bit and is afraid of being judged. So, forgive her for not telling you what you ended up hearing from someone else.
Next- you must speak to her about what you heard... you can't say for sure what's true and waht's "small town talk" anymore.
After you confront her (and do it lovingly and as a best friend) talk to an adult that you trust and respect. Your mother, a teacher or school counselor would be best. Tell him or her what's going on with your friend. Your friend may need some real intervetion here... there could be bigger problems that just the inappropriate acts she's been doing.
Good luck!
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I have two dogs, one by the name of symba... and one, by the name of Brownie, and i love both of them equally. Though, lately they have been extremly burdensome, especially each time they run away...poop or pee on thier bed or in the house and have to continously be groomed and get thier monthly shots (which are very expensive). So... every once and a while... my mother will suggest giving them away to one of her close friends, who would take equally good care of them since, (now that my brother has moved out to collage..) are sometimes left outside for the entire school day and only given walks once a week. the problem is, as stubern as it may seem, i love my dogs dearly and could never give them away. never. Am i being impossible... how can i show my mom that they are extremly special to me and i love them too much to give them away... (link)
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For starters, shame on you for allowing the sogs to be walked just once a week.. Do you know htere are countries where it is illegal to walk you dog LESS than 3 times a DAY!
This, along with being left alone all day, could be the reason your dogs are so misbehaved. They are not being treated fairly either!
I would suggest to you finding them a new home with people that can take care of them BUT since you love them, here is what you should do:
Walk them at least twice a day... one of those walks should be at least 45 minutes long so they can get thier excercise.
Concerning thier shots... why monthly? Is this under the care of a vet? If so, I would suggest screening other vets and asking them how they feel about monthly shots!
I don't know what you feed your dogs, but do some research on what you give them. It was once believed that human food was bad for pets, now we know otherwise. If possible, try feeding your dogs a combination of rice, ground beef, cottage cheese, scrambled eggs... even some fresh vegetables. You can find plenty of recipes of food for dogs that will make you dogs really feel like you love them!
Good Luck!
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