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ok, i "used" to be a cutter, please dont go on telling me how wrong it is.. i know and have heard it all before.. i have been cutting myself since i was 11-12 years old.. im 19 now.. and i have been really good lately with the whole cutting thing.. not doing it and having the will power to get over the feeling to do it.. but lately.. i feel so AAAHHHHH and just feel like i need to do it, i really dont want to.. i have been doing so well, and dont want to be that person anymore, but i just cant get it out of my head. i am fighting the urge to do it, and i just feel like i cant fight it anymore.. i dont know what to do.. most poeple dont know i do it, and those that know about it.. think im better.. so i really have no one i can go to.. without putting dissapointment on their faces.. i have no where to go, no one to turn to.. and i really want help, because i dont want to do it anymore.. but i dont know what to do.. everything is becoming a mess again in my life.. and i feel like i need it, and im afraid i cant fight the urge anymore..
and thoughts or ideas of how i can deal with this.. anything.. just any little thing you can think of? would be most gratey appreciated!!
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i've had friends go through this kind of situation. if you don't want to talk to a doctor or a counselor, then the best thing to do is write down how you feel. no one has to read it and no one has to know that you're harboring that. you should be proud of yourself for over-coming this so far, and you should be proud of yourself for not giving in.
a friend of mine would paint her nails every time she got the urge to do it, so that she would be forced to sit still while they dried and that would calm her down. another thing she'd do would be to bake something whenever she was feeling bad.
try to surround yourself with something that makes you feel happy and distracts you from it; take a walk, get out of the house, call someone. do something that keeps you busy.
if the urge to fall back into that pattern feels truly over-whelming, you really should talk to someone. you can call the suicide hotline, they can help you.
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i dont really get it. :p
like, do i count a certain amount of days after my period to tell?
cause on the internet it said about 11-16 days after you ended your period. (link)
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i'm pretty sure day 1 is the day you start your period, and day 4 is the day it stops. i'm sorry that's really all the help i can give you...
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can you please tell me how to figure out which days you're ovulating?
thanks! (link)
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if you have a regular 40 day cycle, you will begin ovulating on day 14, and you'll undergo menstruation from about day 1-4, give or take a day.
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ive tried asking him to give me a chance to talk things out. but he keeps saying "its not the time to". i dont know if this means that he completelty wants to forget about me or what.
it makes me so sad. and he is all i can think about now. i just want everything back to normal but i really dont know how to fix it (link)
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i'd give him a little space for a while, give him like two weeks before you try and talk to him again. if you see him make sure you smile and wave, just act cool and casual, like you feel fine but you still want to be friends. if you act friendly around him he'll eventually realize how much he misses you.
you may want to drop the subject all together, in about two weeks when you call him ask him how he's been, what he's been up to, ask him to go to a movie with you or something. try to make it right by letting the past go, i guess is what i'm trying to say.
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ok im having trouble shaving my vagaina. everytime i do it i end up bleeding from getting cut with the razor. i have no trouble going with the grain, but when i try to go the other way to make it extra smooth it gets cut and the next day it gets red and irritated and i think there are ingrown hairs. any advice? i want to be extra smooth and i dont want to wax either. (link)
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use your hand to hold the skin firmly so you're shaving a flat suface. notice that all the hairs don't grow in the same direction, so work accordingly. you should shave bottom to top, because that's the opposite direction the hair is growing. make sure you're using a clean razor and remember not to use the same razor more than 5 times. immediately after you shave put baby powder on it.
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Hey i just purchased the supplement Anadrox Pump and Burn and i was wondering if i shoudl take it with a meal or not or if anyone knows any place i can find information on it...because google sucks. (link)
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if you're going to take it once a day, take 4 with breakfast. if you're going to take it twice a day, take 4 with breakfast and 4 about an hour after lunch.
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well my mum noticed a lump on my chest when she was rubbing vopor-rub onto it, and decided that i should see a doctor. i went and he said it seems like a fracture, so i have an x-ray in 8days. i recently stopped smoking and was wondering if they will be able to see that i smoked (my mum will be there, dont want her to know). thanks:) (link)
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cigarettes, no most likely not, that kind of thing wouldn't neccearily show up on an x-ray, unless you were a ridiculous chain smoker and your lungs are all shriveled and black. even then, i'm not sure that would show up on an x-ray.
nicotine can stay in your system for a maximum of 30 days, depending on how regularly and how much you smoke.
marijuana, still probably not unless they make you do a piss test or a blood test, and again that all depends on how recently you quit. it can stay in your system for about two weeks, unless you smoke regularly, and then it can stay in your system for about 45-90 days.
excercise can help move things through your system quicker, as can certain detox kits and drinking a lot of water.
