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Q: This guy I know is really cute and i know he thinks I am too, but he won't initiatate conversation at all, except maybe hi or to ask what was the homework was. I have tried to talk to him but everytime I get near him I act like a total wuss. AND he is always near his friends and they don't like me. I've tried notes and phone calls (which he answers), but everytime we get to the subject of going out, he always hangs up.!!!! I just don't understand him. What should I do?????????!--------michelle

You know you both do share something in common. You are both introverted. Meaning your both quiet. Since your most determined to win him over, you should keep finding techinques to get him to go out with you.

Q: lately i've been thinking about suicide. I cry every night and im always sad. i keep trying to find things to make me happy. But nothing works anymore. i feel like theirs nothing really to live for. nobody loves me. and I don't think anyone ever will. im just unlovable. I want to be happy so bad. please just tell me what could make me happyy. or why I should live. i just need something, anything. I don't want to die but I don't want to feel this pain anymore. i just can't do it

You need to calm down and take a deep breath. Instead of laying around worrying about your life. Take a walk or a jog. Studies show that if you exercise then that will relive stress and you can live your life better,and try not to worry about your love life right now, because if you sit around worrying about stuff like that then it will for sure get you farther into depression. Look if you take my advice great, but if you don't then here is my email owentowe@yahoo.com and we can discuss more in detail about your depression.

Q: I've been dating a guy since 2005 who has never been employed. I, too am unemployed but I'm unable to work an am on disability. I have 3 boys and this person is very kind and giving to them and me as well. We have out ups and owns but he is a good guy. He lives with his parents and two siblings and he runs errands for them, takes them to dr's appt etc and where this is quite commendable he is 37 and we cannot be a family when his family is so dependent on him. He has promised me countless times that he will find work and this is before the recession. He went to a 3 day security training program several months ago an every time I ask if he has received his background check info he says no and when I tell him this is taking quite some time and that he should follow up it seems as if he never has. He does not have a car anymore, his license is suspended for tickets and unless I'm giving him motivational talks it seems he has no real desire to achieve anything and it is like he almost becomes irritated when ever I question him about his efforts and I RARELY ask. I'm tired of waiting for things to improve. I have a house, car, valid and current license and I take care of my family and I feel that if I can manage all of this then why can't an able bodied man that does not have any children accomplish something? I care about him and he has character traits that I do not care for and I'm sure I irritate him as well but this is really wearing on me emotionally and physically.

You shouldn't waste your time worrying about him. If he doesn't want to change then don't waste your time trying to change him. Cause that's all your doing.

Q: I am planning on having a garage sale with one of my friends this upcoming weekend, I guess you could say we are a little late on the 'spring cleaning' concept. Anyway, I was just wondering if you have had garage sales and which items were your biggest hits? I have a ton of great quality clothes, a lot of modern decoratives (for bathroom & kitchen), guitar hero 3 w/ controller, an xbox, a couple of comforter sets, endless amounts of throw pillows, a couple of football jerseys that have never been worn (tags still on), decorative candles, just miscellaneous items, and the list goes on.

A lot of my friends and family who have done this in the past said that furniture sells the best and I have a few pieces that I know are great and would sell quickly. However, I was just wondering what items do most people look for and would sell for the most money. I'm really hoping to do well for extra money for college and I'll do the best I can. I also heard that it's a good idea to sell snacks, drinks, and even some people barbecue? I don't think I would go as far as cooking hot dogs, but I'm sure I could bake some cookies and put out some cups of water or lemonade for 50 cents a piece - just for the extra cash.

Any past experiences or suggestions are welcome and thanks in advance to all of you who answer.

Probally the thing that might sell the most is the xbox and gutair hero because the games usally are the first to go depending on how you advertise. If you advertise in the paper then put as the first thing xbox w/ 3 controllers for sale and gutair hero also for sale

Q: Ok I was at a party and I was kind of fliritng with this girl. We were both sober. Later that night we sat next to each other on the couch and she let me put my arm around her. Then the two of us made out in the rain. When I left the party I texted her later that day and asked what her favorite part of the party was. She replied it was meeting me. Is there more to this or is this just like a party hookup kinda.

Well depends on who the girl is because you meet all kinda girls, but sometimes they wont call you or you want ever hear about them.

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