Member Since: May 26, 2011
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Ever found out something about someone you love and it crushes you but you can't confront them bec you were snooping and had no right to be in there business in the first place... What would you do? Note... My husband says that be had nothing to hide and that I'm allowed to look... I just never did it bec something about going thru another persons stuff seemed wrong... Then few stated acting different.... So I looked... Its not that he's cheated yet.... At least as far as I can tell but its like he's standing in the door way... Telling other women that he loves them... That he's tired of Missing them.. And that if their near by to call so they can "make out" because they are so sexy... Or they have a nice ass. That he is "so serious." Should I confront him? Or am I thinking too much into this...? Would he actually do the things that he's typing to people and messaging to women or is he just joking.... Help me please... :'( (We've been together for 3 years and married for one. Recently had a baby girl but this has been going on for a long time... according to the time stamps. Everyday he his super attentive and affectionate... I would have never guessed that this is what he sends to women and what is really thinking. Ive tried hinting at situations that are similar but he just says that he would never do that to me. So confused!) (link)
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You may call it snooping - but then again you may call it 'covering your bases'. Marriage may mean different things to different people, but if you married based on the premise "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine - we are 'one'" then there are No Secrets From One Another. None! If you've uncovered evidence that your spouse is keeping secrets then that's strike one. Don't wait for strike two, confront him with the evidence now. Do you feel as if you'd be in physical danger if you confronted him? If so then find an arbitrator - such as a counselor - to mediate.
You should know, too, that super attentiveness and affection can mean that he's already crossed the line.
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I met a guy at work and the first day I met him he started teasing me in a playful way making laugh. I found it kinda weird someone who didn't know me that well but felt so comfortable teasing me right away. He said he likes teasing me but he don't know why. Now whenever we see each other he bothers me and does stuff to make me laugh. He puts his headphones in my ears and plays songs for me on his ipod and sings funny and dances funny to make me laugh. One time he saw me talk to another guy and pretended to act like he was jealous and kept interrupting the conversation. The other guy looked at him like he was crazy. I never met someone who that got so comfortable around me so fast before. I think he likes me but he hasn't said anything. What could it be? (link)
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If I were you I'd be wary. This sounds like passive aggressive behavior. That could mean he's really interested in you but to shy to actually say so, or it could mean that he's hiding a desire to do you harm. It's very natural for a guy to try to grab a lady's attention, but acting as you describe in a work environment seems to be totally improper and immature. The fact that he's touching you makes me believe that 'shy' is not the answer.
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