Friends. Family. Other people who I dont know
I have posted this coulmn in order to give fantastic individuls like yourself a chance to ask me (ally sullivan) questions that you wanna know.
Feel free to ask anything at all.
Speak up. I'm all ears :)
Gender: Female
Occupation: Student
Age: 15
AIM: Smile4Ally
Yahoo: lillyboo2@yahoo.com
Member Since: November 24, 2004
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Last Update: December 8, 2004
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Ok i have this friend and they totally ditch me all the time and they don't see it. How should i make it more obvious that they do and it hurts. Also how should i handle it? (link)
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I think that its important that you share with your friends how you feel. If you tell them I hope that its really really obvious that it hurts you. Thats basically how to handel the situation, try not to lose you cool...and just like, explode all over the place, I'm sue they didnt mean to hurt you.
Dont be afraid to ask, they will understand.
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i reaalllly like this one guy. and he knows it. and today he gave me this website to look at something, and at the bottom he put his sn and was like "dont loose that" and then he wrote his sn n the website on my hand and said "just in case u loose the paper"
do u think he only wrote that website for an excuse to write his sn??? and does that mean he wants to tlk to me more than just in class now? bc thats only when i tlk to him. tell me what i should tlk about!! and by the way, hes taken. so was that a friendly way to give me his sn?? thnx! (link)
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He totally had the whole thing planned! I think hes intrested in you, guys are often intrested in more then one girl at a time. He wont be with his girl firend permenently, thats for sure, I think the you should talk about things like music, or what you like to do for fun. Music is my favorite, everyone likes music, and if you guys like the same kinds you will have alot to talk about.
I wish you luck!
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Hi Ally. You don't know me much..I'm Sam's friend from NY. Anyway this thing is really cool and here is my question----> I never thought about my close friend Ethan as more than a friend until all our friends starting saying how great we'd be together..and now I like him. We've got good chemistry and they're all schemeing behind my back to set us up (without my persmission btw lol)but I'm not sure what to do. He's a bit of a flirty guy in general so telling if he likes me or not is hard. And if he does like me...is it worth risking our friendship? (link)
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Wow, I cant tell you how many times that has happened to me, chaces are if ya'll date and things work out then your friendship will stay good. As long as you make sure to end on a good note, I mean if one of you dumps the other, it might be sorta weird. Its a really tough call, if you think that the you two would break up really fast and things would be ruined, then maybe you shouldnt ( I guess thats obvious) but if you are still friends with alot of ur ex's then I think you will probably be good to go, becuaseif you and him were really good friends I think that you will be able to over come a break up.
Go for it girl! Much luck!
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This girl I live next to, who I am incredibly attracted to, refuses to date anyone. She feels the risk isn't worth the reward. Its driving me crazy because all I do is think about her. Do I just give up and move on? Do I try to change her mind? What do I do?
~Thinking of You~ (link)
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Well, thats a tough question...in that stituation I guess I would just have to follow my heart...Not that I have one, but if I did, I would deffinetly let it determine what I was going to do.
I wish I could be more of a help
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dear smile4ally,
i have a realy anoying sister named alex.i was wondering if i should hit her over the head with a crow bar or my guitar???????????please give me some advice.
signed,
a foo (link)
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Daniel I hate you, stop sending me ludacris questions, no you can go fuck yourself thats what you can do:P
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okay ally so i have this ex...and we didnt go out for very long last year but i still liked him ALOT when we broke up....well i had just convinced my friends that he had changed and he hurt me again...he thinks i hate him bc all of my friends hate him for hurting me....i like him so much but he wont talk to me...what do i do i wanna get back together with him so bad...at the most random times he pops into my head and i miss him that much more.....
.x.o.HeArT bRoKeN bAbii.o.x. (link)
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You really need to talk to this guy about how you feel, It sounds like you really really want to be with him, and anyone who you want to be with you deserve to be with. Good freidns will always be slightly sceptical of who you date, but in time if you him, then your friends will like him too. They should be happy when you are. You should really tell him how you feel, I know it will be hard, and you probably dont want to do it, but take a deep breath. You dont have anything to lose, and speaking your mind is NEVER wrong.
Much love, good luck!
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Ally youre amazing! much love!
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Haha Thank you Mar Mar your Amazing too!
I love yoooou!
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ok...well heres my problem, im going out with this guy from your school and im still in love with my ex-b/f...my b/f and my ex are now friends which is kinda odd but me and my b/f keep getting in fights that are in relation to my ex...i sometimes find myself lying to my b/f and missing my ex...i still talk to my ex and were really close, ive known him for 2 years and we are like best friends...i could tell him anything, well my b/f doesnt like that too much and i REALLY dont wanna loose him but i still in love with my ex...i recently found myself hurting them both SO much and i dont know what to do...it seems like everytime i turn around im screwing over both relationships. The whole thing started when my ex cheated on me with my ex-best friend...so i was gonna get back at him with my ex ((my b/f mow)) but it ended up that i am now going out with him...im so confused on what to do...pLeAsE HeLp Me!?!
