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I was in the poultry department today and the nice looking guy behind the counter asked me what was I cooking, I said fried fish, spaghetti, mac n cheese and peach cobbler and he said oh that sounds good, and he said ill bring the wine...I just lol....was he making a move and my silly but was too silly to see that.... (link)
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It seems to me that this guy was very charming and that he was just being friendly to his customers. While it's hard to say if this one encounter was something more, if you fancy him try going to the poultry department again and see if he strikes a conversation with you again. Only time will tell and I hope everything works out for you in your favour!
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Should i break off my marraige of 7 years
My husband has a gambling problem and we are aleays broke
I met another man 2 months ago i love him but he is living with his sistet
I dont know if he loves me of is just looking for a place to stay
Im confused
Please help (link)
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Wow that must be very difficult for you and I can't imagine how confusing this must be. Was your husband a gambler before you got married? Does your husband work and contribute to the bills and house chores? Have you expressed your concerns to your husband about his gambling addiction? Despite his gambling, is he still a loving husband to you or does he ignore you? Often enough it's hard to change someone when they're so dead set in their own ways and aren't willing to change. But open and honest communication is always the first step into any kind of relationship. You mentioned how you met another guy and that you love him. Has this new guy said he loved you back? Are you willing to get into another relationship where this guy will maybe be living off of you? At times when we're in a rut we tend to look for the next new thing because it's exciting. And in your case you found new love. Is this something you're willing to pursue? Do you still love your husband? Are you really checked out of this 7 year relationship and want nothing to do with your husband. Or is this a replacement? The context of your question was very vague and so to get through this confusion, you need to ask yourself all of this and reflect on this situation carefully. While I cannot make this decision for you, I hope that my answer shed light to your dilemma. I hope everything works out for you in the end!
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6 years ago I was in a relationship with a girl(I was 16-17 and she was 15-16). We had our ups and downs, but our relationship was what I would call emotionally intense and turbulent at times. I have never loved someone, and am extremely certain will never love someone the way I loved her. Its to the point where I
She moved away, and long distance didn't work out, so we took a "break". Since then we have occasionally talked, but its very hard to not get extremely jealous when she subtly brings up boyfriends or whatever, so we usually stop talking after drama builds up between us.
She called me yesterday after not speaking for 3 years. She is 20 now and goes to Harvard University, and has an overall great and successful life. I however, am 22 and go to community college. Needless to say our lives took us down different paths. But even after all this time, and having multiple girlfriends since, I still have intense feelings for her, despite me trying to forget and move on from her, sometimes in destructive ways. Its been 6 years since we were together and still somehow nothing has changed. I could be 43 and married with kids and she would still be there in the back of my mind.
My question, especially to the girls out there, is why would you call an ex boyfriend after so many years? We talked awkwardly for a bit and caught up and she said that she wanted to mail me a book she got signed for me 4 years ago since she was cleaning out her apartment. Is it really that simple? She has never been open about her feelings, and takes every chance she can get to misdirect you from her true intentions. And yet still every few years she calls me. What are all the different reasons a girl would do that?
I have always felt that I loved her more than she could ever loved me, so I know I am prone to be overly hopeful. But maybe I'm completely wrong and she has loved me all along, and has had just as much difficulty over the years letting go of me. Or maybe she really is just sending me a book and I'm reading into it too much, pun intended. (link)
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Hey!
I was kind of in that same boat like you too. I was sorta seeing someone, and although we weren't official, we were "seeing each other" and it lasted for about a year. We had our ups and downs like any other relationship as well has hurdles that were probably part of the reason why we never were official, but nevertheless the feelings and emotions that you had when you were with someone moulds you into the person you are today. Granted I always felt like I loved him more then he loved me, so when we finally reached our end point where we realized it wasn't going to work, we ended whatever was going on with each other and decided to be friends. Of course I was really furious, and hurt so eventually we just stopped talking to each other completely. Although I tried to move on and met really other great guys, I knew deep down that he was always in the back of my mind..maybe it was because we ended it pretty badly or the fact that I never got closure.. But whatever it was I knew that I still had feelings buried beneath my heart. One day after a year and a half later of not talking to each other I was feeling hopeful after he had said happy birthday to me on Facebook and called me by my nickname that he used to call me. I know it sounds ridiculous but that gave me hope and so I contacted him after all that time because I missed him. Point of the story is, at least from my perspective, is that when you haven't talked to someone for a very long time, you tend to wonder how they're doing, what they're up to and if anything is new about them since then. You definitely think a lot especially if you ended things badly or if things prevented you from being together. When you remove someone that once played an important role in your life, you will definitely miss them. Now everyone is different, your story, her story and my story are all different. Whatever her intentions are with the whole book situation and her feelings, I'm not too sure about that. You'll have to take that up with dragonflymagic's advice and ask her yourself. But my guess is that she probably still misses you, whether as a friend or lover. And she probably still wants you in her life judging by how she keeps calling every few years. That is just my hunch, and I could be wrong. The only way to clear this up is to talk to her about it and get a difinitive answer.
Although my advice and opinion were not as in depth and as great as dragonflymagic, I still wanted to share my thoughts and experience since it was sort of almost like your situation.
Hope that helps
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