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Well i was suppost to start around the 12th or so , because Last month thats when i did . Me and my boyfriend had sex like a couple of days before i was suppost to start but i havent had my period yet , the condom didnt bust or anything . Could it just be a late period ? (link)
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it probably is just a late period. you can miss up to three in a row before you should really get worried. because you used a condom and you're sure it didn't break, then i wouldn't really worry about being pregnant yet if i were you. if you've been excersising a lot lately that can also make it come late.
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I was wondering, how old do you have to be to work at an animal testing facilitie?
And how can i locate a local one?(Huntsville alabama)
I'm not FOR animal testing I'm just wondering, (link)
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if you're looking to blow one up or to liberate the animals, talk to an A.L.F. (animal liberation front) member or a PETA (people for the ethical treatment of animals) member, they can probably help you out.
to work in one, you have to be a scientist with a degree in bio-chemistry or something of the like, so i'm guessing like a minimum of 22, 23.
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recently me and my good guy friend have stopped talking completly.
its only been 3 days, and it seems like a decade. i cant stop thinking about him. [we used to talk every single day for 4 years] so its normal to miss him right?
he has told me that he wants to be more than friends plenty of times, but i always tell him i want to stay friends. we have kissed before, but thats it. other than that we cuddled a lot. i feel really safe in his arms.
and now that we dont talk i feel like somethings missing.
i dont know what to do. i dont want to be the first one to call or text, bc this ended bc he wanted it to. he called it a "pointless friendship" and i dont really understand why.
since hes liked me the whole time we have known each other do you think he will be the first one to break and call me first? i cant stop thinking about him, and i wonder if hes thinking about me.
any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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since you obviously care a great deal about him, you shouldn't feel bad about calling first, and you should call. it's more personal.
it's obvious that he really cared about you too. he may have thought that you were leading him on by cuddling and kissing and not wanting to go out with him, though. his feelings were probably hurt, he might have felt used. regardless of whether or not this was your intention, that might be how it was recieved.
he probably is thinking about you, but right now he wants to get over you because he might feel like the relationship was one-sided. call him and tell him how you feel, ask him to explain how he feels. talk it out.
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Well my boyfriend lives in California and I live in Virginia but we always visit each other during breaks. So since we're both on breaks we can see each other. I want to satisfy him in every way possible. But it just seems like he ALWAYS wants to touch,kiss,and sex me. And thats alright if it was just a couple of times of day. But we on average have sex about 5 times a day. When we're in public, he'll just put his hands down my shirt or lifts up my skirt and feels on my butt. At first it turned me on but now its just kind of annoying. I know he does it because he's been missing the affection for all of those months. I don't know what I should say to let him know that i want us to be less physical. (link)
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i had the same problem with my boyfriend, he'd just randomly squeeze me like he couldn't help himself. you have to remember that guys are really simple creatures and they're not going to understand how you're feeling unless you're blunt and up front about it. that doesn't mean you have to be mean. sit down with him in private, hold his hands if you're worried about them wandering while you're talking and look directly into his eyes. have a firm tone of voice but try not to sounds angry. all you really want to do is tell him that you're a human being, not a toy.
tell him that you love him and want your relationship to be something more than just physical interaction. make him feel good about himself while you're talking to him, throw in what a nice, charming guy he is and how great he is in bed if you want to. say that he's a wonerful guy but the PDA is just a little too much.
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ok well my talent show is tomorrow and im singing this song called "your love is life to me" and my throat is bothering me! my boyfriend says its because of practicing but i dont know im scared because if i lose my voice i cant sing!! (link)
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Make sure you get plenty of sleep the night before the show. Try not to have any dairy or peanut products before you sing, and don't drink diet soda before you sing. Keep practising, but don't stress your voice. Just go over your song once or twice and find a range that's comfortable for you. I had to get up in front of 200 people for a solo in a production and I had a cold, so I know exactly what you're going through.
Break a leg! Or... good luck, rather.
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I'm 20 years old. Female. I've been with my man for about 4 months and I definately feel that I'm head over heels in love with him when it's just the two of us but when I'm around other guys I start thinking about dating other people. How come one minuet I feel like I could marry my love but then another minuet I think about wandering to other guys? (link)
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I can relate. It's just that feeling where you know there are a lot of special guys in your life. All it takes is some quick thinking. I was about to dump my boyfriend for another guy friend but then all you really have to do is think quickley "How will this affect me, how will this affect my guy, how will this affect the guy I think I might want to date." And then it all comes together. I know this might make very little sense, and I appoligize. I hope I helped somewhat.
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