-LoSt AnD bRoKeN- (link)
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Well, If at any point you are in a realtionship that you dont want to be in..that realtionship is over already. A good way to find out if your in the right realtionship is to think really hard about it (and in the the words of Brigit Jones) if you can think of 3 good reasons why you shouldnt date one of theses guys, then you shouldnt date them. I know thats its hard to be in relationships as it is, your bound to be slighly confused from time to time, and wonder what it would be like if you were with someone else. But remember you cant have your cake and eat it too. You will have to pick, and as hard as that will be it will make you a strong person.
Picking will prevent the screwing over of the relationships, and hopefully the guys will respect you discion if not..they werent worth your time to begin with.
You can do it :)
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hi ally,
my best friend in the ENIRE world has be completly blowing me off for her boyfriend...i mean i have a boyfriend to but i would never never ever ditch her for him. mean i love him to death, but shes my girl...and i lvoe her way more..i cant belive she would abandon me like this...i need her now more then ever...what do i do? (link)
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Thats an awful thing for a best friend to do! No best friend I can think of would ever do that, so the way I see it thats no best friend at all...But on the other foot maybe she just doesnt know shes acting that way, you should talk to her about it. Its worth a try.
Be strong.
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HEY ALLY! whats going on?! i love this column, its such a good idea! you do give the best advice!!! I LOVE YA GIRL! sorry i dont have a question but if i ever do i know who to ask!!! love*cat
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Hi Cat! Thank you! You know I'm always here for you! Love you too!
Your awsome!
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okay, i have this friend right? and shes like really close but sometimes, i just get annoyed and i wonder if shes getting annoyed with me because i act weird when im annoyed... anyway, so i don't know what to do about it or if there is anything to do about it... because i just want the friendship to be worry-free you know? so, is it me being paranoid over nothing or an i do something about it? (link)
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Well, its normal to get annoyed. If you guys are close, im sure she wont wont anything to get in the way of ya'll friendship. All and all I think you just need to relax a little, if you are doing all you can to make things work, then the rest if up to her...you cant control how she thinks so you might as well sit back and let the chips fell where they will.
Dont worry to much.
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How did you get so cuuute!? (link)
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Me?!...uh I dont think I'm that cute. But thank you! thats really nice, I try.
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but see ally, the funny thing is, i dont have a problem saying the N word or refering to anyone of a different race then i am by a mean and harmful term. i even tell jokes all the time (link)
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Well jokes are fine, you just have to be careful...and make sure people know that your just kidding. If its all in good fun then I'm sure people wont get hurt. More so if they seem to be upset by it, then applogize and tell them that you wont do it again. No harm. No foul.
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i am extremely rasist and say the most rasist words i can think of, one time i even said the N word to an aferican american friend of mine, he failed to hear me but idk what to do about my problem
-boy in need (link)
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Welllll I would say this is an easy problem to fix. First you stop saying rasist things, I realize this may be a challenge but heres what you do: You think before you speak, that SIGNIFICANTLY mimimizes the words you say, and helps you not to say the words you dont mean, or might be consider offensive. Further more...I doubt you are extreamly rasist, becuase if you were you wouldnt mind saying words like the 'N' word.
Just becareful.
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well ally, i have this friend who lives way far away and we actually i have never met her and i love her tons and tons. i want to know how i can see her sooner and more often
-joe (link)
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Well, I would highly recommened moving closer to this person. That usually works out pretty well.
As far as seeing her sooner, thats something that you will have to take up with her. I'm sure she just as anxious to see you. If you love her so much, i would highly recommend marrying her.
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Hey Ally whats up, anyways
I like this girl a lot one of your friends acually
she likes talking to me and we talk almost everyday but then she got a boyfriend, and i hit my head against the wall that day
we still talk and stuff but she really likes this new guys and i dont know what to do
at least i know, and hopefully she knows that i'm willing to stick around
Thanks
~The Unlucky Guy (link)
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Well, my friends are all awsome people. I'm sure if she knew that you liked her things would be diffrent. I know that my friend wont be with her boyfriend forever...and since you and her seem to be close, I think that she would love to date you.
Dont give up.
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Ok wel there is this guy i really like and he has this really ugly gf but he is like in love with her and not me and i like him so freaken much! what should i do
-confussed- (link)
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Dear confussed,
its always really hard when a guy you like has a girlfriend already. But remember that he wont be dating her forever...especially if shes that ugly, I would like to say that she has OTHER redeeming qualities, but to be perfectly honest, I dont know. Keep your chin up. Try to make yourself a little less avaliable, guys always want what they cant have.
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Omg ally i think you are so hot bu you are always talking abt some kid matt and i REALLY like you please wont u realize it!
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Haha thank you, thats really nice. I'll try to be less dense. Its a serious problem that Im struggling with.
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ok sooo cool coulmn (link)
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hey thanks!
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