Member Since: January 8, 2011
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I'm a sophomore in college. I dorm. I'm unhappy.
I'm just in such a rut. I'm unhappy. Let me just say that my freshman year was awesome. I had a blast. I had a great roommate and the people that lived on my floor all hung out, even though we tended to do our own thing. My suitemates and I didn't really love going out that much, everyone on our floor usually just hung out and drank in someones room. By 2nd semester I was getting sick of this. I wanted to get out and meet more people. People always made comments about how we didn't go out. I didn't really care.
Now it's my sophomore year. I barely see the people from our floor from last year, everyone lives in different places.. I only have my roommate. The building we're in, nobody talks. Everybody has their own group of friends and nobody makes an effort. I'm miserable. I seriously have no friends. I'm not used to this. I've always had no problem making friends in high school. It's really cutting into my self esteem. I feel like shit. I joined a sport this semester because I thought it'd help and I'd definitely make friends. Nope. The girls are so cliquey. They all were best friends from last year/live with eachother/go out together. I tried but it's just awkward, i feel like I'm being fake. i know they don't give a shit if I come to practice or not. I'm not used to this at all. I feel worthless. Mind you, I go to a huge school. Our class size is 300+ lecture halls. I see new people everyday, and everyone is always on their own schedule not trying to make friends while sitting in class. I have no friends.
And I feel like my roommate holds me back. She hates going out. We both make jokes all the time about how we're our only friends. I'm sick of it. I need more friends. I have so many acquaintances but not a set group of friends. At home, I'm used to having my group of friends that are willing to have complete fun, be myself around, and hang out together whenever. I love my roommate but being with the same person literally every hour of the day, and no one else, get's lonely and boring.
And additionally I don't even know what my major is yet. I want to transfer schools. I'm afraid to start ALL OVER as a junior though. I feel like the whole meeting friends thing will be even harder. It just sucks because as a sophomore everyone already has their set group of friends. I'm just so lonely and I don't know what to do. It really makes me want to drop out of college, not knowing what I'm doing with my life and hating my school.
I don't know, I just need an opinion from someone. I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for, but it's really just all cutting into my self esteem. I've tried, and it's just making me feel like I'm incapable of making friends/meeting people. (link)
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i'm in a similar position (sophomore, pretty much friendless). long story short, this was not my 1st choice school, i was placed in a dorm w/ ppl i had little to nothing in common w/, and was extremely depressed first quarter. made good friends w 3 of my hallmates by the end of the year but the 2 that i was closest to ended up not coming back this year, leaving me w/ one friend who has a bf and is part of his social circle now. i kinda want to transfer, but for the same reasons you have, i'm reluctant. The ONLY way i've kept myself sane this year is by distracting myself: being busy, getting a job, and focusing on the few friends that i have here and keeping in touch w/ friends from home.
For your situation, i think the best thing would be to get a job. at the very least, you'll make money and get out of your room. most likely, you'll make friends w/ a few of your coworkers as well (i have). Another thing-if something sounds interesting, DO IT. take PE classes, join a club or sport, or even just start going to the gym or running. i joined this yoga class and have come to really love it! i've even met a couple people through it. when you join an activity like that, you automatically already have something in common w/ the other people there and you'll see them regularly. Consider studying abroad, also. It'll give you a complete change of scenery, force you to put yourself out there, and would likely be a great experience all-around. Whatever you do, try to seem happy and be friendly, people are drawn to that. hope things get better :)
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