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13/f
ok so my ffriend (who is also 13/f) liked this guy. i was kinda friends with him so i asked her if she wanted me to tell him. she said yea so i told him. he didnt like her so i had to tell her that. she didnt seem upset AT ALL. and she really liked this guy. so i was kinda wondering y it seemed like she didnt care.
DO NOT TELL ME REASONS Y IT SEEMED LIKE THAT. THAT IS NOT MY QUESTION.
ok so like 3 or 4 nnights ago i found out y it didnt bother her. she had something much bigger on her mind. she had sex with a 19 year old. yes i know he could be charged for stagitory rape. thats y im not saying any names. well not only did she have sex with a 19 year old but now she is 2 months pergnant. she is letting this guy
(who lives in new jersey and we r in pennsylvania)
take her to get an abortion. i am againts abortion but it is really her only option. her parents do not know and she is not going to tell them.
do not say she is a slut or a whore because she is not. she is one of the most responsible people i know. she just made a mistake. we all make mistakes...her might be just a little more urgent and idiotic.
so anyway i am really worried about her. what can i do to calm myself down? (link)
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Wow, what a tough problem! Thanks for sharing. I know this isn't an easy answer, but I think you need to get your friend to talk to her parents. Abortion is a life-altering event, no matter what age the girl is. Ever wonder why there are so many support groups for women who have had abortions? It's becuase it is so hard to live with the decision later. If you cannot get your friend to talk to her parents, then I hope you can talk to your parents about it and ask them to help you with the situtation. I'm not sure, but I don't think a 13-yr old can get an abortion without a parent's consent anyway. So if the guy takes her to NJ for an abortion, they would have to lie or have fake IDs or something. Plus, the risk to your friend - out of state with some guy having a surgical procedure. What if something went wrong? You would never forgive yourself if you said nothing and something happened to her. Be her friend and support her, she probably needs a shoulder to cry on, and lean on. But try to make her see that going off in a car with some guy to another state is VERY DANGEROUS, and having an abortion is also a risk to her health, and certainly to her mental state from then on. I think this is a time when some adult help is needed. If she is afraid to tell her parents, maybe your parents can help. If you are afraid to tell your parents, can you get advice from your pastor at church or another adult you trust? Keep me posted and let me know how it turns out. Best of luck, sweetie!
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