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the first time you gave me advice i thought it was really good but everyone who answered gave me a different opinion. my friend has been trying to kill herself but hasnt been successful. im trying to stop her but she just wont quit. shes convinced her life is so horrible and she needs to end it. im worried b/c any day now it could happen. we could find her dead and no one wants that. shes a really loyal friend. shes nice to you if your nice to her and she stands up for anyone thats right. she has a wonderful boyfriend that doesnt care what she looks like or what people say about her. he just loves her for her. if i could have what she has i'd be close to being in a dream. she doesnt see it that way. shes gonna kill herself and unless i tell someone it'll happen soon. im VERY worried!!! i still dont know what to do. also.. she passed out today because she cut deep and then blacked out. shes ok now but im worried about next time! plz plz help! (link)
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HI
Yes I am worried now 2. I know its soo hard to tell anyone because you want to maintain you friends trust (and I really respect that) but there comes a point wen you do need to seek help b4 its too late. It sounds to me like the time has come.
Is there anyone you can think of who you could tell, that might be able to help your friend?
BTW I know this might sound weird but just can you share this with your friend:
Tell her to keep hoping in eternal life & find out the purpose of her life. Even wen she doesnt know it I'm sure theres always someone thinking of her that cares.
I really think I could can help you and your friend if you will let me. If you keep talking to me...I will share my heart with you...and I really believe this will help you and your friend. Well I hope so.
Love alwayz,
Mady
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my friend has been cutting her wrist now for a few months. im so worried about her and she wont stop. she is definitly going to kill herself if she doesnt get stopped. i cant tell on her because i trusted her not to tell on me when i used to cut but now its totally different. i see how it is when your friends life is resting on your hands. i want to tell but i dont even know who to tell. PLEASE HELP.. IM BEGGING YOU!
xoxo -concerned friend- xoxo (link)
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HI :-)
You seem like a good friend & I think you are in a position to help your friend lots because you used to cut and can understand your friends feelings.
Sometimes it is tough to know whether you should tell someone (if you did tell someone your school councillor or a youth leader would be the person to tell). Just remember self harm is different to sucide . It is still of concern though.
In my opinion if your friend is cutting but not sucidal you should not tell anyone because TRUST in a friendship is very important. However if your friend is seriously sucicidal there comes a point when you do need professional help & in this case, your friends life is of more value than keeping this a secret.
Maybe you can share with your friend how you were able to stop cutting. I think this will help alot.
I think the main thing you should do is just let your friend know that you are alwayz there for her.
Best wishes with deciding on what to do. Follow your heart.
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okay my friend susan started cutting herself whenever she gets confused sad or mad.i mean our friend lisa goes to theropy for it so i wood think susan wood know better. but she does it more now than she used to. i mean its not deep thank god but i mean its still bad. i told her i wodont get mad at her if she came out and told me she was about to do it so i codo help her. cas i got mad at lisa n seh stoped comign to me for advice and i dont want that to happen to one of my closer friends. i told her whenever she thinks about doing it to call me and id always be there for her. i dont wanan tell anyone cas shell get mad at me. n if it gets worse i think im gunna tell someone cas teachers hav been noticeing how depressed she is. is there anything else i can or should do?
xo briana .. i rate =) (link)
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Hey :-)
Well you sound like you are a really good friend and that you really do care.
I think you are doing the right thing in telling her just to call you whenever she feels like doing it. Sometimes there is nothing you can say to make a friend feel better. Its just knowing you care that makes the difference.
There isnt any point in getting mad at her though. It is not your friends fault she feels this way.
Just keep showing her you care.
luv,
Mady
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I guess the subject line says it all. I constantly flip-flop between Christianity, Atheism and Buddhism. I like a little of all, and I can't seem to choose one faith. I always change my mind. Is there something wrong with me? Am I flaky? It's just that a faith is an important choice, and I'm afraid to make the wrong one.
I like all three, but I know I have to pick one.
What should I do? (link)
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Hi there. You are asking a very good question...
You are still in the process of deciding so that is why you are probably feeling 'flaky'. I think that when you find the 'religon' you want to follow that you will know in your heart it is and this feeling will go away. The only way though to find the 'religon' you want to follow is to find which one is the truth.
You are very smart to be afraid of picking the wrong one. Because there is only one way to heaven. This is what I believe.
Other people I know, would strongly disagree with this or maybe believe 'religon' is an irrelevant factor for them. Well if other people are right and I am wrong...so be it. I have still lost nothing and will still go to heaven. But if I am right and they are wrong...they are in trouble. Because we are talking about where you will be forever and ever and ever after you die.
All I can say is that if you come to know God/ become a Christian (all this means is asking him to forgive you for the wrong things you've done, believing that he died to save you from the wrong things you and everybody does and that he rose again...asking him to come into your heart...and telling him you want to live your life for him)once you do this i can assure you that you will have a feeling of peace and new found puropose in your life. Afterall...havent you ever wondered what the point of life is?
Buy the way...did you know that Christianity is the only religon that has a God who died for them and is still alive today?
There is nothing you can do to earn your way into heaven because God is soo perfect nothin anyone one could do would ever be good enough. All you have to do is turnaround from your ways, believe in God and go his way! You are saved by believing in GOD!
Well hope I've helped. Don't mean to sound too 'preachy' its just that I know THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT DECISON AND YOU WOULDN'T WANT TO GET IT WRONG!
well. best wishes
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