Member Since: December 17, 2012
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Last Update: December 17, 2012
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I was molested when I was between 6-8 years old. It's funny in a sick way because I can't even remember how old I actually way, I can't remember the names of the two boys, I can hardly even remember the sex. I remember the fear so vividly that my heart's racing as Im'm typing this. It's also funny because a decade passed where I didn't feel anything about what happened. I never cried about it, talked about it, I barely entertained the thought of it, not because it was painful but because it was like an errant thought. It was like losing your tooth, just a part of life. I actually feel immensely stupid now when I think of all the effects of that incident that I never recognized to have been caused by that. Until a couple days ago, I never even associated the word 'molested,' with what happened. It was just a thing. Recently, this scrawny, awkward, pathetic boy decided to 'stalk,' me. I could've broken him in two if I wanted, but he scared the life out of me and I didn't understand why. The next day I found myself on the bathroom floor crying like I'd never thought I would over something that seemed so unimportant. I wanted to cut myself and I wanted to bleed and feel pain like I'd never felt it before- that was the first time in months I ever got the urge to cut. I wanted every vice I could lay my hands on to drown myself in the ridiculious nature of my problems. I never realized that my molestation was the reason I'd be afraid of a room of men, or that I was afraid when my boyfriend (at the time) tried to hold on to me or kiss me aggresively, that I hated intimacy with people of any sort, that I hated any man who'd disrespect my body in any way. It's like someone telling you that you were asleep for 10 years and you've been woken up to a world u don't want to be in. I've been through hell and back...but molestation....can that, something I barely remember yet so vividly feel, could have really been controlling my life for so long? It hurts me in the pit of my stomach and at the back of my throat when I think about it, and now I have to deal with this thing that I've let control me for so long. I cud've dealt with it if it happened recently, but a decade ago..I don't know where to begin. I feel stupid and helpless and I don't even know what i'm trying to ask. (link)
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Not an answer. I just wanted to say that I had the same epiphany you had . Strangely I also had the exact same experience you had (knowing but not realizing). This isnt a joke but I just really need help dealing with this situation right now. I just would want to know how you have dealt with this and if there have been any changes in your life since dealing with this such as less stress more trust in men, etc? It would be more than helpful if you helped
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