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ok so my friend found out i have a secret and she doesnt know what it is (we are both girls and i have a crush on her but i dont want her 2 know) so to try and get it out of me, she was pulling my hair and twisting my arm and then she said "next is the nipple teaser" what does the word nipple teaser mean in that context? (link)
I think she meant a "nipple twister". This means she'd literally twist your nipples lol it doesn't feel too good.


Alright. So I'm a 16/F and this is what happened. My boyfriend and I were at a party the other night and we ran into trouble. There was this one other guy there (we'll call him J) and so J, me, and this other girl were just chilling on the couch while my boyfriend was off playing pool or something. So J takes my hand and starts leading me away from the couch and I'm just kind of like okayyy... because I mean, I didn't really know this kid too well but I was just like whatever, he probably just wants to get some food or something. Well he starts taking me back towards this room and I stop outside the door and I'm like "What are you doing?" and J says, "Come in here with me." I started babling like an idiot "What? No, my boyfriend- I- huh?- why?" and he leaned in real close, put his hand on like the small of my back (because I was trying to back away) and whispered "It'll be fun just come on." Weeeell, as you can guess, this looks a little shady. I mean, this guy is still holding my hand, he's whispering in my ear, got his hand on my back, and we're standing in the doorway of a dark room. Which is GREAT timing for my boyfriend to look over and see us. So my bf storms over and he's like "What the he** are you doing?" And I had already pulled away from J but J shoves me behind him and is all like "What's your problem, dude? I'm a little busy right now." Ha, yeah, let's just say that REALLLY pissed my bf off. He gets all up J's face and says "Yeah, with MY girlfriend. Now get the f*$@ away." Well, I myself would walk away right about now, but J's got the doorway blocked so I'm kind of just standing there like a worthless bag of poo, trying to get out when, oh goody, J makes it worse and said something like "Well your girlfriend is obviously a slu* if she was about to come in her with me" and before I could say "I wasn't going in there with you!!", my bf punched J in the face. They start getting into it right there, and a few other guys pull em off of eachother. They both got a little beat up, and the girl throwing the party got all pissed and was like "Get out of here!" So yeah. We got kicked out of the party... I felt HORRIBLE. I mean, like, I just felt so bad. I know I wasn't the one getting into the fight, but I just felt really guilty. Not for getting kicked out of the party but because my bf had like a blackeye and gosh, I just feel horrible, I feel like its all my fault. I mean, like jeez. I apologized like a million times to him, and his parents because they were all "What happened!?!" and ugh. I just feel so bad. My bf says its no big deal and he doesn't get why I feel so guilty but he got hurt and I feel like its my fault. What can I do to make it up to him? Am I being stupid for feeling like this? (link)
well, you might not wanna hear this but you should feel bad.
you handled the situation wrong and let things go too far, but it also sounds like everything just got kind of out of control. if your boyfriend didn't come in and see you with "J" none of this probably would of happened...as long as you didn't do anything with J...


well anyway don't let what happened get to you too much, its over now...in the past. something about guys is they get over a lot of things quickly. he might of felt angry, fustrated, and embarrassed at first but now he probably doesn't care in the slightest. just don't talk about it, maybe do something with him later like go to the mall or on a date to a movie or something and just be nice to him, it'll all be fine later, everything will dissapear over time. if he says he's okay with what happened then he is

hope i helped


16/m
hi guys.

so.... i'm very attracted to women. i date a lot of girls and with what i've heard i'm a pretty likable guy (i.e. girls like me). but lately i've found myself to be attracted to guys too... and the thought of getting sexual with a man seems to arouse me just as much as getting sexual with a woman...

so, am i bi/metro/whatever.... or do you think it's just a phase? to be honest, i feel like i'd be ok with being bi. i'm no homophobe; in fact i have quite a few gay friends. but i don't know if i for sure am bi though.... but if i am i don't know how i would tell anyone. i'd feel really scared to tell anyone i think (i go to an all-male catholic school)... and god knows what my girlfriend would think...


thanks guys. i really appreciate all you do on this site. (link)
eh, you might just be curious. it's really common for people to question their sexuality sometime during their life, especially when their teenagers. and what this one person said(i was looking at what other people had said)that if your comfortable with the thought of being bi and liking guys and having sex or whatever with them then yeah your bi. but i think you should kinda think hard if you would really be fine with dating a guy, because this could kinda be a phase, but it could also be true. just believe what you think is right.

and as for telling people, if you feel like telling your family and a few close friends just tell them. i know this probably isn't an expected response and seems untrue but your family will still love you, things might be awequard for a while but it will end eventually. i know this because I'm Bi and one of my old best friends was gay and his parents were like homo phobics, and even though his dad made fun of him sorta at times they still basically excepted it. lol and as for this male catholic school...i really wouldn't be extremely open about it, thats probably not a real smart choice.

just do you what you feel is right, if your think your bi and your fine with it...then your bi. its not a crime.




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